Teen pregnancy

Why are teens and the dating of older guys of teen always judged down. I've read and researched all over the web. && I think it should be who you fall in love with is who you be with. Why does age matter that much to people out there. && why are all teens getting pregnant and people judge them down. I think if teens wants to date an older man. && strart trying for a baby. What do you think?

I think that most women develop faster than most men so women are more mature at a younger age. That's most reasonable answer to why women pick older men. And I personally think that age has nothing to do with love or like that, they're just numbers baby

I think its there choice. me I personally think some of them should wait but the ones whoo have their lives together a good boyfirend and a job then what the problem..we are going to do what we want even if they look down at us.

Its not always a good thing and not always a bad thing. If I wasnt a teen mum I wouldnt have my daughter who is now in highschool. I was ready for it but some arnt. I think that some young girls just jump into things thinking they can do anything but if they are sencible about it and have a great job and a man that respects and cares for them no matter what then yeh you may as well do it. If the relationship is unstable then you would sort of give it a second think. Some young girls (me included unfortunatelly) think having a baby can make their man love them more and stay but sadlly it doesnt work that way. Stop worrying about what other people think its a waste or your time. Think about your future and how you want that to be for yourself. Good luck mel x

I have done my research too, and here are some articles about your situation>
Parenting Tips - Teen Dating
When your teen wants to date someone older, what do you do?
Teens that are dating tend to date within their age/grade range. Your teenager may, however, want to date someone who is much older, say 4 years, than he/she is. Depending on where their friend is in grade level, you may not approve and for good reason. Older teens and/or young adults may be further along in maturity than your teenager and may expect sexual relations as part of the dating process. This would put your teen into adult situations at too young an age. This isn't good for your teenager developmentally.

~Is it OK for a teen to date someone in his or her twenties? No.
*The difference in age can be a legal issue, too. If a teenage minor has sexual relations with a man or woman older than a certain age—usually 18—it is regarded as “statutory rape.” Even if the sex is consensual, the law states that you can’t really consent if you’re under a certain age. These laws exist for a reason. They are trying to protect minors who may not have the emotional maturity that is required for sex, especially younger teens who are 13 to 15 years old. The younger you are the more likely you are to be in a situation where an adult says do something and you just do it, even if you don’t want to. There’s always a chance that you can be taken advantage of in a relationship, but that risk increases when the person you’re dating is much more mature and experienced than you. There have to be laws to protect minors who could get exploited in a relationship where there’s a big age difference.
*As much as we hate to admit it—I know I do—we’re still very young. Even if we think we’re old enough to make all our own decisions and we know what’s best for us, we may not. The teenage years are formative ONES, and the law helps to protect us. Though it may seem like it, these laws are not enforced to make our lives harder!

Prescription For Teen Dating Do's And Don'ts: Parents Should Talk Openly, Set Limits
*The Beatles were wrong when the said 'all you need is love,' says Marilyn Maxwell, M.D., professor of internal medicine and pediatrics at Saint Louis University. Teens also need their parents to provide guidance and boundaries when it comes to dating and relationships.
*'Parents need to model good relationships for their children,' Maxwell says. 'When parents treat each other with respect, it's not only good for the parents' relationship, but it also shows children how to behave and what to expect from a relationship in return.'
*6. Provide supervision. Leaving children alone for hours or not requiring accountability is a set-up for undesirable behavior.
*Maxwell also says teens shouldn't date someone more than two years older because of the maturity differences.

~Dating is a healthy building block in our teens' lives, but things can get complicated when age differences come into play.

~The relationship between a teenager and an older teen or young adult can quickly become imbalanced. After all, the ability to drive and earn money gives the older person a lot more power in a relationship.

Age Difference Shouldn't Matter!
Q. Why is it so wrong to date someone when there's an age difference (say, 5 years) if both of you are on the same intellectual and maturity level. What about our parents and grandparents who had large age differences but were also married early? Why should it be unacceptable for our generation if we're in love?

A. I'd never say it's wrong or unacceptable. I'd just say it's usually unwise, for two reasons. First, it's easy to fool yourself. In reality, age differences usually (not always) go with differences in experience and maturity. When you're very different in age—say 16 and 21, to use the five-year spread you suggest—there's almost always a subtle way in which one person dominates the other. Sometimes the older person 'knows all about' what the younger person feels. Sometimes the older person has much higher expectations for commitment. Sometimes there are sexual expectations. In any case, they're really not coming together as equal partners. That makes for a lousy relationship in the long run.

The second reason is practical. Our society is different from the one our grandparents grew up in. Today, most women go to college and have careers. When there's an extreme difference in age, the life stages of the two partners don't fit well together. Just when one is ready to start college, the other is ready to settle down and start having children. When one is graduating from high school, the other is working nine to five. This creates many obstacles for the couple. It's not impossible to overcome them, but it's quite difficult.

Hey Jewel,

Q.How do you know if the age difference between you and your boyfriend is too much?

I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 19 and my parents want me to find someone my own age. I'm a mature 15 and I think he's an immature 19. What do you think?

MATURE AT 15

A.Dear M.A.F.,

I’d be a total hypocrite if I said romantic rapports don’t work between people of varying ages. My guy and I have been together for 10 years, and he’s four years older than me.

However, unlike you, I met my heartthrob when I was a young adult. Read: I was a full-grown 18-year-old verses a still developing 15-year-old. I can understand why your folks are concerned. You’re still considered a minor, and this dude is regarded as a mature man in the eyes of the law—regardless of how relatable his “immaturity” may seem.

He outweighs you with life experience, and perhaps even in the sexual arena. I wouldn’t be surprised if he has different expectations of what traits define a relationship. You’re just in two different playing fields right now. Without a doubt, you’re still spreading your wings as a teen. Been there, done that.

It’s in your best interest to learn to take flight without the added pressure of having to catch up to somebody. You deserve to go at your own pace, and when you’re ready to fly over the threshold of adulthood who knows who you'll greet.

I think they should do what there hearts tell them!!

its what you want to do and soempeople like that or how it feels

I just think that you are doing your chiildren a disservice when you concieve them even though you don't have the proper means to provide for them. It can be much more physically dangerous to have a child before you are at least fifteen or sixteen at least. So why would you put yourself up to that risk when you can just wait a few years? What are you going to do when your kid makes straight A's all through high school and then tells you that they want to go to UVA? UVA accepts them with 14,000 dollars of scholarships but you still don't have the rest of the money to send them off. It just happened to a girl I know. The guy you are in love with now, may have a good paying job for a sixteen year old, but do YOU know about how much the average adult, successfully supporting a family gets paid? Do you know how successful they are? Ell's mom made 100, 000 dollars a year, but her dad only worked on and off, and then she got sick which racked up more medical bills than anyone should have to pay. She's paying her own way through college now, because her parents weren't prepared. You never know what is going to happen, but if you pprepare yourself for a few situations, you can save YOUR CHILDREN a little misery. Not to mention that if you are talking about yourself, you are not mature enough to have kids. Most girls at almost every age, want to have kids, but that does not mean that they should, you have plenty of time. Sorry,
Brian D.

Really...define 'child'. I am SO much more mature than most other people my age...and yet I'm still called a 'child'. And I'm not bragging, I really am more mature and intelligent than my peers. Well, most of them anyway.
Really, most people need to think twice on what they consider an adult and what they consider a child.