Thanks a lot

Thank you so much for answering me...it was stupid things he did that started the fights like that I would bring up from a long time ago. I dont know what made me so mad, but I go to therapy now and he knows that. I go to college now and ikeep trying to...

show him I changed. I've even tried to wuit smoking cigarettes and he knows im trying. He told me if we are still alone in 20 years he'll marry me...but he wont answer the phone for me sometimes and I miss him NOW. It wasnt always me who started the fights, but usually it was. Example: for christmas we were supposed to go to my aunts house. he was to pick me up from my house but he forgot about the time and sttayed at HIS grandmas too long, and I missed christmas dinner..it was things like that. He really wasnt an as*h*le--he just forgot and ewas sorry but it just wasnt good enough for me. I see how wrong I was and I apologized to him for EVERYTHIG and he seemed to understand. I feel like he is afraid to give me another chance and backs out all the time from calling me bcak or going with me somewhere...how can I show him im not the same if he wont let me? Im so confused, and I know now that I could be with him forever and that I truly do love him. Thanks so much,

Lannie

No probs, I understand people fight about stupid things, but you were younger then and he nos that, you can only learn from you mistakes. Now what you have to do is not let him down, when you say your going to call, call, when you say your going to meet him somewhere be there early, so he starts to realise he can count on you again and you wont let him down. show him the change in you, stay calm and be there for him, of cause he is afraid to give it another chance, thats to be expected but it sounds like he doesnt want to let go of you just yet, it looks as tho he is just sitting back and watching what you are going to do next. just go with the flow and show him you are ok and confident in yourself and trust yourself enough to no you love him and wont hurt him, he will see that and let his guard down, but it all takes time. dont pressure him, just let him feel and notice on his own.

If you aren't like that anymore and you trust that, you will just tell him and he will know.