What if I found out my dad smokes pot?

ok. Im 17. I just found out yesterday that my dad smokes weed. I found it in his drawer, and seeds in his trash can. Its not like him at all. Hes a very succesfull buisness man. he has a great family. Why might he be doing this? And what do I do? Am I supposed to say something? Or keep it quiet. Im not really worried about the fact that he smokes it. I honestly dont have a problem with it. But lately every time I leave the house, he says stuff like if I find out your doing drugs you will be in HUGE trouble. But hes the one smoking it.

Well the only reason he is saying that if I find out your doing it is because he dont want you to end up like him... honestly if your really worried about maybe sit down and have a talk with him, but I mean its just pot I wouldnt worry too much now if it was like crack or something then I would reallly worry.. but he seems to be doing buisness and making money so I wouldnt really make it a problem..

I guess I agree with the above comments. Parents worry if pot will lead to hard drugs for their teenagers - you probably don't have to worry about that for him! If he's still an active part of your loving family, and doing OK at work, then a bit of recreational pot is probably no big deal - the fact that he's not trying really hard to hide it is also positive, as it implies he's not ashamed or keeping it from your mother. (That would worry me, as a wife!)

But it might help to talk to him about it, not as a challenge ('Why do you lecture me when you smoke weed anyway?') but as a mature daughter, wanting to move from the 'no daughter of mine will ever take drugs' stage to the stage where the two of you can talk about drugs responsibly as adults.

Your Dad is providing for you and your family and is successful. If he chooses to smoke pot, so be it. He does not owe you an explanation. However, you should talk to him about it if it is bothering you. Secondly, you shouldn't have been snooping through your Dad's belongings. If you wouldn't have snooped, you wouldn't have known, which, is apparently the way he wants it.

My dad was the same way about cigarettes. He never smoked in front of me or my brothers. We used to find packs of cigarettes hidden behind the seat of his truck but we never said anything. When he came home smelling of cigarettes he would say he was around smokers.

I interpreted it the same way ganjamasta-42 did. He loved us and wanted the best for us so he didn't want us to smoke even if he had to be a hypocryte about it.

He's an adult, your under 18. When you turn 18, you make your own decision to smoke or abstain. Don't throw it in his face, though, that he's telling you one thing and then doing another. He's being a good father, and you should quit worrying about trivial matters such as this.

hahaha thats cool man,you guys should smoke together...dont trip over it weed isn't all that bad,you wont loose your job or your house and wont end up on the streets,just chill let him chill

CHILL TOGETHER BRO!!!

well I understand that he's still a good family member but I would still confront him.
think about his health.
and if something is illegal, I think it is for a reason.
it might hurt him in the future, and thats great if hes a good family member now but just think he might not been here that much longer...
I have been to sooo many funerals for things like this. and I wouldnt be able to live with myself if my dad died and I had the chance to save him..
but do you want you feel is right.

I completely disagree with Jesusbaby. Why on Earth would pot threaten his life? Funerals for things like WHAT? Tripping over your stash and hitting your head on the counter?

hahaha attentionham is awesome. but yeah im 16 and I found out that my dad smoked a week ago. After these people (that leave these comments) talk about it, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal ..does it? But it is to me. My dad is successful also and it really made me mad when I found this out. why would he keep it so secret? my mom has no idea. she would die if she found out. should I talk to him about it? I dont know I don't want to. I don't smoke so I dont know how great/bad it is

You must remember, our parents grew up (and possibly hit their peak) during the 60's and 70's. Smoking pot was (and in most areas of society, still is) considered 'no big deal.' As long as he doesn't start growing MJ in his closet or growing dreadlocks, I think both you and Mimipalmtree are going to be just fine.

After all, don't let your parents define you. Define yourself!

well, things have changed sense then. I dont mind in all. in fact, I have stolen some.

oh paleaseee gimme a break here.any type of drug is bad,he's saying that so you dont do it like him,and how can you not be worried?if I found out my mom was doing drugs I would ask my grandma,even though I know,and I would go to my mom,say somebody elsetold me and have a long fight with her...that'll make any other fight we've had look like a small get together conversation on politics!