Why would a teenager want to get pregnant?

does anyone else here find it really disturbing that teens on this site... 13-17 want to get pregnant? I am appalled to see that some people are accepting that and answering questions like its nothing. do you not see that its 13 year olds wanting...

to get pregnant?

I think we need to be there for them.
Its the best we can do really, its not like we can make them un-pregnant. We want them to make the best choice and they really need someone through their rough times. A lot of stress on their shoulders could cause a lot of harm to the baby, and thats not fair.

If you are appalled about it, then simply don't click those questions or answer them.But for us that do care and do want to help them, will continue to give them advice.Teens aren't just going to stop getting pregnant because you don't like it, so might aswell give them some good advice to help.

How do you figure we answer it like its nothing? I don't get why you even said that. Everytime I click on a pregnancy question I see lots of advice to cope the user through their hard time. I see people posting links to help, people offering help through FunMail, etc. If I knew a pregnant teen, I'd want them to seek help, I'd want the best for them. And I feel asthough teens can receive that attention here. And if not, theres people on here that offer help hotlines if they ever need it.

For those who are trying to get pregnant, they will seek help here. I was 18-years-old (still am), and wanted to have a child. Then I came on here and received negative comments about it and realized that I was making a stupid decision. I'm living proof that we can help the teens on here wanting to get pregnant. If it hadn't of been for FunAdvice, I could have been heading down the wrong path. Thank goodness I didn't end up pregnant, but if I had of, then I know I would have been able to seek help here when needed. Thats one teen pregnancy prevented, lets add to that number.

Teen pregnancy is not against the FunAdvice terms of use, so it looks like your going to have to deal with it. I think the questions are acceptable. We don't promote teen pregnancy if thats the message your trying to send, we just help those who are because they really, really need it. People make mistakes, everyone does. The best we can do is try, ignoring them isn't going to help.

It's not always there fault, some of them have been raped and others are accidents. It's their life, not your so you shouldn't worry about it. People are giving them ADVICE because this site is called FUN ADVICE.. and their asking because they need help. Some people are nice enough to actually do that without being mean about it.

The question wasnt about teens "getting" pregnant. She asked why 13-17 yr. olds WANT to get pregnant. There is a BIG difference! And I have to agree with her. Its very disturbing that children WANT to have babies. It stems from lack of parental involvement in that childs life. They are lonely, seeking love, and feel that a baby would give them that.

All of the questions, almost ALL of the answers pertaining to wanting to get pregnant, have negative responses. As for having sex, most of the answers that think its ok, are the very young kids around that same age. The adults usually try and steer them in the opposite direction!

I gave an answer for those who WANT to get pregnant.
But I chose to give a more indepth answer, thats my business, why does it matter?

I dont mean to pick a fight. but as a parent.. its very upseting to see there are teens out there trying to get pregnant ... and yes maybe it is because they lack love. and perhaps responsiblty... but we as adults need to steer kids away from ruining their lifes.

so if im wrong to say omg why the h**L would you want to get pregnant then shame on me. for not wanting teen pregnancy.

thanks for angelfire who understood the point I was trying to make =)

and yes we need to stand by the teens that get raped and get pregnant, but for some little girl that goes out there to ruin their life ...

im sorry but I have no sympathy =(

A lot of young girls my age want to get pregnant because they feel alone or unloved. Some, just want a baby.

Rude comments like, "OMG That's so stupid! Why would you ruin your life like that? You're DUMB!" Aren't going to help. It makes the girl feel even more unloved. Making her want the baby more.

As much as we don't want teens to get pregnant, we can't stop. Girls my age will get pregnant or want babies. We may not be able to stop it but at least we can try, right? If we can stop 3 girls from getting pregnant, we've accomplished something. There are so many girls out there that we can't help them all.

People don't anser the questions like it's nothing. They take it very seriously and try to offer help. If people were to stop answering these questions, what do you think would become of these girls? They'd have the baby and possibly ruin their lives.

Also, having a baby at a young age doesn't always ruin lives. I have a friend who had a baby at 16, she's still in school and lives a normal life. She's still able to go out with friends, and do normal teenager stuff. Sure, it probably helps that her parents are willing to help. But Aiden is a very happy baby, and my friend is a good mom.

im sorry... get a baby doll...

if you want a baby so bad babysit one for a week...

I know a lot of schools do the home ec thing where the teachers give the kids a baby for the week and see if it survives. for some odd reason... most of the babys dont survive.

I dont mean to be rude. it just upsets me to see you young girls with sooo much to offer. im sorry that you think you have to get pregnant to better your self. maybe go to school. get a job. that would make sence cause you are going to need one of those .. or two.. to pay for diapers. and formula... and wipes... and food. ... and crib... and clothes... and doctors visits... shots... shoes... not to mention diaper rash cream. medicine... baby wash... a home to put the baby in. you need food for your self... prenadle visits... prenatale pills... clothes when your body gets fat. then if you have complications... er visits and tons of dr visits.. like I had... then when your baby is born.. you might have a baby that is sick .. cause most teen mothers smoke.. or maybe it is just sickly... then its in neo natal units in a hospital that is citys away ... like my baby.. and you have to stay there for monthes ... and that costs money...

do you have that kind of money... cause if you dont then ...

you also need time... you have to get up in the middle of the night... sometimes three or four times a night with a crying baby... that is hungry all the time... needs diapers changed... and you need to make bottles... then ... you have tons of laundry to do .. cause they puke on you all the time... and tons of diapers to change... you will be devoting every waking hour you have to that baby...

oh did I mention you have to get a job tooo...

oh yeah... for money...

so friends ... where do they fit in

they dont... you are a full time mother... and a full time worker ... to support that little one. yeah you love it ... you will do anything you can for it. but do you remember when you had a life... you went out.. you had friends ... all those friends.. they dont have babys. so where does that leave you . all alone with a crying puking baby. on a saturday night while all your old friends are out at the mall or in your case haveing sleep overs still.

you really think a baby is invited to a sleep over hahahahahaha.

let me tell anyone that wants to have a baby at your age... its sooo DUMB. you sound like a kid... and you need to grow up.

im sure your friend is a very good mother... but please if you are planning on having a baby... sit her down and really get the goods on what is involved...

denise mother of three

I don't understand it either... I'm 22 and pretty much all my friends from highschool have had a baby or two... and at 22 I STILL don't understand why anyone would want a baby. I'm not having one for like another 5 years... thank you birth control.

I think now it's a matter of wanting love, affection, a "purpose" and attention.

As far as people accepting teens wanting to have babies I don't understand.

But for people accepting teens wanting to have sex I do understand. If they are going to have sex... they'll have sex no matter what you say so it's best to educate them to the best of your ability.

Ignoring sexuality in teens is what leads to unwanted pregnancies and abortions.

xox
Sika

well I mean if your a teen and WANT 2 get prego its not a gud but im prego but it was an accident and 4 all those who say well a baby will ruin our lives thats not true and your just makin things worst by sayin we cant do it so to me their is a difference for those who get prego on PURPOSE or by ACCIDENT

Well didnt this hit a sore point.. We seem tobe missing the point.. its agains the law to have under age sex, regarless of what part of the world we are in and face prosicution and or inprisonment with a possible removal of the baby. your boyfriend will have a criminal record for the rest of his life, surely this should be part of the advice when girls as yong as 13+ rite on hear, I want a baby, also for a female tobecome pregnant at such an early age risks damage to her still growing body, to give birth at a yong age she will risk tearing so bad that it is difficult to repair and could course further problems in life, she maynot be able to have more children later on. I understand that there are pregnacy amongst this age group and no one is saying toss them aside, these girls need all the support they can get and will get, but for those posting qu, I want a baby, needs all the incouragement to STOP them, so give them the correct advise and inform them of the law will you... if a child of 13 wants to cross a road with oncoming traffic, you would stop them.. this stuff about, give them choices, I dont think so.. these are children.. treat them as such and be a responsibl parent. and be responcibe in your advice..

well you cant help everyone...
some do it for money
some for attention
some by accident
mostly they just do it because there young and stupid
some of them actually do want to become pregnant and be a mother, and feel like there ready to take on that resposibility
there are many reasons why young people get pregnant
but you cant help everyone

your rite you cant help everyone but to help them help themselfs its really important to give them the facts instead of fluffing it up and making it sound as though its OK and its your choice, its not ok. its great that people can ask qu and get an answer but it would also help them by letting them now whats rite and whats wrong, this is not just a moral stance this is the Law.. any question in thinking the law is wrong feel free to write to your local goverment to the leagle age amended. etc.. I somehow dont think they will...

because most think it's like playing house.It's just a game and an immature mistake they'll realize as an adult. They might not regret the child. some say they want to know what it feels like bringing a piece of life unto the earth. some say they want to see their great grand, and some say they don't want to be an old beard gut parent. It's best to wait because most of them are little more prepared to have a child as a toddler

because most think it's like playing house.It's just a game and an immature mistake they'll realize as an adult. They might not regret the child. some say they want to know what it feels like bringing a piece of life unto the earth. some say they want to see their great grand, and some say they don't want to be an old beard gut parent. It's best to wait because most of them are little more prepared to have a child as a toddler

because most think it's like playing house.It's just a game and an immature mistake they'll realize as an adult. They might not regret the child. some say they want to know what it feels like bringing a piece of life unto the earth. some say they want to see their great grand, and some say they don't want to be an old beard gut parent. It's best to wait because most of them are little more prepared to have a child as a toddler

there aint nutting wrong I fell preg at 16 and had my lil girl at 17 and I wouldnt change her for the world there is nothing wrong with us teen parents longs we are able to cope and provide

I agree with 'kelly1980ukuk' as long as your able to provide for the baby and have some supprot you should be fine. my best friend is 16 and has a 7 month old daughter, she lives with her mum and they cope just fine. everyone says teens can't cope with stress but if my best friend managed to get through the death of her twin brohter a month after her baby was born then I think she can cope with anythin.

teens that want to get pregnant should have our support after all there must b a reason 4 wanting 1 and I bet in a lot of cases its because they dont feel loved or they feel alone. they shouldnt been discriminised as a slut.

all you teens out there that want a baby, get sum support and speak to your mum.then make your decision. good luck, theres hundreds of people out there who can't have kids, don't take it for granted.

x x

u know I personally thik its there choice not urs! im 16 and have a lil boy and I couldnt ever imagine life with out him!!

im almost 18 and I've been wanting a baby since I first touched one. I played with baby dolls untill I was almost 14!!! I still have them in my room..I will admit I want a baby. More than anything in this world. Im moving out and ready to start my life. I have school figured out for the next 4 years. We both have jobs...hes 19 and wnats it ust as bad as I do. I feel im ready.

not to be rude,

but its not because my parents dont love me, im an only child and my mom and I are so close. Shes has supported in the past and put me first in everything she has ever done. Shes an amazing mom.
so I dont belive that.

Some teens do whant to because they eather need the money, The food from wic, or they want to rebel to their parents. Im a teenager, & don't want to be pregnat at this age.

I'm 14 and dont want a kid till im atleast in my 20's.

But I read somewhere some teens want kids cause of their hormones or something.