Is 14 and 21 too big of an age difference?

do uthink itz wrong for a 14 year old to date a 21 year old if they love each other?..because I dont think you can put a price on love...

Wowww.

Alright, I know age is just a number and should not discriminate who you fall in love with.. but let me tell you RIGHT NOW that a 21 year old man has absolutely NO reason to date a 14 year old.

Honestly, why can't he find someone his age? Chances are that he KNOWS someone 14 years old is easy prey... that big of an age gap is a disaster waiting to happen.

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I'm sorry.. I meant a 21 year old man has no BUSINESS dating a 14 year old. OBVIOUSLY he has his reasons..

I would have to agree with sarah.

A 21 year old knows that he can take advantage of a 14 year old girl. Sure he may say he loves her and can take care of her... but he is old enough to know what he is doing. And hes old enough to know that he can get what he wants from a nieve young girl.

I don't think that theere is anything wrong with it because now days you see women marrying men that are at least 10 years older than them. my last boyfriend was 20 and I just turned 16. the only people that had a problem with that was my oldest sister and my dad's girlfriend. my sister had a problem with it because she didn't want me to date anyone that used to be one of her students. no you can't put a price or an age on love...

Yes, it is very wrong! When an adult is involved with a minor child, age DOES matter! A person is considered an adult at the age of 18. Love has NOTHING to do with this type of circumstance!

A 21 year old and a 14 year old have no business being in a relationship as there is no mental link unless of course he suffers from some sort of mental illness.The only common link is sex despite all protests otherwise. You spend a short portion of your life going through the teenage years but the choices you make during that time will affect you. The truth is that a 21 year old will never bring you around his friends as he would be too embarrased to let everyone know that he has a 14 year old girlfriend. You would not be introduced to his parents as they would grab him by the ear and chew him out for going out with a 14 year old. A 21 year old can tell you all sorts of lies in order to get you into bed but don't expect anything other than that. Life is too short to date an older guy, stick with the ones closer to your age.

Is he interested in going to the prom with you one day? Is he interested in your US history class? Is he interested in going to PG-13 movies because you cannot see are rated movies without your parents? Is he interested in sticking to kool-aid at parties because YOU cannot drink alcohol?

You need to stick with "kids" your own age. 14 yr olds have NOTHING in common with 21 yr olds, and vice-versa!

Yeah. It's easy to believe that your case is DIFFERENT because you're more MATURE than the average fourteen-year-old. But you know what's interesting? The 70% teenage girls who think they are more mature than their peers are usually are less mature than the 30% who don't think they're any more mature than their peers.

So please date someone your age. I know it seems sooo cool to date someone who's not in high school, but CREEPY is how sane people would describe it. Do your parents even know about this boy? Chances are they're not going to approve, and for a good reason, too.

I wud not do it! if you luv him that much, then make sure he knows that, but tell him its ILLEGAL!!! you can stay in touch with him, and in 4 years, it will be completely legal!

Seven years is nothing in marriage terms, but when the girl is 14, it's not good. She is probably unclear on life's experiences and needs to get out of this relationship.

I don't think you should date this guy. guys have a way of being sweet to get you to love them, and then once they've got you they can walk all over you (or so they think). obviously this guy has one thing on his mind...and from a 14 year old, he thinks it's going to be easy to get. plus this is illegal. I think you should think about this, and reconsider.

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I know they said that age aint nuthin but a number but damd that dont mean go out wit someone 7 years older than you a 5 year old migh aswell go wit a 12 year old
and that 14 year old must be a hoe to go wit a grown man she aint nuthin but a DIRTY TRICK

yes it is wrong

I find it utterly hilarious for people to ask questions, when they KNOW THE ANSWER.

I dont think there is anything wrong with that if you love eachother, when I was 14 my boyfriend was 21 and I saw nothing wrong with it

Hi, personally I do think that 14 and 21 is a big age difference...like the others said...a 21 year old man knows what he's doin. Trust me he has had plenty of experiences. you know if someone of a high authority finds out yall together and you have had sex wit him it will be counted as statutory rape cause your under 18. Hope I helped

I dont think their is anything rong with it if they both love each other and they no what they are doin it is fine I am only 14 and I went out with a 21 year old and I loved beein with him other people didnt and that might b they problam I dont think age really matters when love comein in to it so yer I think it is fine

Absolute generic, asinine posts based completely on unfounded asinine hypothetical (and blind mind you) assertions. To assert that it is unfathomable for a 21 year old male to be truly in love and show platonic interest in a 14 year old girl is ridiculous. Why can he not? Sure, its quite likely the guy is interested in sex only, but to assert all situations are like this is unfair. If the connection is there, its there. I for one know such a couple, and the guy truly loves her. He has never ever done anything to make her feel uncomfortable. Never has done anything sexual, doesn't even plan on it until she feels she wants to. Why would a 21 year old talk to a 14 year old about life, school, interests, ect. for 3 hours a day and get nothing physical out of it if it were not for love and genuine interest? You can't typecast all men, and the age difference is superficially big, but more so its an issue of connotation and social mores. Society says this is wrong, too big a age gap. However, girls mature both physically and mentally at younger ages. Physically, a 14 year old could be fully mature. As for a mental standpoint, many 14 year olds are smarter than adults...is it unfair for a man to love a adult woman who has a low IQ or is mentally handicapped even? Certainly the situation is rare, however in some situations I think such a relationship can and should exist. True love of a magnitude which would never come across again should not be quashed because of social mores. I don't think such people should get married, or even be involved sexually at 21 and 14, BUT I do think they can spend time together, love each other, and when the time comes, extrapolate the relationship as such.

I am 16 and my girlfriend is 14 she is probably too young for me this guy is way too old. You are a child, whether you like it our not, you are. and chances are, he's going to pressure you into something you dont want to do. I dont think you should be going out with this guy, but if you do, you HAVE to set boundries with him.

There is nothing wrong with dating an older man, you are legal and he wont go to jail for kissing you. I will say that if you get pregnant, and his name is on the birth certificate, the state will put him in jail for rape, even if you wanted to have sex with him. You will have no choice in the matter whatsoever.

love is love but you shouldnt date him im in love with a 21 year old man im 13. but the thing is we've been friends for the longest time we both decide to be just friends till im 18 thats when it will be legal. if its really love dont worry about it and when your older you guys will be ok but for now try to stay close friends and close friends only.

altough it is seven years between you to , love and age seperate when it comes to relatioships , if you love him and he loves you thats all thats matters, there are couples out there that have more then a 7 year age gap to them so I wouldnt worry about it , the only problem in your case is that your classed as a child still so the age difference sounds more then it is but say you were dating /engaged/married , in six years time you will be 20 and he will be 27 so that will sound fine...
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For You Yeah im 14 and pregnet but the dad is 16 so its diffeerent