Am I supposed to think that my mom will love me anyway?

My mom hates me. I know what your going to say, "no, she just cares abt u" and that stuff. but shes always mad at me because I dont clean my room and whatnot, (I dyed my hair recently) and just found out she thinks it looks like crap, she hates my fashion...

sense, she hates basically who I am. so what am I supposed to think? oh she loves me anyway? I guess... I dunno... I just need a lil consolation, anybody willing to help me out?

Parents are parents. Because of that, there's bound to be drastic differences in opinions about what you think is fashionable and what she thinks is fashionable. She's from a different generation where different things were cool. I think it's normal for your mom to be acting this way. My parents didn't like the music I listened to and often took certain tapes and CDs away because they didn't approve. I also wasn't allowed to dye my hair until I moved out. Especially my stepmother, she tried desperately to control what I wore everyday. There are some things you two will never agree on, but until you're on your own you may just have to grin and bear it. Is it fair? Hell no. But what are you going to do? Just take it as best you can, and maybe confront her in a calm manner and tell her you don't feel good about your relationship with her when she's constantly being negative about the things you mentioned.

You know she loves you, you don't need confirmation here - try to work on being more responsible and things will be just fine...I wish you the best !!

Your mom will have to accept you for who you are. Deep down, you are still her baby no matter how old you are or whatever you decide to do. She's probably just frustrated about the messy room right now and if you took some time to clean it up it would help her out. There's no need for me to or anyone else to tell you that your mom loves and cares about you. You already know that.

Parents try to make an image of them selfs in there child. you will do it too its natural so she will adap soon(in a month least, 2 years most).

okay mom's are mom's they know you growing up fast and try to keep up like one day your best buds with someone and now you hate them or last year you liked a certian stlye now you like a complety differnt one her head is spinning with "how did my kid like that?" or "wuts up with her?" and the occasinal "when did she trun 13? wasnt she just 5 a few years ago?"
your mom is doing her best but you have to let her know that your not likeing how she is treating you so have a talk with her
good luck

Of course your Mom loves you -- she just doesn't like some of the things you do.. It's hard to be the kid, when it seems like your parent does nothing but nag at you and try to control you. And it's hard to be the parent, when it seems like your kids never listen and don't understand that you know what's best for them. Lol - that's just the way it goes.

Some once told me that mothers are harder on their daughters because they expect more from them because they are women just liek themselves. Your mother loves you trust me, my mom is the same way. She treats my brother like he is gods gift and she yells at eveything I do. Thats because she expects more from me. Do you understand? You know what I do. I say " you know what mom, I see what you mean." you are not agreeing with her and she will let a fight go. its the perfect weapon.

Keep in mind, parents aren't perfect - you won't be either when you get there - on a lot of things you'll look back and say 'Gee Mom was right' - so cut her a little slack, she loves ya !!