Where is the time?

Hi! I have 2 children ages 2 and 3. I am a stay at home mother and like you don't regret the time with my kids I just sometimes feel like I need more. I have a hard time with making the time for my fiancee and myself to be together..we really have no...

private time ever. I need to make things with him and I better (ie:sex,trust) but how? We live with his parents right now and share our room with the kids. When I say no private time I really mean it. If you could give me some advice that would be appreciated.

I know how you feel. I posted something recenlty about feeling like a single mother though and needing time for myself. Being a stay at home mom is not what people think it is - I never knew how much work was involved.

After talking to some people on here, here's what we came up with and are doing now and it's helping out the situation.

-My mom and dad take Noah, every saturday and saturday night now, so me and Chris get a date night and a full day to do whatever we want or need to do.

Just find someone you trust, parents, friends, family that could take the kids off of your hands every now and then to give you two some time alone. It's important that you have time in order to keep the relationship fresh and healthy.

When my oldest two were that age we used to go the drive in movies and let the kids watch the first movie and then they would go to sleep and my husband (fiance at the time) and I would have time together while we watched the next movie. Not an ideal situation but it gave us time together "alone". See if your in laws will watch the kids so you guys can go out...even if it's only an hour or two once a week, that's better than nothing. Even if you only go for a walk together you're still getting private time. As for the sex...when you share a room with your kids it's bound to be hard but some how you still need to do something special...try taking a bath together after the kids are sleeping (or shower)...are they sound sleepers? Because if they are then you can still have time for sex you just have to be a bit quieter.

Being a stay at home mom is always hard but it's a life that most women would never give up. However going back and forth between being a mom and wife is difficult. When he comes home from work sit down with him and just talk...put a cartoon on for the kids to watch and talk to your fiance about your day and about his. Talking is the way to trusting.

Do you have any friends you could do anything with? If you have friends with kids then make a play date and you moms will have a chance to talk while the kids are playing. Above all else you need to find some time for just you, even if it's only an hour a week...ask someone to watch your kids while you "unwind". If you can find a little bit of time just for you it will also make you more inclined to make some time for your fiance. Just because you're a mom doesn't mean that you're not also a friend, lover, wife...while being a mother always comes first your needs and wants should also get met because what good is being a mother if you're unhappy?

My Mother has two young ones 2 and 3 also, the only differeance was that they have there own place. They make time for themselves after the kids go to bed. She also puts them down at about 7. They watch a movie together and talk; and atl least once a month they try to go out.

My boyfriend and I had a date night every week. I would ask my grandfather to watch her and we would go out to eat or a movie. We would get all dressed up and nice looking and would enjoy our evening. We sometimes brought my daughter with me, but shes only one.

Once you decide on spinning time together committ to it and do it to the fullest, dont hold anything back and you guys will get back to norm, you dont want to lose touch with your partner, cause once the connection is gone its hard to get back into the groove.