How can I get my boyfriend to be less controlling?

Ugh, I hate not having trust in my relationship. This is the story. My boyfriend doesn't trust me whenever we're not around each other, mainly. I recently lost my cell phone and he constantly breaks the relationship (aka says "I'm not your boyfriend for...

the day" because he cannot get in contact with me on a constant basis. This is driving me crazy. I'm about to go on vacation and my cousin is bringing people (including males) along when we go to the amusment park. He saying that if any of the guys are around my age (I'm 20 by the way, my cousin is 17) that he'll break the relationship. This isn't fair in the least. I have come to the realization that I broke the trust and have to gain it back, but I feel controlled. What should I do? HELP!

How old is he? When I was reading this and got to the part where he said he wouldn't be your boyfriend for the day, I figured he was about 12. That just is not something a "normal" adult would say in my opinion.

If you did something to make it so that he can't trust you, then fine. I understand why he might be a little more jealous than usual, and I understand why you might have to gain his trust back a little. However, I don't think that should be an excuse for him to act like a child and play those silly games.

I would say he either needs to trust you and be done with it or admit that the trust is gone and leave the relationship. It's just silly to dance around playing games somewhere in the middle.

I suggest talking to him about it. Tell him he is acting silly. Ask him if he wants to grow up and address the issue like adults. Talk about what you did to lose his trust, why you did it, etc. If he wants to stay with you, he will have to accept your actions even if he does not like them. You can't go back in time and change it. People make mistakes. You could try couples counseling to help you through it if you want. If he just can't accept it, I don't see how you two could continue a relationship with the way things are.

He's insecure.
May be sweet or whatever but,you don't need the mind problems,really.
If he has no reason not to trust you,or wont forgive his reason for not trusting you anymore..
That it's just going to drag you down.
I'de say let it go,love without trust hurts like heck,constant thoughts about not being good enough.You have a life to live girl!Don't fill it with..""lets see,goals for life.
1.)boyfriend pissed off because I cant hang out with him,make him feel better
2.)boyfriend sad because he doesnt feel loved,love him more
3.)boyfriend depressed because I didnt answer the phone,call and apologize ""

Get serious,date a guy who's past all that,don't waste your time or effort.

if you dont have trust what do you have? LOVE, he really like's you in a bad kind of way..he wont break up with you(OR AT LEAST SHOULD'NT FOR SOMETHIN SO STUPID)he value's the relationship..so tell him your feeling press'd by his conttrolling madness if he's any kind of boyfriend he should understand or at least consider a change.

I would break up with him. if you dont have trust you know have nothing. (I got that from a movie)