Why abortion and not adoption?

I see a lot of questions on here about unplanned pregnancies and all these people seem to be considering abortion but not very many mention adoption. There are so many married couples out there who cant have kids and would do anything to have a baby of...

their own.

Why does this seem invisible to so many people?

Adoption laws in this country are very difficult to navigate. The attorney's fees are very high and it takes YEARS to receive approval to adopt.
I am adopted and it took my parents 5 years and thousands of dollars to adopt me.
For those that are against abortion (and for the record, EVERYONE is AGAINST abortion, no one thinks it is a wonderful thing. Just many, including me, believe in a woman's right to choose and that a fetus is not viable until a certain age) you should be FIGHTING for easier adoption laws. Why do you think most Americans who adopt are going to China, Africa, etc. Because it is EASIER to adopt from there.
Through the years I have asked many pro-lifers if they have adopted children themselves, none that I have spoken with have. I also ask what they are doing to make adoption in this country easier, the answer has been "nothing".

It is not JUST about giving birth to these babies, it is about clothing, educating, and caring for them once they are here.
I believe that the PRO-LIFE groups would receive MUCH more support if they were also petitioning the courts for more lax adoption laws and better childcare, education and healthcare for the babies they insist must be born.

And to the young woman who stated "if I had sex & ended up pregnant I would keep the baby
its MY resposiblity I wouldnt consider adoption or abortion"

WHY wouldn't you consider adoption? Your baby would be raised in a home where it was loved and wanted. It is selfish to not consider adoption.

People are very ignorant I myself am completly aganist abortions

if I had sex & ended up pregnant I would keep the baby

its MY resposiblity I wouldnt consider adoption or abortion

but so many couples want 2 have babies & cant yet stupid teens are killing

babies EVERY SINGLE DAY!

People are just stupid & avoid the obioius

Also people want the easy way out

You have a wonderful point adoption is the way to go if you can't take care of it. What would jesus do? Jesus loves you all and I hope you find him.

maybe some people think abortion would just be easier,
or people think about the fact that there are so many children out there who are waiting to get adopted, but never do.
but that's kind of playing God, how would you know your child wouldn't suffer, but find a good family.

I totally agree abortion is wrong- and not for people who want an out for their irresponsibilty.
I do however believe ther are circumstances to everything, it'd be hard to carry a baby by someone who raped you.
it's a hard subject, so to each his own.

I agree!
if you don't want a kid but you were stupid enough to pregnant you shouldn't have to punish the kid

I wouldn't get rid of the baby if someone raped me! It's not the baby's fault!=] God Bless You!

hmm well I do agree with you..
but at the end of the day many people ar afraid of going threw with the pregnancy and the changes to there body and to many people abortion gets rid of the baby fast and so other people to find out
but if I ended up pregnant I would keep it.
as it is my responbilty and my mistake no mater what people say
sorry about the spelin mistakes
x

I don't know...that's a good question! There are so many teenagers that are too stupid to use protection while having sex, and are bringing a live human into the world that they can't take care of. Although adoption is better than killing a creature, I say it's not always in the best interest for the child...there are so many children that dream to be adopted and they may never be! What if the teenager's child was just stuck in an orphanage for 18 years? That wouldn't be worth it..even if the Teen mom made a dumb mistake. I know I will never have unprotected sex if I'm not planning on becoming a mom!

I think adoption is a much better option than abortion. So many couples suffer from infertility and would give anything for a child. There is a little Catholic chapel in the city I used to live in which has a notice addressed to all pregnant women who do not want to keep their babies, asking them not to terminate their pregnancies and that the church will pay for their medical care and find a suitable family for adoption.

Steph, I agree that if it can be done, then adoption is the way to go. And especially if the moral conviction of the mother is such that abortion is an absolute no-go.
I think that too many young teens have the image of themselves as a wonderful parents, and things will 'just work out', when they have no idea of the problems and stress and financial hardships and career de-railing and sleeplessness and stress (did I already say that. It bears repeating) and post partum depression that is ahead.
And they think that they are going to raise the perfect baby that will love them, when really babies are TOTALLY self-centered, demanding monsters that we raise because of an all consuming biological, evolutionary imperative that these little squalling things are - without a doubt - the most precious, wonderful things on the Earth.
It takes maturity to understand these conflicting emotions (and hopefully 2 parents so they can take turns, one can take over parenting while the other stresses out).
For those mothers that really aren’t prepared to be mothers, giving their baby up for adoption is the greatest gift they could give to their child. And truly a brave and courageous thing to do.
I truly salute you that do.

The only things I can think of as a deterrent to adoption:

- They'd have to carry the baby to term, meaning people would see their pregnancy. With an abortion, they can hide it forever.

- Carrying the baby to term and then having to see it and then give it up is something very emotionally difficult and draining for teens, some of whom just don't want to deal with that emotional baggage.

Those are the only 2 things I can personally think of...just playing Devil's advocate

Yeah, they don't want to go through the entire pregnancy. Or they don't want their friends or family to know. It could affect their current job, or career opportunities. Some women can have a phobia of pregnancy too.

Something along those lines.

I think it depends on the cercomstances of the pregncie
I mean if the person is very younge it colud be dagerous to have a baby !!
and some people think that it is to hard if they dont have a good home then have the baby and they want to keep it they would'nt be abl to rais it but then adopiton should at least an option tho!!! :D

if there was no possible way you could keep the baby and give it a decent life then adoption not abortion

***if there was no possible way you could keep the baby and give it a decent life then adoption not abortion ***

Some people don't want to be pregnant for 9 months, nor go through the pain of labor, the birth, etc...

Because the only thing harder than to have an abortion would be to adopt your child out to some other couple.

"but that's kind of playing God, how would you know your child wouldn't suffer, but find a good family."

and killing the child before birth isn't?

"Yeah, they don't want to go through the entire pregnancy. Or they don't want their friends or family to know. It could affect their current job, or career opportunities. Some women can have a phobia of pregnancy too."

They should have thought of that before sex. We live in an age where ignorance is no excuess

abortion is MURDER flat out. the only circumstance where it might be acceptable is if the birth or pregnacy will endanger the life of the mother.
It might be harder but itws the right thing to do. n pro life

hi I myself have been through this (well not exactly) my mum was 17 when she fell pregnant with me she was thinking about haveing an abortion but then she was told about adoption and rather than see and end to a life that was beginning she decided to carry me untill I was born and I was then put for adoption.
I had a wonderful foster home and the family I was put with were fantastic. I have now been living with my adoptive parents for 17 years and am very glad that my birth mum never decided to have an abortion as now I can live a life that I mite not have had.

I once told my ex- that if she got an abortion (she was pregnant at the time with my now 5 year old son) that I would hate her forever because I would never be ok with someone killing my child.

That being said, I will say this. a lot of people don't view the fetus as a person. Some people think that because it can't breath it is not human. Because it doesn't have a brain mean that it isn't alive. It's just a fetus. It kind of makes me sick. (I'm pro-life if you haven't been able to gather that yet) It's my body. I have heard some of the dumbest reasons behind why people support abortion. Everything happens in life for a reason. Even when you don't seem to understand what that reason is, there was a purpose behind whatever, (is or has been or will be), to happen. Even if that thing is as something as messed up as rape. No, I do not condone or support rape in any way shape or form, but I do believe however that there are reasons that EVERYTHING happens. Not, much is left to chance a lot of the time.

More and more, people have unplanned pregnancies. What most people need to realize is that sex is solely for procreation. If it didn't feel good people wouldn't do it and therefore the human race would die off because of lack of, well, having sex. Girl's getting talked into sex without a condom. A girl trying to trick the guy into staying by trying to get pregnant. And, sometimes, when she does get pregnant and the guy ends up not staying, she has an abortion. Is it right? No, its not. But, it happens. And that is sad that it actually does happen.

I do agree with you that people who can't have children, for whatever reasons, that want a child(ren) would be great parents. They would truly appreciate what a blessing in your life a child truly is. To mold and educate a young influencial mind is the greatest thing. Too bad more people can't seem to not have sex or use adoption agencies.

Now here is where I support abortion. If the fetus is at such a developemental stage in the uterus that it cannot possibly survive outside of the uterus and the mother will die unless the pregnancy is ended then to save one life, rather then to lose two, then it wasn't that child's time here on Earth. And, as much as it kills me to say this, abortion would be the best, safest option.

I am not saying that I support pro-choice 100% or anything near that. Life is a sacred thing to me. But, what I am trying to say is this.

There are instances in life where an abortion should be. People will argue this with me. It will make people mad to see this. But, let us look at this without any religious or moral value attached to such a statement. If you are going to die, and so is the baby, the only option you have is to have an abortion or try to bring the baby to term but the labor will kill you and the baby, would you still think for one moment that you should try to risk both lives for the sake of a moral dillema? If both die then it was God's will, right? Because God (if there is a God) gave us something beautiful called free will. WE choose what to do in life.

But, when it is not a baby's choice to be born or to die early then I don't think it's fair. That baby could have been the next Einstein or some other great person.

well most people chose abortion because your getting rid of the baby so you don't have to carry it.

I know that I'm not for abortion

But what about the kids who were raped. Imagine if you had the baby, it would be very hard to even look at the baby. and if your 12 and were raped, I don't think you should have to go through birth

again but for those people who intended to have sex abortion sholdn't be a consideration. adoption should be best for them