Parents point of view

So I told my parents I av a boyfriend 4 da 1st time I told dem his comin over 2 introduce himself dey were ok w/ it until 2day at dinner just a few mins ago my dad sed I don't want and e 1 comin over ere 2moro & my mum sed y? I want 2 meet him. My dad repld...

& sed "well dey av different bliefs & tradition" btw wer christians & asians my dad continued "I work w/ white people & in their relationships dey av been dvorced dey are all da same dey are not in2 commitmnts!" [srry continue below]

my mum replied "but dey are not in2 dose stuff yet its just puppy love"
dad- well den if deyre not in2 a commitment why shud dey boyfriend & girlfriend!?
mum- well its just puppy love its somethin 2 remembr
dad- I don't want 2 meet him I want 2 meet his parents! and shes only 14 and your avin a boyfriend already!
mum- shes 15 and shes old enough and why do you want 2 meet his parents its not like deyre gettin married
dad- den if deyre not serious abwt it den dey shud just b frends! dey are all da same dey are gna leave you 4 someone else blieve me its wrong!

mum- den I want 2 meet him as her friend
dad- no! why is he da only 1 comin?
my bro- w8 she still has 2 go 2 college and uni. dey cant think of gettin married deyre gna break up sumday & find someone else
dad- dats da point its wrong avin loads of relationships if your not serious abwt it don't say yes 2 any 1 or don't ask any 1!
me- but we still av loads 2 go through we cnt think of avin a family already
dad- dats da point his just gna leave you deyre all da same I work w/ dem and deyre all dvorced
me- not all of dem are da sme

dad- like all teenager ere that are white just go 2 their boyfriend or girlfriend house & str8 in2 their room and da parents cant do any thing abwt it! & if your boyfriend dsnt like your attitude and you don't do what dey want deyre gna leave u!
me- (I nearly startd cryin) no deyre not all da same!
dey all left after that my nan stayd 2 talk 2 me
nan- sumtimes you av 2 listen 2 dem dey just want 2 protect you me- I started cryin
nan- your cryin don't dey just want wats bst and you still got your lyf ahead of u

Can you type in proper english please? or... sorry let me translate. cn you typ and prpr englesh plais?

xox
Sika

I know my dad is wrong not every guy is like that and when I try and tell him he doesnt listen and it breaks my heart everytime dey tlk abwt dem dis way I cnt stop cryin I cnt even think of me and my boyfriend gettin married cus his going 2 da army when his 18 I want 2 prove my parents wrong that dey are not all da samd but I don't know how I need help!! me and my boyfriend wer looking forward 4 2moro but I don't know if he shud still go my my mum wants 2 meet him but I don't know any more give me advice pls!!!

Ok I'm sorry I only read about half of that because slang gives me a headache. But something along the lines of your dad disapproves because he thinks white boys take things more casually while your mother says it's puppy love and therefore not a big deal?

Well first of all, you're 14, odds are against you marrying this guy and being with him forever.

Now as for your dad, I mean I guess he has a problem with you dating. Try to get to the exact root of the problem, why does he think dating is a bad idea, why is having relationships before you get married a bad idea.

Sounds like a real cultural clash. Thats always so hard. Would he feel differently if you were going out with a guy of your same race? Also the fact that your mum seems to be more open minded about it, but she can't convince him. Do you have any aunties or uncles on your dads side who he respects, who could take your side a bit more?