I kind of get mistreated by my parents

Okay well I kinda get mistreated by my parents & well I told my boyfriend & he got really pissed off & he wants me 2 go live with him in california...but the thing is I don't want to leave my parents I mean no matter what they do their still my parents &...

well I don't want them 2 go thru the shame of people saying that their daughter ran off with some guy & well he's telling me 2 report them 2 the police but I don't want 2 because I have a younger sis & bro & they didn't do anything so I don't want them 2 suffer on my behalf & well right now I was talking 2 him & he got really mad because he said it was stupid that I wasn't doing anything about it I know he wants 2 protect me but he thinks its easy 2 just pack up & leave I mean I love my parents I really do even tought they don't love me & if they do they got a funny way of showing it but I would feel so guilty btw I'm 14yrs old so you know I need MY parents & his mom is an angel I mean she's the sweetest women ever but it would be 2 hard 4 me & I don't know why but I have the feeling that everything is gunna get better but this is a process that needs time something he doesn't want 2 give me so how can I just make him understand all this?? I mean I don't want to cause him any problems or stress I really don't but it seems like that's what I'm doing so what should I do?is he right?I'm I right?I'm just really confused!so please help me!and btw they do hit me sometimes but its more verbal abuse than anything.

Maybe you could elaborate on exactly WHAT your parents do, that you consider "abuse"...At 14, I was sure my parents were "abusive"...mean, made me do things I didn't want to do, and never let me do what I wanted to do...but now, on the other end of things, I know they were trying to protect me...from myself. Every year that goes by, you'll start seeing things more clearly...

It sounds to me like you love your parents...that they've instilled in you a sense of responsibility...a faith that things DO change and get better...Those are pretty nice "gifts" to receive from mom and dad...You also sound WAY more mature than your boyfriend...This is a good opportunity to "listen to your gut"...it's telling you to stay...and that would be the wiser choice.

granny phrannie

Best Plan: education, ring, date, marriage, get financially stable, then little ones if desired...I wish you the best !!

You know what...if you got mistreated by your parents A, you wouldnt want to leave your brother and sister there without you to see that they dont get hurt and B, you would call the cops no matter what because child abuse of any nature is not right. What I think is the problem here is that you are a teenager who doesnt get everything that she wants and thinks she is grown up enough to make her own choices. You are a young girl who does not need to move out of home. Your parents are proberbly worried about you and are getting frustrated (I have a 13yr old I know I do). They should not hit you by any means but in the old days a good smack on the bum never hurt any of those folks. They seemed to respect their parents etc. maybe you should try to think about your actions from day to day and ask yourself how you would react with your own child of 14. At your age boyfriends come and go but to lose your family over one at 14 not worth it trust me.

Dear ghostlypwincezz_sodamn_glamorous,
As an older sister you have to take in to consideration that you have younger ones in an abusive home. This is the primary concern...if you are abused they will be also and you have some obligation in making sure your sibs aren't abused. Speak with your boyfriends mother. The authorities need to be informed. Do not feel guilty for leaving but you will feel guilty for leaving behind your sibblings...Make sure another adult knows and the proper people are contacted.
Sue...good luck

hey^^

if your a teenager...sounds like it^^...I would say your just going through "that" stage...im actually going through it right now..lol...I just want evrything to stop and be alone...but thats life...life comes in different stages and you just got to live and move on and have a mind set that life is full of things that you dont want but have to overcome...anyway my advice is just stick with your parents because in the end THEY ALL you HAVE and all you acn REALLY turn to unless your married and gotten stablle^^

REMEMEBER LIFE IS A TEST^^
doesnt get any better...life is full of obstacles^^

hope you make the right choice^^

peace^^

same thing is happing to me my b/f hates my dad cause one nite we where on the phone and my dad beat me ...I know how you feel and it is a lot easier to give advice than to do it but .. you should try to take charge and live with another family member