Understanding women...

Why is it so hard for most men to understand women? Sure they talk in riddles and occasionally tell you one thing while they secretly expect you to do another, and yes sometimes they, well, they don't lie outright, but in a roundabout way they edge...

around the truth to their perogative on sexual relations, but why do men have such a hard time understanding them?

I'm only speaking for myself but I think the reason why some guys have problems understanding me is because I don't always stand up for myself and speak up when I should. So they think I'm thinking one thing - but really I'm thinking something else. Everyone has some sort of personality glitch they struggle with even though some may not know it - and those glitches tend to cause some confusion. I try my best to be more open and straight up but its something I feel as though I'm not obligated to change because its part of who I am. Also sometimes I get really quite and randomly stop talking as much and people always think I'm upset/angry during those moments even though I'm usually not - I don't even know why I'm like that. People say relationships are all about communication, which is mostly true but communication doesn't solve everything. There is always something to learn about someone and if its not something you like its all about moving past those obstacles, its part of life. Men understand women just as much as women understand men - we all get confused with eachother at one time or another which is okay because it allows you to learn more about eachother. Just be patient and don't give up on us women over stupid little things that may be our fault.

it's not only that men don't understand woman it's also woman that dont understand men, because the female and male brain are completly differant so we always have problems being on the same page even though we wish we could. a female might say something like omg I have a zit and the guy will be like so what but what guys dont understand is that what if they were taking a pic for there boyfriend and they worked so hard to look there best and now they have failed...because that's all the boys seem to notice which is something for them to laugh about...haha thats young stuff though older people are more mature yet we still have differant minds...I would love to understand guys so much better, they like you but they dont want to be with you but theyre jelouse of other guys who you hang with...whats up with that? HAHA

I think it's because men, and I'm not saying this in a negative way at all, are more simpler creatures and women aren't. When a guy says something, he usually just means it. There are no underlying facts and I don't think a lot of women understand that.

Dude, I was just about to ask the same question! Personally, I agree with two people here. jenny and prince. Guy's are DEFINITELY simple creatures no doubt, and male and female minds do think different but I'd have to say men don't have emotional struggles. At least that I know of, but women as they go through teenage years they go through that point in life where they just can't seem to know what they're thinking! Seriously, it's like they say one thing then the next day they don't mean it and so on and so forth... I still think it's emotional struggle for women, whatever that female gene is it makes them absolutely nuts. They enjoy taking things, twisting it up a bit, and making drama out of it... That's another thing, they love drama for some reason! I don't know, my dad has been married to my mom for 25 years and surely doesn't understand her still...

I don't know man, it's a lifelong question all of us men will ask ourselves everyday

I agree with you VanHalen. There always seem to be drama with chicks. Not all chicks. But a lot of chicks. Thats why the majority of my friends are all dudes. My guy friends won't stop talking to me because I forgot to call them back or cancel plans with them. It seems things are a lot more complicated with girls. AND I AM A GIRL! lol
But I'm not trying to knock the ladies here.
There are many times when I don't understand why guys act the way they do or say the things they say. My inner female does come out from time to time like when I tell my boy that I'm fine, when I'm really not and I'm expecting him to realize that there is something wrong. It's so stupid when you think about it. My excuse is PMS though.
I guess it will forever be a mystery...

I mean a lot of people tend not to understand me because I don't just straight up say my feelings because I don't want them to get mad at me or feel bad in any way. Usually they find me being quiet and not saying much the way to show them that there's something wrong. Girls are some complex people :]. Guys can be the same way though there are a lot of guys out there that are very hard to understand all the time. People have their different ways of opening up and it may take a while to see that in a person.

I think its because women want a man who is willing to really try hard to understand her,. some women have trouble getting out how their feeling, so they make something up to get a male to stop asking. I think that women are also afraid to talk about something because they think the male wont listen to what they say. males just arent as complex as women because women go through more than any man ever could.