Should I sleep with him?

Hi
I recently went on holiday, where I met someone who lives in England (I do too). He was nice, and told me I was pretty, and seemed caring. He knew I had never had a boyfriend (because I told him) and couldnt understand it becasue he thought I was...

pretty. We talked a lot, and that day (a month ago today), he kissed me. I was taken aback. I didnt expect it. I was so nervous I was shaking and he did his best to be nice and gentle. For the following week, we saw each other every day and I liked him a lot. But, he made it clear he wanted to have sex with me. I said I didnt want to.

Since getting home from holiday, we have been texting each other almost every day, and he still insists he is desperate to have sex with me. I told him he was pressurising me to have sex with him, to which he replied he would wait until I am ready as he just wants me. But I dont know if I'm convinced. He lives a long way from me (a 4 hour drive), but is planning to come and see me in a few weeks. I dont want to disappoint him by not having sex, but I dont want to be disrespectful to myself by sleeping with him. We're not in love. I feel strongly for him, and I think he does for me too, but I just dont want to lose my virginity to someone who is never going to speak to me again afterwards.

He says he likes me for my personality as well as looks. But he never texts me unless I text him. I just think if he really liked me he would want to text me without me texting him first. But maybe I am overreacting. What do you think? Am I being unreasonable? Should I have sex with him and wait for love if and when it comes? Please respond, and thanks.

Note: I am 16 and he is 18, so having sex wouldnt be illegal.

I completely agree. You've already answered your question by acknowledging all of these doubts and reasons why not to do this. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, do no let this boy mess with it. You will regret it if you do.

Don't.

You're taking all the initiative, it's your first relationship that even feels like love, and there are a lot of uncertainties. Giving something as valuable as your whole body to someone you just met is anything but smart. I'd tell him he can come visit when he plans on visiting but not to plan on any sex, that you're going to save that for someone you really love.

See if he still makes the trip. I bet not.

Any guy who pressures you into sex, isnt going to respect you afterwards! You just met. He is telling you everything you want to hear. Theres all these RED FLAGS, that indicates he isnt into you, as much as he is the sex! Wait for a guy who wont even discuss sex until youve been dating for a long period of time. This guy is in it for only one thing! Dont mess up your life by making a stupid mistake, when you already know deep in your heart, its just not right!

Hello, I'm from England too and honestly, lads today... they try to worm their way in just to have some sex. He may well of been gentle and kind and understanding, but he is 18!!! Lads of 18 are drunken slobs here.. He surely isn't mature. He is pressurising you and when he comes down (if he does) and has sex with you that is RAPE!!! Because you didn't want it. Don't do it to make him happy, I have made that mistake before. 4 hour drive is a long way... find someone to love in your own area. There is someone for everyone. Use the internet to find people such as www.ukchatterbox.co.... or www.faceparty.com... they helped me.

Forget this lad, it was a holiday romance that won't be rekindled. He is a sex abuser. Leave it

don't do this at any cost. If you don't want to do this then why are you going in pressure. You and him both are young and not meture. In this age it is not good for you and you also not ready for it. so let yourself understand and make decision with reluxe mind. he will atteched with you only for some day and afer s*x he will try to close this reletion. And after it you feel insulted.