Should I be mad or ashamed of my mother getting drunk?

yo I was just at a friends house having a good time and the adults were downstairs drinking and my mom got to the point were I carried her to the car and drover her home... what the f*ck... shes not a alcoholic caz this is the first time but I kinda...

feel stupid and my friends are like ...
what the f*ck should I be mad or ashamed I don't know

just think of it as she made a mistake. You helped her, now its finished. But, you might want to ask her what happened. And tell your friends to shut their mouths.

Neither, it was a one time thing.
Aslong as it doesn't happen regularly.
I don't think you should be too bothered about it.
She just got a little carried away.
Everyone drinks a little too much every now and again.

my firends really dont care I mean shes known them since we were 5 but im pissed that she accuses me of drinking and smoking because she ddoesnt know me since she is always out with boyfriend's I dont drink unless its like a new years party and if I do its like min... I dont smoke caz that is weird but I don't know last week she accused me of being drunk infront of my friends parents with an open wine bottle in the front seat with her friends (n boyfriend) but really?

Everyone makes mistakes, and I would consider that one a mistake if she is not an alchoholic. But, if she continues to do this, then I would get a little angry with her. If she continues then I would talk to her about it. And if she is accusing you of doing some of those things, I would be pissed with her! If she accused you of being drunk in front of people, you should ask them. Then if they say no, tell your mom. If they say yes, then you can say whatthe f***!

lol ya she was lit too and called my dad (there divorced) and told him I was tanked... so I was like f**k this and now she wont admit it and ya we all make mistakes but I have gave plenty of mulligans to both of my parents over the last 2 years since they got divorced but now I've lost my patents with both of them and find my self holding myself back from flipping at them... I mean I try and get away and I have plenty of ways of releasing my stress like I ply golf and surf so I am a very chill person... put I have my limits
how can I let them know enough is enough

Don't mean to hijack the thread but I would be interensted to see how this goes, I'm in a similar position. Sort of.

what do you mean by this is the first time this has happened? Casual drinkers dont get drunk to the point of having to be carried out of somewhere. Do you mean its the first time you've seen her get so drunk someone had to carry her to the car? also in the other two posts you made you mentioned your mom drinking wine and the other one was about her being drunk. I dont want to accuse anyone of anything but, do you think that your mother could possibly be an alcoholic?
how much would you say she drinks on a regular basis?

she wasnt blasted she was able to walk to the car but like was everywhere in between and was announcing that I was the designated driver so I was embarrased caz of her... and she does go out with her friends and drink every thurs and friday so I don't know she was just really loud and I was pissed off caz 1 she was drunk 2 telling everyone that I drink when I go out (and I honestly do it only on special occasion) and no funadvice I don't think shes an alcoholic but I am concerned about her habits. like right now my aunt drove me home from the golf course caz she is still ""working"" at 7 pm weather its true or not I don't know caz shes lied to me before about were she is like she will say shes working but really out with some boyfriend that I haven't met or knew about yet...

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It really sounds like she may be an alcoholic. She could be one even if she is only drinking a couple of days per week.

Assuming that that's the case, don't get too angry with her. Alcoholism is a disease and is very hard for people to control. She needs to be talked into joining AA.

First of all - You have no business drinking. Due to the context of your question I checked your profile, 1992 - so your 16?

Second of all...
Your mother should be the one that feels ashamed of her behavior. I am a mother of two and my kids have NEVER seen me drink, and I do not drink to get drunk. I may have a glass of wine here and there, but never when my kids are present... its inappropriate and sends the wrong message.

I think you have the right to feeling upset about the situation, and the right to be embarassed, and perhaps this can be a lesson for you as to why drinking isn't as cool as you seem to think it is.

nik... I know I shouldn't drink a all but I do it like I said on occasions not to do it to be cool but I get ya.. plus I've never really realized what shes been doing when she goes out caz im usually sleeping when she comes home or she just goes to sleep when she gets in but she used to go out when my dad got home when I was younger (and they werent divorced) but never really looked at it like that I will try and talk to her with my sis and thx for teh advice (all) I appreciate it.