What do you think about lesbians having children?

My best friend in the whole world is a 100 percent lesbian. She's out and proud but she doesn't advertise it to everyone she meets. She wants a child more than anyone else. She has a co-worker that is very rude and mean to her and tells her that she...

should not have children at all because she is gay.

We talked about it the other day, and she says that people automatically think that she would want her child to be gay, but that is not true. She would want her child to be straight. Why would she wish all the bad feelings that people have about gay people on her child? I told her I hope she has a child because she would be an excellent mother.

Also, since she does not like guys at all, she will have to have a donor (another good friend), and she'll have to use the 'turkey baster' method to get pregnant.

I was just wondering what people were thinking about this situation these days?

amans13: your a ho3 because people that are lesbian/gay/bi w/e are not sick they are who they are if you dont like them who cares go suck a di*k because I bet you good at that!

texaskimmie:anyways I think she should go for it

My opinion is that all lesbian women who wants to have a baby should be or married with a man, who knows about her orientation, or at least have a temporary boyfriend who will "make" that baby. I think it is important that later in the life the mother can tell few things about the father, who was or blonde or dark, or strong or clever etc. But Someting personal, and something what is a sexual experience. I think lesbian or not she must stand few times the situation of the copulation with a/the man, because that feelings belongs to the beginning of the new life, even if she is not fond of that procedure. Maybe two lesbians can invite a man to fertilize one or both of them in a 3some situtaion. In other words, the fertilization should be somehow personal, intimate, and sexual because a soulless feritlization may be a harm on the dvelopment of the embryo. Lesbians should be intelligent enough to understand these points.

I honestly think what you just said is crazy.

She should be able to have a baby. If she finds someone she trusts, and uses his sperm to get pregnant, there's no problem.

texaskimmie,
I don't think thats a problem at all.
Lesbians should be allowed to have freedom and be able to do other things that non-lesbians do. As long as the baby will be looked after, then thats fine. She just needs to find someone that she trusts. Let us know the follow-up!
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bubux007,

Wow...I am completely speechless. The act of consummation is JUST that---consummation. Whether the parents are in love at the time of sex does not affect the child's conception. What DOES affect the child is if the parents try to raise the child if they *aren't even in love*, which is what you'll get if you force lesbians to sleep with men.

You are really off base.

Thanks everyone for your responses. I'll let her know that most of you that answered are very supportive of her situation. I believe she is going to start trying to have a baby this month, so I'll let you know how it goes. I am very excited for her, because since we are so close I'll get to spoil a baby again. Yay...

okay f#ck what other people think about her there is no reason for anyone to judge her just because she's gay if she wants a baby then she has every right to have one just like everyone in this world just because shes gay dosen't mean she's different if I was her I knock out any b#tch that had a problem with me she shouldn't take any Sh@t from anyone

I think that it's great! I have a gay male friend who donated to a gay female friend and now they have a wonderful little daughter (that gets overly spoiled by other gay couples of course!). All to say, their experience was extremely positive and they are happy that they could both be parents. Their arrangement was that she was mostly raised by the woman but he gets to visit when he wants. This suits them.

Anyhow, I was raised by a bi-sexual#gay father and I am heterosexual and "normal". As a child I didn't find anything strange with the fact that my dad lived with a man. It's only when you get older that you realize that you are a bit different and other couples aren't the same. Of course, children of gay parents do feel a little stigma (ex.: insensitive jokes) but if you raise them with lots of love and confidence, they'll be just fine. Tell your friend that the only thing a child really needs to be happy is a lot of love. If she can handle that, she'll be fine.
Oh and she should tell her co-worker to stick it where the sun don't shine and keep to her own business or if she's really naughty she should press charges for discrimination!

doesnt not matter it you are bi straight or gay if you have enough love to raise a child then go for it. I read about a gay couple two blokes who recently adopted a baby girl and the pics were so cute they really love her and you can see it .. go for it girl. good luck with the turkey baster !!!

I think that being a gay or lesbian is just sikk!!...only demented people who are not satisfied with their lifes become gay which is just stupid!!

I think she should adopt if she really wants one. I mean yea she might be lez, but she can still adopt kids, and people have no right to tell her she can't cause she's lez

get a baby. Who cares if she's lesbian? Everyone can have babies according to my god, Xeroza

I dont really care but how is the child going to grow up. We know how kids are. The child WILL be tormented in school and confused about sexuality. The child may end up bisexual because of mixed signals they are getting and being confused. I kind of dont think it is fair to the child but at the same time I think its crazy to just say NO you cant have a child because you are a lesbian. It is just something that requires a lot of thought. Serious thought not just I want a baby so I can buy the baby things and show off to my friends.

Okay she sould have a kid.
ALSO, she should really talk to someone about her co worker becasue that is actually considerd sexual harrasment. anything negative about your orientaion is considerd SH