What does he really want from me?

Me and my exboyfriend of a year split up a year ago.We still remained "friends" for the past 10 months.A couple of weeks ago he told me that we had to stop what we were doing and just do things that friends do.So for about a week we hardly...

talked at all..then about two weeks ago..we started hanging out a lot and sleeping over at his house again.We are right back to where he said he didnt want to be anymore.im not sure if he is just using me or if I really mean something to him. I have stopped calling him and just wait to see if he calls me.and he does.im so confused with all of this..I just need some advice please!!!

In a word... sex, comfort and sameness.

Based on the past things he said, he probably wants to move on with his life (I know its tough to hear), but you were attractive and readily available to him, so its hard for him to break the habit (you).

Eventually, he's going to break the habit, and you are going to be hurt in one way or the other. Try to move on yourself now. I've seen this a thousand times!

I agree that your friend could just be addicted to the comfort and availability; but he could also be terrified of commitment. I've seen guys that really love their girlfriends but the relationship takes off a lot faster than they planned and they get cold feet. When a man gets cold feet he gives the whole just be friends sermon but still gets jealous if there's another man and sends mixed signals. So I might weigh that in as a possibility. Either way bottom line is that you have to communicate with him to figure out why you guys are staying in this cycle.

Make sure you prepare yourself...Most relationships like this either totally commit and overcome their fears or they realize it just can't work and they normally don't even remain friends.

On a positive note either outcome frees of the burden of wondering and hanging out in limbo.

well you just need to ask him just tell him I think something is wrong with our story we need to talk about us you stop talkint to me then all od a sudden im staying at your house then I dont here form you whats wrong you can tell me we can work this out then just start telling him things that are just weird with your relationship or friendship

im sorry but he is full of it. I was in the exact same situation and im not sure if it is all guys but my guy turned out to be an as*h*le. stay with the guy and see how it goes but I wouldnt get too attached because in the end im sorry to say you might end up getting hurt

friends with benefits. Im sure.