My wife just cheated, what should I do?

You answer a lot of these and was wondering if you could help me. I found my wife having a 3 some with 2 guys I don't even know. One was really fat, the other was a black guy. I love her so much and we have 2 babies together. It happened last night, I...

saw thru the window, she doeen't know I saw her. What should I do?

John

confront her. if you can't work it out, then slam her with a divorce. obviously the love you have for her is not mutual, or else she wouldn't be whoring herself around.

I know she's your wife and you love her, but leave her. Don't try to make it work for the kids. How well could they really grow up if they grow up around a failing marriage?
And I don't think your wife could really love you or else she wouldn't be cheating on you. Just divorce her.
She cheated once, she'll cheat again.

ouch.. this has got to hurt. this is not good. I don't think things can ever be the same after this. Aaaahhh what a stupid woman!!! I would leave her too. that isn't right at all.

you sound slightly insensitive...but of course you are probably still in a bit of shock

From a woman's point of view, leave her. She obviously has no self respect. If you were seeing this thru the window, where were the children? Does she care so little that she is doing things like this with the kids in the house? To me what she is doing is worse than an affair. At least with an affair she can use the love excuse. What excuse does she have for this? You and your children would be much better off without her. I would wait and see if it happens again just to take pictures to use against her in court then have her served with divorce papers. And dont be the one to move out. Make her go.

There is obviously no communication. If she felt the need to seek out an adventurous sexual lifestyle why didn't she involve you? Not to pin it on you but a marriage does take two people.

Maybe she's unhappy and doesn't know how to tell you. Maybe she wants out. Who knows. It will be a very hurtful and uncomfortable conversation when you confront her, but a necessary one.

As a woman who just ended a marriage and had an affair - I can tell you it's not all what it seems. It has nothing to do with no self respect. (Quite the contrary!)

TALK to her. Try a counselor. You have to find out what she is doing and why she is doing it.That will determine if you two will stay in the marriage and work it out or part ways.

xox
Sika

Dear doglover1234,
First of all it sounds as though you have no communication with this women. What are you doing looking in windows and why would she think she could do this without getting caught? There are many questions around this. Are the children in danger because she is going though some psychological problems. Why would you not confront her on this??? The first thing you do is call a counsellor...set up an appointment for yourself. Call a relative and see if they can take the babies if you are concerned about her parenting. Find a place quiet to speak with her and most importantly keep your wits about you. This is indeed an odd situation and one you cannot possibly deal with alone. Seek out helps from family and a counsellor.
Sue...good luck

How is it going? havent heard from you?

ok, we are on to you...are you really married with kids/ or are you just messin around? if not we are still willing to help if the situation is under abnormal circumstances...funmail me if you want.

well..its a long story...my wife had 2 kids from a previous relationship. she is 31 and I am 24. its true, we got married 6 months ago and still havent had sex.I told her I was waiting for marrige to have sex so I am a virgin and for some reason I never feel in the mood. I get erections but if my wife undresses or something it doen't turn me on or anthing. I don't know why...so in a way, I can't blame her for cheating what should I do? I am always avoiding it because I can't get hard even with help of precription drugs.

Dear doglover1234,
If you are able to get erections normally, during the night or to porno then you do not need prescription drugs. These drugs are for those who cannot get an erection anytime. You need counselling to figure out what is happening with you. What she did was wrong but from what you describe you are suffering from some psychological disorder and need to see a counsellor ASAP.
Sue...good luck

I find this story hard to believe. It sounds like the plot of a porno.

ok...I am just going to come out and say it...are you gay? are you sure? have you ever had a hard on from male porn?

leaver find some women your own age and find someone that does make you happy and also packyour stuff and leave without her Knowing ait doesn't work with older women all the time and she had a 3 som you know you picked a nasty one