What is being self-absorbed?

ok I just got told by my now I guess X best friend that I am completely self absorbed. She is like Jeckle and hyde she switches mind sets on a constant basis. I am completely confused. She tells me this when every time she almost so much as cries I am...

right by her side. I am always around to help her when she needs it. One moment she tells me she doesnt knwo what she would do with out methen she flips and tells me that I feel the world revolves around me.

This all started this time when I tried to call her and tell her that my boyfriend just asked me to marry him. her being my best friend, of course I wanted to share with her. I am very lost at the moment. I am close to her family and her and I have been friends for almost 15 years now.

so my question is what do you all consider being self absorbed?

I know some self absorbed chicks. Im the opposite, ill give my friends the shirt off my back. ok, heres what the self absorbed chick that I know does. She is only looking after her own interests. She only thinks about her own happiness, doesn't appreciate how many times I've gone out of my way to help her. If I refuse her something she'll anoy the hell out of me until I cave, even if she knows its a hassel to me. And she gets all pissed off when things don't go her way. Friendships are usually based on a give and recieve relationship, I've given a lot to this girl. And I can't remember the last time she's done anything for me. And she is there when im upset, but that only goes so far

To me, a self-absorbed person is one who usually talk about themselves most of the time, and who even manages to direct the conversation back to them if it starts out about someone else. They don't usually ask how other people are and they don't much seem to know or care what's going on in other people's lives.

I can't believe I'm getting another cold, look at my kids pics, guess what we just bought, I'm going on a cruise, does my hair look ok today, oh I'm tired, want to go shopping with me because I need to get a dress for the party, etc etc etc. It's all about me.

wow in reading this after them changing it, it has completely changed what I wrote. why the heck do they do that?? They completely re edited this question. I was not saying that she is self absorbed. she is implying that I am, when I am there for her 24/7 or I was atleast. I always held her hand through everything.

I knew what you meant, lol. you do seem to be a little bit. "WHEN I AM THERE FOR HER 27/7, I ALWAY'S HELD HER HAND". You can still be there for her and be completely self absorbed, like the chick I was talking about

yeah I understand what you are saying. I just dotn get it, I am prety sure she is bipolar. One minute she was all you are my siste rI dont knwo what I woudl do with out you then she flipped and I was evil and rotten. Its jsut crazy thats all I have always been her punching bad when she is having one of her moods.

ya thats not cool, she probably is bipolar. my friends know better than to give me any sh*t. friends for 15 years, thats a really close bond, life long. You should be able to talk about anything, if she calls you self absorbed again ask her why she thinks that.

Naw its over with, I have taken her abuse and stuff for to long. I cant be her punching bag when she gets upset anymore. She is blaming all of this on me and frankly it feels like a grade school fight. Her last message to me ended with And I will have the Last Word.

I am jsut done. she has doen some mean things to me liek making fun od me being raped when I was younger, taking a picture of me going pee at her house and posting it up in her apartment for everyoen to see,putting her camera under the door of a fitting room while I was in there and taking a picture. I mean just stupid things and she called me childish I have never doen anythign like that to her. I even helped her move into her upstairs apartment evne though I wa sin a cast from breaking my foot. I have left work to help her when she talked of killing her self. I have dropped everything for her on many occasions I dont even remember them all. Its jsut to much now. I cant handle when something goes good in my life that hse gets mad.

She calls me msis money bags, because I dont have an apartment payment my fiance pays for it. she forgets I pay over 600 a month for my car between car paymens and insuance, and it is not a high end car either. I have driven 20 miles to save her butt when she had a flat tire all because she didnt knwo how to even change a tire. but she always says I never do anyhtign for her and I am never there!!! it drives me crazy