How can i get my girlfriend to want to lose weight?

My girlfriend is adorable. And we've been together for a while. I love her and think that she's the one for me. My problem is her weight.
When we first started going out, she was about 90 and she's put on about 10 pounds a year... which puts her at 137...

as of yesterday.
It bothers me because, maybe I'm just superficial, but I also take pretty good care of my body and I know it's unhealthy to be 140 at her age and height of only 5 feet. I've tried buying her things to encourage her to exercise*150$ ab lounge, exercise ball, yoga mat, jump rope, weights... but she doesn't seem to have the motivation. I also try to do active things with her like walking and being outdoors, but since I'm only around on the weekends, she doesn't form exercise HABITS.
we have talked about it and we keep track of our weights on the fridge at her house... but still no progress on her part. I'm frustrated. At this rate, she's going to be HUGE in just a few years. What should I do??

I can see that your worried about her health but you said your only round at the weekends, do you not think thats part of the problem. Maybe she comfort eats during the week to make up for you not being there. Also she has to want to lose the weight, there is no point in you trying everything under the sun if she does not want to lose weight.

Tell her that you love her, you are not being shallow, but at the rate she is going you are going to have to be with a big big girl in a few years and you dont want that. Tell her that you are trying so hard and are also getting involved but if she isnt motivated enough to lose weight not souly for you, but for herself also becos it sounds like her health may be in jeapody in a few years if she keeps gaining weight, she could end up with costly medical bills for her condition.

i think u need to take like 2 to 3 weeks off and go over to her house and help her . dont push her cuz if u do its just going to make her give up and im sure thats not wat u want. try to also have fun with her while ur doing it with her . try dancing it can really motvate her try the gym and things like that . and if she does a good job at the end of the week , u will take her out on a fancy restrant to treat her and she can order what she wants

One answer: YOU CAN'T. When dating, date a girl SKINNIER than what you want. Because almost all women tend to get comfortable, and let themselves go. When that does come to pass, hopefully they'll level out at some nice, curvy body shape. But not likely.

Then there's also the women who eat when they're happy, eat when they're depressed, and absolutely REFUSE to do any sort of exercise that exerts any effort. If a woman is not that concerned about looking good for her man, then she needs to find a guy that a) is a chubby-chaser or b) is blind. And even then, he might find the rippling rolls repulsive.

Women: you can cast your meaningless value judgements here, but they won't change human nature. Men are inherently superficial troglodytes. We're voyeuristic by nature and we like to LOOK (and be pleased) at what we're having sex with. If you don't want some shallow guy, let yourself go when you're already out playing the field. At least then, whoever you attract will love you for "you" and not your waist size. Otherwise, when you balloon out from a size three to a size sixteen, and you spend your days sitting around eating Easter candy and watching shows on TLC about "body types", you won't be wondering why your man doesn't want to fool around as much (or at all) anymore.

I'm speaking from personal experience here. I had tried to be supportive, encourage the girlfriend to exercise with me, plan meals with fat/calories in mind, and reassure her that she was still beautiful. It just got worse, and her only solutions were to buy new outfits for her ever-enlarging frame and get fat-girl haircuts. This was a relationship of close to ten years, and the thought of being saddled with an unrepentant fatty for another fifty was too much to bear. No one can accuse me of not being patient or understanding.

Relationships are about give and take. Women might think that men's obsession with slender women is silly and unrealistic. Guess what? We think your desire for romance, expensive jewelry, and someone to watch chick flicks with is downright retarded. But we provide these things when we feel you're making sacrifices as well. We're not too stupid to realize that with time and age you'll never look like you're twenty ever again. But when you're not making any efforts to impress, we see this, and don't be surprised when we kick your cellulitic butts to the curb for the "young, pretty, SKINNY girl".

Don't like what I'm saying here, ladies? Jab you right in the soft, cottage-cheese underbelly? Good. Tell it to Oprah. And when you see her, ask why Steadman never bought her a ring yet.

Good luck with this one, buddy. I've blogged about it fatgirlfriends.blogspot.com.

Watch out, she'll probably end up like this: http://fatgirlfriends.vze.com

well first of all I am not going to judge you but I do think your kinda rude, if you actually loved your girlfriend you would love her for who she is not how she looks like but anyway I know where your coming from so I am going to help you. well firstly I think you should sit her down and talk to her about this, lie to her if you have to and say that you will be forced to leave her if she dosent shape up, say that you love her the first time you saw her and explain to her that all your guy friends have such trim and slim girlfriends that you often get embarresed to show her off and thats wrong. now I am a girl as well and I think once she hears that she will feel unconfortable and be forced to lose weight...there problem sorted xxcx

I agree with fattygirl. If you loved her than you would love her for her and not just her body type, maybe shes comfrotable as she is. I mean, im not the skinniest girl ever, love handles, all that mess, a bit of a stomchaand thighs but my fiancee loves me the way I am and doesnt want me to change the same, when me and him got together I weighed about 10pounds less, but he still loves me no matter what I wiehg or how I look.

My girlfriend has a fat stomach and is close to as tall as me, 5/10" and when she takes her shirt off I want to puke...Yes I love her and she works more than I do (very active) but why she have to be a fatty? she wasn't with her X boyfriends. Anyways I had her going to the gym for about a month and she refused to go after plus ended up with a bill from the gym. Everyday she comes home with Candi bars or some kind off sugary snack. I try to make food or buy food at grocery store but she just argues and I give up. A few times I have told her shes overweight and don't care about looking good for me. She just tells me I don't love her and if I did it wouldn't matter how she looked. Its like having sex with a giant water balloon. The belly flops around like a beached whale...why would a guy get turned on by that? ya, so a relationship isn't all about sex, duh and I could go without for a long time but eventually going to want to get some action but with a bunch of bouncy sloshing around fat? I only weigh maybe 160-165 and not a very big muscular guy and she is way bigger than me. Also she tells her family that I call her fat, then they get on me about saying the same thing that looks don't matter bla bla bla and throw their 2 cents in. Her sister gets on my case about it and her boyfriend but she is fatter than my girlfriend and her boyfriend is short weird hairy guy, I call him Hobbit or Bilbo, they both ugly creatures fat or not fat. Personally I think them two and my girlfriend just feel good being fat and making me look like a bad guy, I don't know. I agree with"hunglikejesus" he should make a speech at high schools before kids graduate so they understand and have better chance of not dating someone who blows up to a form you never would have imagined. Sorry about the bad typing I'm tired and have to work shortly, so I'm in a hurry.