To all of you young people

Maaan, I'm 24, almost 25... And I'm dissapointed in the younger generation... I came to this site, because I had a question, and I didn't realize that most of this site was younger people, and all I've been reading about in the love/relationships section...

of this site is sex, fingering, pregnant, cheating... Maaan ya'll need ta slow down. Lemme ask a question... Who here wants an STD?? show by raise of hands lol.
Lets say for instance, you're 14, sleepin with a guy, he cheats on you, brings you back an STD... Then you're 19, maybe 20.. and you meet a guy that you really really do love and you're getting old enough to have a different concept of love... And then you have to either lie to him and give him an STD which means you don't love him, or you have to tell him and maybe 1 in 10 guys might stay with you. This goes for the guys to... Not to mention getting pregnant and having a kid who's 20 and has a mom who's only 32... Ya'll just need to slow down, have fun as a kid, and stop trying to be an adult so soon. You'll have plenty of time for all the sex and relationships and drama and all of that when you get older and can understand it better. When people are asking if you can get pregnant by being fingered you shouldn't be getting fingered or having sex. And if you're not going to listen to me, you should at least educate yourself FULLY before you pursue such things, and you should always wear protection to fight against STD's and young pregnancys... did you know if you're 2 young and 2 small and underdeveloped and you try to have a baby there could be some serious complications... And I know you might think, well I'll just have an abortion, but I sat with a girl through an abortion, it's one of the worst experiences you'll ever go through and have to live with forever... This is just soo dissapointing... I hate to see our youth in this state... Though I will still offer advice on some of these situations, I strongly urge you to consider what I've said, as it is very important. Not to mention, sex creates false feelings of love if you're not already in love with the person before you have sex. You'll understand this stuff when you get older, which is why I urge you to wait...

I don't believe in waiting to have sex in marriage, just be safe, and wait until your 18 or ready or something. Besides I don't believe in marriage either, marriage isn't love, love is love. So if your over the age of 18 at least and love someone than do it, ONLY if your ready. 13 is definetely not an age to have sex, that is too young! You know nothing of love, there is no such thing as love at that age. That is puppy love, and the guy is probably using you for that, so don't do it!

I'm 17, a virgin, and waiting until Mr. Right comes along. I'm not a person to do it while still dating, only if I truely love the guy. I agree!

ya its pretty crazy huh. the problem is that the kids think they know what there doing when they don't really have a clue. I've read some pretty f*cked up sh*t on this site. 14 year olds sleeping with 20 year olds, I mean, I say what I can to discourage em but they think there smart or cool for doing that type of sh*t. So naive, I didn't really know how bad it was until his site. but none of em will listen, there right at that age where they think they know what love is, when they really don't. or they think there cool for having sex. its just crazy

man I totally agree with what you said.

im deffinately not gunna rush into anything
and yeah there are tons of people who are having sex, fingering, giving handjobs/blowjobs
its ridiculous
most of these people havent a clue about the consequences nor do they know how to go about doing it either
so its obvious they are really not ready for it
my generation just want to grow up so quick
im quite old fashioned when it comes to sex and waiting and relationships etc
no-one takes sex or the consequences seriously anymore :S

Ok I 100% agree with you. I don't think you should have sex till after your married and you shouldn't get married till your in love. (so in love you can't breath without the other person). Thank you a million times over for posting this. It makes me feel like there still are good people in this world (not that having sex before marrage makes you bad just wrong) so thanks a million.

yea it's not cool at all, if any of these kids were related to me I'd beat dey a$$ lol, they lucky they ain't my brothers or sisters... to all you kids readin this ITS NOT COOL, if you're trying to look cool how about showing yourself some respect. Thats a lot cooler than smoking, drugs, sex... all that stuff makes you look lame and stupid just so you know. You think you're looking cool but in fact, people are looking down on you for the things ya'll are doing. I'll tell you you're cool and give you my respect, but you got to first respect yourself. AIDS isn't cool, HERPES isn't cool, Going to JAIL isn't cool, DYING isn't cool, getting PREGNANT isn't cool, and neither is LUNG CANCER... It just makes you look dumb dumb dumb... NOT COOL... RESPECT YOURSELVES!!! then others will respect you and you'll be the coolest cat around

1 in 4 teen girls now have an STD, why doesn't that suprise me.

your wrte but im 13 and was going to have sex next week, I love this guy with all my haert and he loves me the same way does this mean we shoodent do it, but we were going to use a condom, but shood we not do it

You should not do that... It's a bad choice... And you'll most likely regret it. Save your first time for when you can fully understand what it means so that it's not a waste of your first time having sex.

Don't do it... Save yourself for when you're old enough to fully understand what this means... I know you probably think you're old enough now, I thought I knew a lot back then, and every year, I felt like I knew more, now I'm almost 25 and I realize that even when I was 22 I didn't know hardly anything. I still don't know anything compared to when I'll be 30... You really do end up on a different level everytime you move to a different stage of life.. waiting for marriage is a good idea, though very hard for many people, including myself. But at least wait till you're older... I know it might make me sound like a loser, but I waited till I was 18 for my first time, and I didn't even start kissin girls till I was 16.. And to me, I don't feel like a loser, I feel really good about myself that I did wait that long, and If I would have waited longer it would have been even better, I wish my first time could have been with the girl Im engaged to now...

hiyamia I dont think you should have sex
its your life and all but you may think your in love
but would you want to ruin your first time that is meant to be special and meant to be with someone that your so in love with, that like kaykayanimallover said, you cant breathe without them.
condoms arent 100% effective
and you may end up regretting it
wouldnt you rather have sex after marriage where your at that awesum special stage in your relationship and you know your really serious
or at least til you are a bit more mature
sex isnt something that should be taken lightly
think about it.

I thought I should post this on here as cminor told me I should, this post is just a few posts above this one if you would like to add a comment =)
This really isnt a question, but does anyone here regret losing there virginaty, either because of there age, or because it was with the person you had sex with, but I just feel regretful at losing mine, I felt ready for sex at the time but now I just feel that I could of waited, I just think 16 was a bit young to of had sex, do you think it was?? I just wish I had waited for sex with the person who I am with now. I just wanted to say to everyone, think before you have sex for the first time, wait till your old enough and wait for that right person, because it really is something special, so dont give your virginaty away likes its nothing =)

Teen preganancy, infidelity ect ect isn't a new thing, just people are more open about it all now.
We may not be the perfect generation but atleast we are honest
I don't really care about peoples sex lives all that much, I don't really understand why it's your problem =S

because by not doing anything at all about it and trying to save at least a couple people from disease's like AIDS it's just going to spread more, and kill more people, and eventually could affect people I know personally, or maybe my kids, so it's my problem too, in fact it's the whole worlds problem and by acting like it's not a problem you're just perpetuating the problem. Kids shouldn't be having sex reguardless, it's not right. Lets say this.. for example, how it's everyone's buisiness...

these names aren't real people just for example...

lauren has a daughter... Her daughter is karen.. You have a boyfreind, his name is david... David cheats on you, he gets aids... then you get aids because you didn't know he cheated on you... 1 year later you and david are over, and you still don't know you have aids, neither does david... you get a new boyfreind... matt... and now he has aids... and you're only with matt for a couple months and then matt falls madly in love with laurens daughter karen... now all of the sudden this girl, with no relationship to you, doesn't know you, never heard of you, 100 miles away... and now she's got aids... her mom doesn't know, karen gets a cut, karens mom helps her, ends up with aids too. Do you see how it's everyone's buisiness? Could be something less severe than aids, could be herpes or siphilus... could be anything... but when you're 12 years old and you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be messin around with it.

Well b!tching about it on funadvice isn't going to achieve anything.

People have always had sex and people always will. Like Loshmo said, it's just that more people are open about it. Let's not forget that the majority of our parents were raised during the 60s, 70s, 80s, the times to be all liberal and open-minded etc.

& can I just say that I find this topic really patronising.

I understand that there are obviously some naive people out there but I am fifteen and I am certainly not naive. Hardly anyone that I know actually thinks the way that the people on this site do and I think it's wrong to judge an entire generation of one website, which is mainly filled with preteens pretending to be older than they actually are.

Surely if it's STD's and such you are worried about rather than lectureing and moaning about it try educating.
Sit on here saying "kids shouldn't be having sex" doesn't discourage anyway infact the child in me says "thanks now I have to go and have sex now just to pee you off."
The whole moral high ground, self rightous boll@acks is tiresome.
The more of a problem people make this the more glamourised it becomes.
When it's your daughter then yeah it's your buisness but the people on here aren't your concern they ask for you advice not your opinion.
If you don't like underage "kids" doing things like that then simple don't answer there questions.

Some people will be arrogant and ignorant, and those people I can't help. The people that actually listen will benefit from it. And those who think that 15 year olds know everything will eventually find out they don't. I'm 24 and I don't know everything, and I respect my elders instead of being a loud mouthed brat. What was the point in coming into this discussion just to talk $hit? It was an extremley positive topic untill you 2 stepped in running your mouths... by that I mean typing like a smarta$$. You think you know it all? go get laid, and when you're sitting in the clinic trying to find out whats wrong with you, remember this conversation. (which I hope doesn't happen to you either way) but being ignorant doesn't help anything... also, I am not judging the ENTIRE generation, but you know what, even if I was, DEAL WITH IT, it happens to EVERY GENERATION...

"Let's not forget that the majority of our parents were raised during the 60s, 70s, 80s, the times to be all liberal and open-minded etc. "

And isn't that you judging 3 entire generations??

hmmm...
and maybe thats the problem, because ya know, my parents weren't out screwing everyone they could find, and my parents taught me how to respect myself, and a lot of stuff it seems you've missed out on... Sooo... anyways I was just trying to make a statement to all the people on here that if you don't understand sex, you don't need to do it. Simple as that. If you're under the impression that fingering can get you pregnant you shouldn't be gettin fingered... and yea maybe if sperm is on the hands... but still unlikely.. and most of the time if the guy already came he's not going to be fingering you anymore lol... anyways, I'm just trying 2 say that these kids don't know anything about sex and they don't need to find out till they're older, excuse me for givin a damn about the youth in our country...

and you know what, you catch an STD, and give it 2 just 1 person before you find out, even if you're smart about it, and you're carelessness and thinking you know it all can affect the lives of so many people it's not even funny. If you were my kid you'd be grounded for a long time. In fact, do you're parents know the kind of stuff you say and do on here?

"When it's your daughter then yeah it's your buisness but the people on here aren't your concern they ask for you advice not your opinion. "

I have 2 kids... plus 2 God children, plus 2 little sisters and a little brother... So disease being spread around the country is my buisiness and if I can do anything to slow down the spread of disease and abortions across the country I will.

Not 2 mention, this wasn't supposed to be anything like this, it was general advice, if ya didn't like it ya could have just left the page alone and kept it positive for all the people that it does help, but you seem to be the type that thinks it's cool to rebel against what you know is right... And I never said If you're young and having sex I hate you, I answer a lot of questions for teens that have sex questions to educate them, but I do discourage the sex at a young age, it's dissapointing to see all these kids at risk...

go start crap somewhere else...

one more thing to think about... I know it don't seem like much for me 2 stop just 1 person from catchin an STD right?

1 person can infect 2 people, each of those 2 people infects 2 more people, and out of those 2 people, 1 doesn't infect anyone, another infects 10 people, now you've got those 10 people that don't know that each infect another 10 people, and we're already nearly up to 150 people... so stopping just 1 person from F*n up is a big deal

I'm not starting crap, I'm merely disagreeing with you.
I didn't mean to come across as arrogant but you prejudices about people may age really offended me. The fact you are bringing my age into it again annoys me more so. It's not how long you been around it's what you learn whilst you're here.
I am well educated in sexual health. You don't actually give any advice on not catching STD's other than "don't have sex" I think if you are so fussed about STDS and such then you should be promoting safe sex rather than being a self-rightous highhorse kind of person about it all. Are you trying to tell me that you didn't experiment at all as a teenager? && if thats so you will have very little life experiance and aren't really in a position to discuss things you don't understand.
I can not comprehend why you have such an issue with people having sex at whatever age they chose to. Aslong as they are safe and comfortable with what they are doing I don't get how you can have an issue with that.

Well firstly, me and Loshmo both live in England, so that means that we can freely spread STDs without it being your concern, because we probably won't ever come into contact with your kids, etc.
Like Lois said, if you wanted to stop the spread of STDs then you would be promoting safe sex, not celibacy. Celibates are often not prepared for sex so if at some point they do decide to have sex then they won't be prepared, in terms of contraception and mentally too.

And when I said that about those three generations that wasn't a judgement, I wasn't saying "oh those generations were awful and a disgrace to humans because they were liberal". You, on the other hand said on several occasions that you are "disappointed" with my generation and that if any of these kids were related to you that you would "beat their a$$". Two completely different kettles of fish.

I would actually be willing to stake my life on the fact that both me and Loshmo are more intelligent than you. It's amazing what you can learn in fifteen years and just because at our age you were still naive, doesn't mean that we are. Speaking on behalf of my friends too who are sexually active, I can easily say the same for them.

You posted this topic not to help, but to preach and now you're all up in arms because two teenagers (which is who you aimed the question at) disagree with you. You won't achieve anything by this. In fact, I'm now going to go and find a particularly dirty boy and go have sex with him and I'll be certain to scream "oh, c minor!" when I org**m. Cheers.

not quite... first off safe sex isn't completely safe. Second off, I have made plenty of mistakes and have a lot of sexual experience. and I did wait longer than ya'll. I waited till I was 18, I'm 25 now(almost). anyways, I've got plenty of experience, and I've made mistakes that I wish I could take back. and as far as being in london. AIDS for one, origionated in 1 part of the world, and now it's world wide. People do fly plains lol. All I'm saying is not to perpetuate the cycle. Waiting ain't such a bad idea. And I'd rather have someone inexperienced than have someone who's so experienced I can tell they've been around the block and back 30 times. Innocence and inexperience is a good thing, if you're 2 experienced, (Esp with Different people) is not a good thing...