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I found this info on a website> I need some good and realistic advice. I asked my boyfriend nicely to throw his pictures of his exes away, but he refused and got mad. He said I was not respecting his privacy??! I asked him to give me one valid reason why he should keep it..and he can't really answer. He just said that he figured those pictures were taken prior to meeting me and were kept out of respect.
I told him that I would throw my exes' pics away at no cost, because I understand how he would feel. But he wouldn't do the same for me. I really don't understand what's the huge sacrifice about pictures of your ex if you really don't have feelings for them. I totally believe him that he really really likes me and is serious about our relationship.
But it seems like he fails to realize that him keeping pictures of his ex and not willing to throw them out for me- hurts me and makes me feel insecure. I think he is being selfish. I feel like he hasn't completely let go somehow.
To me, ex means EXIT, so everything out the door. It's the past, so move on, right?! What do you guys think?
Am I being unreasonable?
Am I asking for too much?
I'm not asking him to throw every picture he has, his friends and family pictures--strictly his ex.
What exactly is the benefit of keeping those tangible items?
I think you're being unreasonable and asking too much. Your boyfriend's life doesn't begin with you. If you want to throw out pictures of your exes, feel free, but it's disrespectful to ask him to. If you have insecurity issues, those are YOUR issues, not his, and he shouldn't be punished for them.
My boyfriend has pictures of his first love. I asked to see them one day so I could see what she looks like. They were cute together, and she was cute on her own, but I didn't feel threatened. She's his ex for a reason. Incidentally, she's also married now, and while they're sort of still friends (opposite sides of a big group of friends), they rarely see each other. Now, I could either make a big deal out of the pictures and drive him away, or I could truly show love for him by embracing everything that made him who he is, and accept everything about him and let him have his privacy and past.
Let the man have his damn photos. Let him look at them once in a while. As long as everything else in your relationship is solid and he's not pining over them or displaying them in places, things are fine. Controlling someone else = bad.



Should I be worried, mad?
I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now and our relationship is great. We love to spend time together, we have tonnes in common and our sex life is pretty awesome. So, we decided to try living together since I was at his place all the...
time anyway(this took place last month). When I was packing his stuff at his place for him I came across some pictures of him and his ex, some of which were sexual. One picture was of her in her lingerie and one was of him and her naked in bed(you could only see them from the waist up but it was obvious they were naked, the other two were just normal boy/girlfriend pics. I didn't think much of it at the time and pretended that I didn't notice them as it is something that happened in the past and she was the girl he dated right before me. However, when unpacking at our new place I found them again. He was obviously hiding them from me because they were in between some magazines. I had figured that he would have thrown them out or something since she is no longer in the picture and their relationship ended on bad terms,plus he decided to share a home with me. I am not sure how to feel about this. Should I be worried? mad? Should I confront him? Is it normal for guys to keep pictures like that once they have started dating someone else and moved in with them? On one hand I sort of understand keeping pictures, even if they are of your ex, they are just pictures. But why would you keep these kind of pictures when you have someone new? Any advice, especially by you men out there would really help me out!!