Sexless marriage of 7 years.

I just so happened to come across this web site, so I figured would give it a shot. I am a married man of 7yrs. When I first got married, everyting was great. However after about 6 months, sex died! : ( We went from 3-4 times a week, to about 1-2. And...

now, I'll be lucky if it is 2 times per month. I have tried talking w/her about this, but she just gets real upset and says she doesn't want to talk about it. So, of course, I have a friend who is A PD. I got him to tail her for about 2 weeks and he didn't turn up a thing. So that blew the suspicion that she was cheating on me right out the door. I asked her if she was sexually abused as a child, answer was no. She says she loves me a whole lot, and in heart and mind she wants to have sex as much as I do, however her body won't let her. I have tried just about every trick in the book of getting her turned on, but no can do. We are both 28 years old and we have 2 children together. We own our own home and make a fair and livable amount of money, so I don't think any of that is the issue. I have suggested martial counselling, big fat NO! Anybody got some input for me? It would be greatly appreciated.

You have obviously tried and tried to get your wife to have sex,and your more than hinting it's a physical problem.Your problem is a tough one to answer.
You could try to wine and dine her,flowers etc etc.To turn a woman on you have to turn her brain on first.
Perhaps having the children has made feel less desirable,arrange some quality time and perhaps take her away for a romantic break.Hope that helps a wee bit.

After bearing 2 children and 7 why marriage (7 why sex with the same man) a number of women feel like your wife does. Mainly in the so called "traditional" societies or families. Maybe asking direct questions on her sex-feelings leads nowhere. But you can show her films with love, or mild sex, go out with friends, let her to have chats, etc. and watch her with true empathy, so you may feel out her reactions, what situations move her phantasy, and that is a good starting point to understand her moderate behavior. But you have to know that this is risky a little; you may learn that she would be turned on by an other man.

hmm sooo you get married, sex is great, 6 months later sex sucks, and you still married for the next 6.5 years. So, what happened after six months...was a child born? New Job? New set of friends? Did you move? I just dont think someone would stop sex cold turkey, usually its a gradual thing. If you being romantic isnt helping, what's her excuse for not wanting sex? I can't understand why she wouldnt want to talk about it unless she is embarrass about something, maybe your PD friend is the one having the affair, maybe she has too many responsibilities put on her, maybe she has tried to talk to you about this before but maybe all you do is get mad so now she has decided not to talk about it anymore, or maybe you're the one who's cheating and she knows about it(????). These are all maybes, I'm stumped...I really dont know what to tell you if she refuses to talk to you. I guess I would need more information. Sorry.

After 2 children...? a lot of women's hormones get screwy after having children. That could be the culprit. Maybe she should try birth control pills ( which would keep her from becoming pregnant plus give her estrogen and progeserone boosts). Have her see a gyno or family doctor.

Sounds like my marriage.Could she be cheatting on u?Mine was.