Love and family

I have a fiance and lately we've been fighting a lot over things from the past. I also get abusive when I don't get my way, I grew up as an only child with a lot of grandparents and two sets of parents who gave me everything and anything I want. I know that doesn't give me a reason to act that way but I do. How can I make it better so I don't get mean when I dont get what I want? Also, in june of 07 we decided we wanted a baby. We've been trying for a year now and I haven't concieved but now he wants to wait, because he wants to go back to school, and his job is about to call quits. I told him I didnt want to me sexually active until we had a baby, but thats going to be hard because I love sex. How do I accept his decision I'm heart broken? Any advice?

Be happy that he's going back to school and is going to try and make life easier for you and your future child. I'm going through a similar "not getting what I want" situation with my guy and the only thing you can do (my solution although it sucks I know it will work for me at least) is to take your relationship back again. Take everything out that you want for a reason other than love, which for me goes all the way back to kissing, and then make yourself learn to appreciate the things that really stem from the love in your relationship. It will help you appreciate intimate sex more than just fun sex and also help you to respect when they just want to do love things, like lay down next to you or go out and do something fun. Then just slowly integrate yourself back into doing the same things you've done before, but just think of them differently. You've got all your lives to spend together, and if you don't get what you want today, you'll get it tomorrow (and even though you want it today, you'll probably want it more tomorrow since you haven't had it). But him going back to school really is the best decision, especially with his job going under. I don't think it is an easy thing for him to do, so you should be suporting him 100% and routing him on so that he'll do well and be successful. If you one day have a dream of being a nurse or some such crazy idea, and it's what you really want to do, but it means being away from your hubby a few nights a week for school, you are going to want him there to support you.

Maybe you need to think about your education, instead of relying on someone else for support. Having a baby at 16 is totally selfish. If you are used to getting anything, & everything you want, get over it, because life doesnt revolve around you! You arent mature enough or mentally ready to raise a baby!

Many times, unfortunately, young mothers find it is just too much to continue school and they end up being drop-outs. This ruins their own chances of having a good life as well as their child's.
I have never met a mother who is thrilled that she had her baby while she was still a teenager. To help yourself make the right decision, why not talk to some women who had their babies as 16 year olds. Every teenage mom wished she waited.
Why not worry about getting an education and using that education to your advantage? If you have a baby now, it's no promise that you will finish school because you have to care for that baby.

Don't expect your parents to care for it while you are at school because once that baby is born, guess what...It's you and your boyfriend's responsibilitiy. Don't depend on mommy and daddy. Why ruin your life before you have a chance to actually live life? You have to think smart!

You both need to sit down and discuss this. There are things more important than having a baby. #1, your education which will open up doors for you and you can use those doors that are being opened to you to progress in your future.I know you want to be something when you grow up! Whatever it is that you want to be, then be it and don't sell yourself short just because you and your boyfriend want to have a baby. You have plenty of time for that.Finish school, go to college, get a job in your field. Settle down with him (if you are still together), get married, then have a child.That's how it works. You having a child now, that's backwards. Do it the right way! Make the right decision! Why bring an innoccent child into this world when you know deep down that you are not ready? That's hardship on the child and if you love your family, then why put that hardship onto them? That's being selfish because you're just thinking of yourself.

You're not thinking of how they will feel. You are 16 years old. You can't get a good paying job at 16 to provide for that child.The cost of diapers, food, medical bills (when the baby gets sick), clothes, shoes, bottles, other necessities that the baby needs; there is no way that you or your boyfriend will be able to give the baby what it needs. There is no need to depend on your parents to give the baby all that because that's YOUR baby not your parents, therefore, you are the provider.

So live your life first before making a long time committment of being a mother.You would have that child for 18 years. 18 years is a long time, and motherhood is no joke