Was saying "I love you" a mistake? am I too immature for it?

Hi there, I wanted to first give some backgroudn info before I asked my question because I think the two are closely involved with one another: When I was 19, I had my first relationship ever with an emotionally abusive guy who pushed me to get engaged...

with him. I eventually awoke to my senses and broke up with him, but he left a lot of emotional ascars: he was my first evrything including kiss, experience with sex, and first time I said I love you to another person. There were a lot of issues involved with beign able to trust again and being able to get over my guilt and shame after I broke up with him, but I was able to feel like myself again. About 5 or 6 months after this all went down and I was healing myself, I met my second current boyfriend who is a dream. I don't mean to put him up on a pedastal and he isn't perfect, but he's a genuinely good person and I did tell him I loved him this past easter because I did feel it and wanted to say it to someone and have it be real and true instead of how fake and nasty it was the first time around. Yet, lately I've been feeling like those love feelings are going away. Little things he does make me angry and turn me off from him...like him not paying for a meal makes me feel disrespected and I tell him so because if he can't afford to go out with me, he won't be able to afford me in the future or it doesn't look like he'll be able to support me if we ever are married in the future or something like that. I have been noticing these feelings cropping up like maybe I'm not ready to love anyone because real love isn't jealous or gets angry easily or picks at a person's charcter which I feel like I'm doing. I don't want to do these things but that'show I feel like I'm doing...like I feel my affection for him relies on how well he treats me that day and I know real love doesn't change from day to day, I wouldn't think. I don't feel I know what love is....I just feel immature and like saying those three words were a mistake because now he thinks I feel that way about him all the time when that isn't the case: it always changes depending on his behavior--do you think my past relatinship has anything to do with it? does anyone have any tips how I can fix this or get over this feeling? thanks a lot

Hun>you dont sound immature to me! Id say you have a pretty good understanding of what love is. Your right, love isnt an every other day feeling! You could be bringing your past relationship into this new 1. Dont sell yourself short on any guy, and dont settle for anything less. Some people take a lot longer to heal from past relationships, while others can move on quickly (which isnt a good idea) Dont look for love, let it find you. Try not to dwell on the past>just look at it in terms of a learning experience! Just take things slow!

if your questioning that you love him well then your having doubts so I dont think you love him because love is more then every other day my advice is to tell him you think you made a mistake and your past relationship well I think it has something to do with this one because you brought it up good luck

I think your being selfish and juvinile, but not immature. You know what you want but, IF it was really love, you wouldn't have to comfirm it or second guess it. You'd know, and you wouldn't be nitpicking at everything he did.