Update on guy expectations question (shortened)

First thank for the advice
So we havent seen each other at all- this past week. There has been some communication over the phone. Very basic- hey how doing kinda of thing. Then I met his friend- and he threw me because he said that "my" guy and I are...

meant to be and if there is 1 person that he should be with its me.didnt tell me why or what he bases this on he just said that we are good together and he wont be surprised if we ended up together. Then he said I should just think about it and I need to fig out why he's saying what he saying. The 2 are really close and this friend is the only person who knows everything about this guy. Still trying to not overthink it - but it doesnt look like its working.

Ell: I would interrogate the friend. He might have some sort of "not telling the friend's secret" thing going on, but then agian he might just be pulling your strings because he likes you. I would make it clear to him that you are either going to be with your current boyfriend, no one, or someone that isn't him. That way it isn't a him or me option, so he can't put on any pressure. If he tells you something that isn't good, then ask your boyfriend about it, do some investigating, and figure out who you can trust. If your guy says that you should trust him, tell him that you do trust him, but that there have been innumerable girls in the past, who trusted guys, and then got hurt, and you don't want to be one of those. So you need to resolidify that trust. Or else you can ask him what the f*ck he ever did to earn your trust anyway. Friends of boyfriends can be helpful, so I wouldn't ignore it. Have fun

Ell: I would interrogate the friend. He might have some sort of "not telling the friend's secret" thing going on, but then agian he might just be pulling your strings because he likes you. I would make it clear to him that you are either going to be with your current boyfriend, no one, or someone that isn't him. That way it isn't a him or me option, so he can't put on any pressure. If he tells you something that isn't good, then ask your boyfriend about it, do some investigating, and figure out who you can trust. If your guy says that you should trust him, tell him that you do trust him, but that there have been innumerable girls in the past, who trusted guys, and then got hurt, and you don't want to be one of those. So you need to resolidify that trust. Or else you can ask him what the f*ck he ever did to earn your trust anyway. Friends of boyfriends can be helpful, so I wouldn't ignore it. Have fun