Should I write my mom a letter?

Should I write my mom a letter. Every time I try to ask her to clarify something she says the following:

"YOU ARE GOING TO KILL ME. WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME, YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE ME NOT BREATHE PROPERLY I AM GOING TO WHEEZE I HAVE HEALTH PROBLEMS...

YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT"

SHE IS 83. I MEAN THE REMARK ABOUT THE PAISLEY BLOUSE STILL BOTHERS ME. ALL I DID WAS SHOW HER THE BLOUSE AND SHE MADE THE COMMENT.

 
Sounds like she may be getting senile. Accordingly you may want to back off in dealing with her and treat her in a gentler manner.
 

grow up

if she is 83 maby you need to back off a little

Stacy, I do think you need to let this one go. Your mom can't deal with it, and it's not important. Have some confidence in yourself - if you like the paisley blouse and you know it doesn't look washed out, just wear it. Mothers make statements. Especially older ones! You need to forget about the blouse. I know it's important to you but just forgive the comment and move on.

Talk to her. If she don't understand, you need to back off.

I feel that you have obsessive compulsive disorder and at your age you should be able to go to the doctors to get some help for it. Your mum is proberbly just sick of hearing this question as we all are. I dont want to come across as harsh but I see no other way to make you understand. You need to get your own life and leave your poor mum alone for a bit. If you aske her everyday about this then its no wonder she is going to end up with (breathing) anxiety problems. Why dont you try to get out and find some social clubs you could be involved with or go and help at some elderly homes etc. Find something you can do if you dont work to take your mind of these issues for a while. I have been on here for a few months and cant remember not seeing your stacey questions up. We have all tried to help but you dont seem to take any of this help away and do somthing about it. You need to get over this however you can. Your mum could pass away tomoro and the last thing you will have remembered saying to her is "why didnt you like that pasley top?" life is too short for this.

Dear voterperson,
We've been through this before with you...you need to go see your doctor. You are having faulty thinking. You may not see it but you are being irrational and obsessive. I think what you are not telling us is that you suffering from a drinking or perhaps a drug problem? Is there another care giver in the home for your mother? Is there a care giver in the home for you? Perhaps you have a developmental disability? We don't know but we do know something is not right. So if there is another adult other then your mother there please speak with them.
Sue...good luck

Why do you act like such a child. I stopped acting like that 4 years aago