Has anyone here had a child as a result of rape?

If you were raped as a young teen, kept and raised the child, please share a little, or a lot, about you experience. It might be helpfull to a young girl I know do decide to keep, adopt or abort- or come to terms with being made to have an abortion by...

her family this week.
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Thank you.

rape in my opinion is the only time to get an abortion because it wasn't your fault!!! You didn't make the choice to be raped. Everytime you look at the baby your gunna see your rapes face you know how much that would hurt? and try telling the baby when it grows up! Even though abortion is totally wrong and it's killing life that God has created that's the only way I'd ever get one.

There's a "keep" option? Cross it. It's either adopt or abort.

No unhelpful posts opinions or judgments in this case please, the need is for experiencial information from mothers by rape, or close affected peope.
Yes I believe theres the option to keep it.

if your friend was raped and got pregnant, she should keep the child. It's still hers no matter how she got it. It still took an egg and sperm. (Her egg.) I think that it is very cruel to have an abortion because those babies have or had a life too. And they never got a chance to live it.

Your friend should first get all her crying out, pray about, forgive her rapiest, and have and KEEP this baby. Be sure to tell your friend to try to forget, but to also remember. Tell her to try to forget the pain, her rapiest's face, and evil looks. But tell her to remember the struggle, so that she may live a safer life; one for her child and another for her. Tell her to remember so that if there was something she could have done differently to prevent this from happening in the first place. Then maybe, if there was a mistake involved, she won't make the same mistake. I know forgeting but remembering sounds impossible, but it is very possible. (Once she starts to contemplate, she'll know exactly what I'm talking about)

Be sure to tell your friend not to take it out on her child. Tell her not to be bitter towards her child because she was BIG mistake made by a rapiest. Tell your friend that she shouldn't feel like she don't want to look at the child because she/he is a spitting image of her rapiest. All these things are important.

GOD bless you. Remember: God will NEVER put more on you than you can bear!

Out of curiousity: How old is your friend?? (u don't have to answer)

Can you really love someone who would remind you of possibly your worst nightmare? I don't think so. Not only would that child be unplanned, but he/she would also be unwanted. It doesn't matter if her egg took part in it; her consent wasn't. How do you think a child would feel when he/she finds out that his/her father was/is a rapist? Better to terminate the pregnancy as soon as possible. Or if abortion is not your thing, go for adoption.

By the way, I had the privilege to work with a few teenage girls who were gang-raped during a riot. Those who became pregnant (those who didn't die or kill themselves afterward, that is) couldn't get an abortion because of their religious beliefs (because obviously, God has a plan for everyone). They did feel sorry about giving up something they'd carried inside their body for nine months, but for the most part they were sorry about the rape.

it is possible to love someone who reminded you of your worst nightmare. The child didn't do anything to her. The childs daddy did. After a while, your friend won't think about the rape as much. Her and her baby will start to bond, and pretty soon, when your friend looks at her baby, she won't be reminded of the incident anymore. I have seen a lot in my years and today it rarely even crosses my mind. Compared to about 2 months after I saw it, that was the only thing that I could think about. THE ONLY THING!!! It took a few months, but now I'm O.K.

By the way, if your friend still doesn't want to keep the baby, just tell her to put the child up for adoption. Tell her to avoid getting an abortion by all means neccessary.

Also, just because your friend didnt plan this doesnt mean God didnt.

I was raped (on many occasions) but once I fell pregnant at age 13/14. I aborted it, for many reasons. One that I was way too young and wanted a life and the biggest reason of all was that it was a baby from the making of a sexual act that I did not consent to. I do not want to be reminded of that and I don't think my child would have wanted me to have him/her when they find out who their father is. If I was to have a child I would have it in a stable relationship where I love the father of the baby and he will love his child.

I still say they shouldn't get one because said, "Thou shall not kill. Thou shall not steal." you would be killing your baby (which is still like you're a murderer. you would be stealing YOUR babies life from them before they even got a chance to realize how great life can be.

well, you should think of what is best for your baby. Will he/she want to grow up with just a mom for now and know that it was a mistake? On the other hand, would you really want to give up your baby, who is Gods recreation of all of your great qualities?

once you have tha baby and start to love and care 4 tha baby, you wont just see "a mistake" but you will see someone that you love and wouldn't trade 4 tha world!

I dont believe in abortions or adoptions that is just my belief but I cant speak for this girl or young women but she should chose what she THINKS is right not what others say to DO...

I was raped at the age of 14 by a distant cousin, I kept my child and he is now one he will be two in december. I love him like there is no tommorrow I wouldn't give him up for the world. Yea I was judged and I still am judged for being 17 with a child but I will do anything for him. My son's grandparents love him to death they were disappointed in there son but they are always there for me and my child they treat me like I am there own child. I look at my son sometimes and I see the look of his father in him but I refuse to let something that precious go. I thought about abortion but there was many reasons why I kept him...
1.my mom kept me I got to see my family and grow up with them
2.abortion is the smae as killing some one (ten commandments)
3.this child might be a blessing and become the president or the next Bill Gates one day
...Every one can't have children people steal and take children everyday a child is a blessing keep him.Please if you ever want to chat e-mail me at Fun mail me

I was raped when I was 12, and I got pregnant. I was going to keep the baby, but as soon as the guy that raped me found out I was pregnant, he abused me until he was sure I wasn't anymore. T_T

I was raped about a year ago and got pregnant with twins. I knew right away that I wasn't going to have an abortion. I'm now 13 and I love of them to death. They are 1 month old girls, Meaghan Elizabeth and Liliana Rose-identical twins( born premature). Of course I have a TON of responsibility ( I can't go out with my friends all the time like I used to). My parents understood my decision and help me so much. I always go to the doctors office with them. I buy them a lot of their clothes and toys. I even help to pay the doctors bill. My parents don't make me do all of that, but I want to. I feel like my parents helped me so much this is the least I can do. I have a job at my neighbors barn. I help clean out the stalls and groom the horses and keep the tack clean. I get payed 50 dollars each day (I go 3 times a week) Now that Christmas is coming up I'm getting really excited. I've already started Christmas shopping for Meaghan and Liliana. I haven't gone back to school because I just got back from the hospital about a week ago. We had to stay in the hospital for 3 weeks after they were born to make sure that all of us were OK because of my age and size and how early they were born. Having twins at my age is a HUGE responsibilty, but I wouldn't give my daughters up for the world. Although I planed on having kids much later in my life and with a man I love (instead of with a 40 year old stranger) I DO NOT regret my decision at all. I love my girls, they are amazing and are teaching me new thing every day. I wish you the best in what ever decision that you make. God Bless

I know that my answer was long but, I have one more thing to ask. How old is the girl who was raped and got pregnant? You don't have to say if you don't want to, but you should think about how old she is. This might make a difference in her decision. If she is a teenager she might go for the abortion because she just wants to be normal with out having to care for another life. All You have to do is be behind her 100% of the time and let her know that you are there for her and support her decision.God Bless

One more thing. The doctors are really careful with young girls who are pregnant, especially if they were pregnant in result of a rape. The doctor comforted me and talked to me all through out the delivery. They told me everything they did before they did it. They gave me pain killers which helped a little but they couldn't give me as much as an adult woman, so I could still feel a lot of pain. God Bless

I almost did. Thought I was... its a tough decision but I got ready for it, in my mind. I guess it depends on how fair it is on the baby or its mum, if the mum wants it she should keep it if she thinks she can handle it... as long as there are people by her side to support her I think it will be ok x