What's so bad about stripping?

if your not bad at it and you have a nice body and your life is in control I dont understand why people think its so bad. I dont think people understand that there are so many unfortunate people out there who cant afford the finer things in life like COLLEGE!!!

What's so bad about stripping? Well for starters, do you realize that it is NOT just 'entertainment at its simplest form' it is in fact a soft form of prostitution. It is quite simply payment in return for a sexual act. Note I did not say payment for sex. It is entertainment in only the loosest sense of the word. People make this mistake, because they forget about the sexual aspect of it. If it were JUST nude dancing then it would be just entertainment. However, the sad fact is, there is a very dark sexual aspect to stripping.

Stripping is by its very nature sexual. One can argue all they want that its empowering and that it takes a secure, brave woman, but there is no getting away from the reality that stripping is entirely about sex. The movements of the dancer on stage most often include simulating sex acts and are specifically done to arouse a sexual desire in the customer. Lap or 'private' dancers are even more sexually explicit. Most dancers actually come into contact with the customer during a private dance, and while there is no pentration, there is often contact between the dancer and the customer's groin or between the dancers breasts and the customers face and or body.

It is because of this sexual aspect that the majority of people don't hold strippers in high regard. This attitude leads to sexual harassment for almost every girl in the strip club at some point in her 'career'. Ask ANY dancer and they will tell you about the disgusting things men have said to them and asked them to do or about the men who just assume they can touch the girls as they please.

Now, if you think prostituting and degrading yourself to that level is ok, then by all means go for it. Someone who chooses to strip may have a different morality; That's fine. Just realize that despite the patitudes of stripping's supporters, stripping is NOT simply 'entertainment' it is rather the subjugation of women for the sexual desire of men.

Well, since you brought it up. You can go to college for free if you do your homework. There are all kinds of grants and scholarships out there just waiting to be given out. So you don't have to say you'd have to strip to make the money to go to college. Just wanted to point that out.

As for stripping, if someone wants to do that, that is their business. I've never begrudged anyone or attacked anyone for stripping. To each their own. But if you have children it might make it hard on them. Especially if people find out, and they usually do. It also puts women who do it in an unsafe position when the guys (or girls) that they dance for want to take it further. I'd tell anyone who wants to do it to think long and hard, but in the end just do what ever you feel is right for you.

the reason society dubs it 'bad' is because its a sexual act that is supposed to get a sexual response. in out society sex is frowned on because too many people do it underage and get pregnant when theyre young (which would suck) and also they get diseases which we are of course trying to prevent.

Hence no stripping.

I think showing your body to someone like that should be to someone that you truly love. And if you have a boyfriend, I personally think thats really disrespectful to him, even if he says its okay for you to strip. Its just one of those things that no matter what, people are going to judge you for. Especially when theres all kinds of other things you can do out there for money, without taking your clothes off. And choosing to do so says a lot about your personality. You are putting yourself at high risk of a lot of things you may not think of, such as sexual assult and rape.
The whole college excuse, just doesn't do it for me. Sorry, but no. I'd rather flip burgers for college money...

People thinks its so bad becauseost people thinks its slutty

Moral issues aside, it's an incredibly unsafe industry and the girls are usually exploited. The sex trade attracts a lot of girls who are running away from something. Those girls are weak and vulnerable, and the guys who run strip clubs, well, why do you think they do it? Not just for the money.

What is so good about it?...Everyone who knows you will loose respect for you.#1You will loose respect for yourself...that is the worse part of it...when youloose your respect for your ownself you loose it all...if you do not love yourself how can you love any other person? In order to love others you MUST be able to love yourself...you can get grants, and get a job...and keep your self respect...you are young now and cannot see how this can happen but it does and if you think youare cheap...you will be

Well its bad because you lose respect from everyone. How woul dyou feel if you were a mother and when people asked what you daughter was doing with her life and you had to tell them she was a stripper? Its just moraly wrong because there is almost no need for it.
Its the same as saying you need to do strip or make porn to work thorough collage. If you need money that bad get a loan and work part time at a fast food resturant. Its not excues that you need to exploit your self and every female to make some money

What about sexually abused people, maybe they feel they aren't worth good jobs or something. Hence I agree with pinkpearl

In reality there's nothing bad about it. It's their choice if they want to strip, no one's making them. Strippers make mad money. If you're comfortable with yourself doing it and stuff, then who cares. If people disrespect you for it to hell with them. They're probably either jealous, overly self-conscious women, or jealous guys who know they ain't gettin' none of that.

Whoa... everyone is bashing it... it's not all bad boogie man stuff like everyone is saying.

Yes it can be unsafe... that's why you have to be smart about it(just like any other job).
You want a venue with a good reputation and if you're good you can enter a contract with the venue and state your demands.

Being promiscuous or -out there- with your body does not put you at a higher risk for rape or sexual assault. Rape is about control, not sex. Nobody 'asks to get raped' by how they dress(or don't!).

As for respect, it takes an incredibly brave and confident woman to be able to bare it all. Sure, there are prudes and such... but you won't see them at a gentleman's club. Stripping is entertainment at it's simplest form. And if you're alright with it... who cares what anyone else thinks. There are worse/more dangerous industries to get involved with.

xox
Sika

I think it depends on you. If you are selling the act and not your body, it's okay. Its entertainment and if that is your talent, go for it, but never feel like you have to settle for less because you don't. Just look at it as another option.

What's so bad about stripping? Well for starters, do you realize that it is NOT just 'entertainment at its simplest form' it is in fact a soft form of prostitution. It is quite simply payment in return for a sexual act. Note I did not say payment for sex. It is entertainment in only the loosest sense of the word. People make this mistake, because they forget about the sexual aspect of it. If it were JUST nude dancing then it would be just entertainment. However, the sad fact is, there is a very dark sexual aspect to stripping.

Stripping is by its very nature sexual. One can argue all they want that its empowering and that it takes a secure, brave woman, but there is no getting away from the reality that stripping is entirely about sex. The movements of the dancer on stage most often include simulating sex acts and are specifically done to arouse a sexual desire in the customer. Lap or 'private' dancers are even more sexually explicit. Most dancers actually come into contact with the customer during a private dance, and while there is no pentration, there is often contact between the dancer and the customer's groin or between the dancers breasts and the customers face and or body.

It is because of this sexual aspect that the majority of people don't hold strippers in high regard. This attitude leads to sexual harassment for almost every girl in the strip club at some point in her 'career'. Ask ANY dancer and they will tell you about the disgusting things men have said to them and asked them to do or about the men who just assume they can touch the girls as they please.

Now, if you think prostituting and degrading yourself to that level is ok, then by all means go for it. Someone who chooses to strip may have a different morality; That's fine. Just realize that despite the patitudes of stripping's supporters, stripping is NOT simply 'entertainment' it is rather the subjugation of women for the sexual desire of men.

Is anyone who is posting here ACTUALLY a dancer? No one is any position to judge until they have done it, and I am speaking from experience. The key issue with dancing is dignity. If you walk into your club every night work the floor, get those dances and work your butt off, go home, sleep and do it again the next day- then that's doing it right. If you're walking into your club, getting those dances and doing extra favors for more money- now you're talking prostitution. And NO amount of money is worth selling your body for a few extra bucks to someone who you don't know, who could be carrying a disease. You never know, and for those extra bucks is it worth the risk? Some guys come into the club, they see you dance, you talk for awhile, go into the champange room and you can get paid just to sit there and TALK. Believe it, it happens. I have made money just TALKING to man, I didn't have to dance for him- I didn't even have to take my clothes off, I just sat there and was someone to talk to for a half hour, hour. A lot of times that's all a man wants, a friend, someone to talk to. There's no shame in being kind to someone in that sense.

If you do your job the right way, working hard at selling a FANTASY, then you're golden. But if you're selling YOURSELF and letting a man put his hands or other parts where they should not be- then that is a whole different story, and THAT is just plain wrong.

One last thing, it is unfair to assume that if a girl becomes a dancer it's because she has a deep, dark past. It's unfair to assume she's been sexually abused as well, because it's not always true. Not everyone is the same, girls get into it for different reasons. I have no past history of sexual abuse in my life- EVER, I've always had an good family life (sure all families hit rough patches, it's typical) but nothing out of the ordinary.

Until you've lived it, no one is really in a position to judge.

Miss xalaskax's assertion that unless one has stripped, then they aren't 'really in a position to judge.' is quite simply illogical and idiotic. It's also extremely hypocritical in that she passes judgment on girls who do extras or prostitute themselves, but I assume she has done neither.

The FACT is, whether xalaskax wants to admit it or not, as I stated earlier stripping is a form of prostitution, in that the definition of prostitution is 'preforming a sexual act for compensation'. Is it as bad as giving oral sex or sexual intercourse for money? Of course not. Is it still a female doing something sexual for a male for a fee. Absolutely.

The thing is, I've been in the business. I know girls who still are in the business, and I know others who thank god they got out. From my point of view and my morality, the business is seedy and demeaning. It strips away a women's worth, and makes her only value be of a sexual nature. Brains, intellect, empathy, and kindness have NO value in that world. The only thing of value is your body and your sexuality. That is why almost every girl who has ever danced has been either sexually assaulted (customers grabbing their breasts, butts or genitals), verbally assaulted (called a wh*re etc...) or sexually harassed (asked to engage in more explicit sexual acts). It is unfortunate but understandable. For how can we expect men to respect us as women, when we offer ourselves up as mere objects for their sexual entertainment?

I got into stripping thinking that it was just a matter of being naked in front of strangers and that while that may not have been a good thing, the money more than made up for the bad aspects of that. However, I quickly found out that in order to make money, I didn't have to just dance naked, I had to at the very least pretend to be sexual onstage and in the private dance rooms. Even then I didn't realize what it was I was doing as everyone around me did the same thing or worse. I never gave extras and didn't allow my customers to touch me, but I know many girls who did/do and who would have never thought that it was ok when they first started dancing.

My life changed, and as it did I began to realize that I was worth SO much more. My nakedness and sexuality is now something someone can only buy with true love. Money just isn't worth enough... If other girls want to sell themselves for grungy, single dollar bills, then so be it, but don't tell us we don't have the right to judge you for it. Your morality may be different than mine but that doesn't make mine any less valid.

I have only had sex with one man in my life and I strip right now to get through school. I'm 22 and going through a divorce, my credit was ruined, can't get enough financial aid because my husband makes too much money (he didn't make money when I met him, but now he does) and I don't have family. I believe stripping isn't bad depending on what you use it for. If you steal a loaf of bread to feed your family, it isn't wrong. If you steal a loaf of bread to sell it for profit, it becomes wrong. I have only given one man a blow job in my life and that was my husband (believe it or not)! I really hate how people say stripping is prostitution. Yeah, some prostitutes are strippers, but some very decent and exceptionally strong women are also strippers. I don't think it benefits society, so anyone stripping should be using it to better themselves (unless they are busy providing for their children).
There are hundreds of women who live with a man they don't truly love, just so they can get through school and have a place to live. Once they graduate, they leave the man. I believe using someone and playing with their emotions on that level is far more morally wrong then entertaining them by sexually teasing to pay your bills on your own and get through college. I met my good friend stripping and she got me into bartending so now I have another skill that helps me pay my bills and still have extra time to study. When my husband left I had absolutely nothing, now I have only a year and a half of school left, an interview pertaining to my major next week, and a nice reliable car (I didn't even have a car...can't apply to jobs if you don’t' even have that). I had few marketable skills because my husband was very controlling and wouldn’t let me work when I was married (since 19). A lot of strippers have had very hard lives, and men take advantage of that, but that is no different from any other situation: the world takes advantage of people who are unfortunate, strip clubs not excluded. That is not stripper’s fault, that is the fault of selfish people. It is in people’s nature to take advantage of you if you act desperate, and I have learned that getting interviews in the professional world reaps the same outcome. Some greedy strippers will take advantage of drunk, lonely, depressed men and that isn’t too good either. Some men will pay for you to just sit and talk, and those are the nights where I have made the most money. In extreme situations, you find extreme people. At clubs, there are extremely selfish women, drug addicts and prostitutes, but there are also extremely kind, moral (yes, I said MORAL), genuine and extraordinary women who are true fantasies. I have met many stripper friends, and even though I have had a very hard childhood (but no sexual abuse, I should like to note) some of my stripper friends have come from very good families.
Good luck to anyone stripping to get on their feet and best wishes that when they get on their feet, they will run to somewhere much better. I hate my job, but without it, I may be stuck in another abusive relationship miserable and going nowhere. I know I am going somewhere now, as I also have a teaching job at the moment. I hope I get this job next week, but until then, bills need to get paid, and I need more time to study.
Sorry so long!

I have only had sex with one man in my life and I strip right now to get through school. I'm 22 and going through a divorce, my credit was ruined, can't get enough financial aid because my husband makes too much money (he didn't make money when I met him, but now he does) and I don't have family. I believe stripping isn't bad depending on what you use it for. If you steal a loaf of bread to feed your family, it isn't wrong. If you steal a loaf of bread to sell it for profit, it becomes wrong. I have only given one man a blow job in my life and that was my husband (believe it or not)! I really hate how people say stripping is prostitution. Yeah, some prostitutes are strippers, but some very decent and exceptionally strong women are also strippers. I don't think it benefits society, so anyone stripping should be using it to better themselves (unless they are busy providing for their children).

btw, I don't hate my job entirely. I met one of my best guy friends at a strip club (never messed around) and have learned a lot about human behavior/psychology. WOmen get sexually harrassed wherever they go because men are dogs!! I worked at an office job before I got married and had problems with sexual harrassment, never wearing revealing clothing.

btw, I don't hate my job entirely. I met one of my best guy friends at a strip club (never messed around) and have learned a lot about human behavior/psychology. WOmen get sexually harrassed wherever they go because men are dogs!! I worked at an office job before I got married and had problems with sexual harrassment, never wearing revealing clothing.

Well I'd say that stripping for money is never the answer, because you are showing your body to peope that you do not know. And this leads people to believe that they can take advantage of you.

The Truth About Strip Clubs

What Strip Club Owners Don't Want You to Know

There are so many misconceptions held by people about strippers. Below are some demystifying facts about the reality of this profession.

Working as a Stripper Is Not:

Safe - Murder and violence happen on a regular basis in and around strip clubs, and seemingly at an increasing rate of frequency. Patrons are often sexual predators who build obsessions on the dancers. Gang members, drug dealers, pimps, and other criminals also frequent strip clubs. Some of these criminals are the employees themselves, and all strip club owners are involved in some kind of criminal activity. The safety of the dancers is not a high priority.

Healthy - Many strippers suffer from drug addiction, alcoholism, abusive relationships, and dangerous lifestyles. The stresses of the job bring on many physical and emotional problems. Depression and anxiety disorders such as post-traumatic stress disorder are common among dancers. Years of dancing cause back, feet, and leg injuries, some totally disabling. And there is no retirement plan for dancers.

Glamorous - The day-to-day reality of acting friendly to perverts and degenerates is disgusting. Being assaulted in the lap dance booth is traumatic and utterly humiliating. Being regularly hit on by creepy guys making filthy comments at you is not at all glamorous. Being physically attacked by mentally unbalanced dancers is also unglamorous.

Good for your self-esteem - Being treated like an object day after day by your boss and clients has a deleterious effect on your self-esteem. This effect snowballs as the years go on. Many dancers suffer from feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.

Worth the money - I have known strippers who have made obscene amounts of money and they are no happier for it. There is also a tendency among dancers to squander the money on drugs, excessive shopping, gambling, etc.

Empowering for women - On the contrary, the job is degrading to women. To be admired in this way is not true esteem and dignity, it's exploitation. Its a conterfeit form of love and attention that weakens your sense of self.

Without a price - Being constantly ogled, groped, lusted after, catcalled, insulted, pinched, and used for sex comes at a very steep price. I witnessed many dancers (including myself) leave the bar in tears due to an abusive patron or employer.

A Victimless Crime - Even if you don't feel harmed by it, think of the harm you are causing to the wives and children of the men who come to see you, or even to the men themselves. Think of the dancers who do end up dead or emotionally scarred as a result of the job. Think of the damage being done to the community surrounding your workplace.

Authentic Feminism - Feminism was never about the legalized pimping that is the porn and strip club industry. Feminism was never about making mafiosi rich by exploiting women's sexuality. Don't forget who takes home the most money in this business.

Go to http://www.ccv.org/downloads/pdf/David_Sherman_testimony.pdf for a former strip club manager's testimony of his experience in the industry.

Who Are Strippers?

So many factors bring a woman to the decision to become a stripper. The most overriding factor seems to be early childhood abuse. The media portrayals of strippers are far from accurate. They are not all airheaded Barbie Dolls who smile constantly. They are college students, struggling artists, struggling actresses, professionally trained dancers, single mothers, abuse survivors, writers, wives, musicians, teachers, teenage runaways, performance artists, singers, nurses, athletes, film makers, students. They come from all walks of life. Some, believe it or not, are Christian. Please don't judge or stereotype these women. Instead, pray for them and support one of the many ministries in the links section active in helping sex workers find a new life in Christ.

Refer to savedfromstripclubs.org

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