My girlfriend doesn't like to receive oral sex

Well, this is my problem, and I know many of you guys out there would love this problem...

My girlfriend loves oral sex... by that I mean she loves to give it, but she hates receiving it. "But drogger", you ask, "it must be your technique". Alas, it's not! I never got to even try. She pushes me away from the area as if I were a monster with a forked and barbed tongue.

All entreaties, promises... yes, and even threats are dismissed with a smile and a laviscious look downards in the direction of my groin. She says that she is already satisfied with conventional sex, and for the record, she is far from a prude.

What can I tell her? How can I prove that it will be enjoyable to her? Could the fact that she doesn't like to French kiss have anything to do with it?

- Trying hard to.. Wisconsin

Thanks for the advice. I am beginning to try and there are some results already! Thanks again!

Dude - who cares, man? Honestly - what kind of a chode are you anyway?

Listen up, want to be stud man, and listen close. You don't need to do that kind of shite to no woman. Period. End of story.

Why would you want to? Though, if she has a problem being intimate - she needs to get help. Therapy would do her a great deal of good.

Basically, therapy could convince her that something in her life made her feel 'abnormal' and thus, she would be convinced that 'normal' was the preconceived idea from the psychiatrist.

Anyway I don't know all the specifics of it, but if you want your girl to get freaky - get her some therapy. Trust me on this one, "drogger".

Otherwise -> fuggedaboutit.

You write that she is not prudent. But still, she might have a lack of selfe-confidence over her sexual organ. (Maybe she worries about what you will think of its smell or taste). Might be the same with the french kissing. Tough call how to let her know that you don't mind whatever will meet your tounge down there...

Good luck.

I think you should understand her, I mean if she doesn't like that she should have a purpose to it. But still talk to her maybe she would give you an explanation. I know you might think easy to say but hard to explain, but still you should give it a try. I mean a lot of couples have sex problems and I think you two need to have a talk!

It sounds like you care a great deal about your girlfriends and you have a heart. By letting her know her smell and taste is perfect for you. A lady would apreciate you trying to resovle some sexual issue. But if she is not interrested could you still love and adore her?

Drogger, check out this site:

http://www.the-clito...

If gives you the tips on how to do the deed. Probably you are just not having the right technique. Essential reading.

french kissin has nought 2 do wit it. It may be that the idae of you beein in freaks her out

o0o may be she jsut dont like the fact that she think it is nasty I mean I enjoy it and my friends tell me it is nasty and I tell them how do you know if you never try so ask her why she wont let you eat her out and if she say she dont like it them you got to respect it lol 4 real why would you like to eat her out if she wont like it and it wont make her feel good not saying your not good at cause I am oretty sure you r but any way just ask her

Oral sex, on the receiving end, may not be for everyone. Give her what she loves, and just forget about forcing her to be a receiver of oral sex. If she wants to give it, then let her; this is what she wants. Sex is whatever floats your own boat. Unfortunately, you are going to need to put aside giving her oral sex if she does not want this.

Have you ever thought about the fact that maybe she has a bad history with it? I know a couple of girls that have been molested and the molestation was in this manner alone, as such the idea of someone with their face down there completely turns them off and makes them relive those encounters.
Or maybe because all women have vaginal discharge, some more some less, and maybe she feels that if you get your face in that area it will turn you off because of her olfactory apprehension.
Whatever the case may be you have to address the cause before you can achieve the desired effect! Good luck with whatever path you take and remember above and beyond all else it is HER BODY!!

man if ytou find a girl that dont like Or*l s*x you better keep her bc most girl love it and if you find one that dont you are lucky quit complaining and take what she gives

dont give it to her if she doesnt want it tyou can oinly wait for her to come around if you push her to do sumthng she doesnt want you may make her uncomfortable and push her completely away so wait for her you keep recieving and stop pressurin

maybe shes self concious about down there.
tell her youll turn off the lights or something.

I tink you should respect her decision and not force her into it

Well 'thedude' in my opinion is wrong that women need to be treated equally and in most cases better (yah-its true!) if she doesnt like it talk to hjer about it and kissing thats just weird to me I don't know but its nott your technique.

~Kayla the Carebear

Could you talk to my fiance??? I'm lucky to get oral from him 2x's a year. He gets it more than that in a week...

Oral sex is wonderful and the women who don't like it (I have a few friends like this) are usually insecure about the smell and taste their lover might encounter. Make a move in the bath tub...or...if she's open to it...try using a vibrator on her clit. If this is a new experience for her she'll now have an idea about what she's been missing. Next thing you know she'll be begging you for it.
Ignore the men with the 'who cares' attitude. They are selfish lovers who don't know a thing about turning a woman on.

I donot mind kissing or any thing else but if you try to get in my pants or below my waist and above my knees I will back away I don ot like it..if she does not like it then do not do it respect her. ok

5 years ago whats chaged since

dude,,, we have the same problem... my girlfriend gives me the best oral sex ever, but she doesnt want to recieve it, and oh! I havent even seen her private part, but I already touched it, fingered and had great sex with her. She just doesnt feel comfortable with it, I dont know why, BUT! after a lot of tries she lets me do it with the lights off, man! she moans a lot!

Maybe shes insecure about her area.
Maybe she thinks she smells/tastes badly or maybe shes scared her vagina will look weird and doesnt want to be embarassed, your best bet is to not even care, if she doesnt want it dont try.