I'm going to see my mom for the first time in 12 years

im going to see my mom 4 the first time in over 12 years what should I do I havent even talked to her on the phone and I dont got a dad so I cant ask him

Just be yourself and be open and honest. Try not to go into it with too many expectations, but at the same time, feel free to express any expectations or feelings that you do have. However it goes, take it for what it is, and be happy for the experience. You and mother may end up having, or making, a wonderful connection that will last the rest of your life. It is also possible that you may simply just not like her. Both are OK.

Also know that is absolutely normal and ok to be nervous and apprehensive, I would be and I'm sure she probably is too.

Without knowing your specific circumstances, it's hard to give you specific advice for this situation, but I firmly believe that being true to yourself, being open and honest and being willing to express yourself emotionally will always serve you best.

I wish you the very best of luck,

-SN2S

Dear teresa_is_cool,
You should be seeing her with your foster family, adoptive family or your guardian. Allow them to start the conversation and the flow of things. It's okay to be unsure and even very frightened. Try to relax and let the adults talk a bit...answer the questions and by all means try to feel pleased about the meeting and try not to be angry.
Sue...good luck

well just think about it what would most kids ask their never seeing parents ask her what she like to do for fun or whatever

Just try to be honest,yourself and honest .

your so lucky at least your getting to see her so when you do love her fo as for me I haven!t saw my mother since I was one hour old

hardleqhue- were you adopted or raised by relatives. I was adopted.

Just be yourself, and feel free with her, she's your mother and she wants to feel that you're comfertable around her.