How to get my mom to let us sleep next to each other?

My mom won't let my boyfriend and I sleep next to each other because 'Only married people sleep next to each over'... Funny thing is that the most recent boyfriend shes had, she slept next to. I know I may be young (16) to sleep next to him, but I really love him, and want to wake up next to him. I would be ok with her saying no if she didnt lie to me. If we're sleeping togeather and she knows, why cant we sleep next to each other?

What do I do to get her to tell me the truth, and how can I convince her to let us sleep next to each other?

LIfe will happen soon enough, and one day before you are ready, you will understand what your mother is trying to protect you from . If you want to cuddle, get a teddy bear. Wait until you are old enough to take on the responsibility of adulthood, before you start demanding adult rights. You have the rest of your life to sleep beside your mate, so, don't rush it.

Dear kridye09,
Think about why...she is afraid you two will engage in sexual activity. Your boyfriend should not be allowed to spend the night at your home totally...not on the couch, sleeping in the spare room etc. There is no need for him to do this and it's unnecessary. Your mother has her boyfriend over because if she were to become pregnant or get an STD she would be thinking she is old enough to be a parent and old enough to use protection. Since you are not ready to be a parent her decision for you was a good one.
Sue...good luck

Sorry to say she's sending you mixed messages, intending to set a good example but not doing so - 2 things come to my mind: 1) you are too young 2) parents aren't perfect but need to be very careful about the example they set...I wish you the best !!

I bet your mom is over 21 right. . . She is old enough to make her own rules. and not have child protective services come down on her parent for poor ethics.

Put yourself in her shoes. Would you want your 16 year old daughter sleeping with a guy when you know what guys are capaable of? Probably not. Also, I think that stuff should be saved until marriage anyway.

my mom wouldn't let my fiance & I sleep together until we'd been together for a little over a year. she's your mom. she doesn't want there to be a chance of you having sex & getting pregnant at such a young age ..
but if you ARE having sex, you need to get on birth control, no doubt.

how long have you two been together? does she trust you?

the answer is probably not a very long time, and not much.

she can do that, because she's older than you, and much more mature.

you need to grow up. sleeping next to someone isn't everything in life, and neither is sleeping WITH THEM. if you love the person enough, when you get married you can do that. why can't you wait??

I understand where your mom is comming from in due time it will happen dont rush things

Sweetheart your only sixteen. Your mother is an older mature woman. Huge difference. Right now your mother is your mother, not your room mate or big sister or best friend. When you are older maybe you will have looked back and seen just how much she really tried to protect you and shield you from the outcome of mistakes you are more than likely going to make with this boyfriend. Obviously your mother has a big heart otherwise it sounds like your boyfriend that is living in your mother's house wouldn't be living there. and as far as her sleeping next to her boyfriend, like I said, just because she is doing that doesn't mean that you should be. And if her sleeping with her boyfriend bothers you other than you don't get to sleep with your boyfriend because she does, then you should definitley tell your mother how you feel and she'll not probably not have her boyfriend stay the nights over at her house anymore. And just to also let you know, if you and your boyfriend have already you know, then her allowing you to sleep and waking up next to you would probably make a lot of trouble for her if CPS were to ever get involved, you definitely wouldn't be sleeping and waking up next to your boyfriend then. So just be happy with what little your mother is willing to let you have for now where it concerns your boyfriend.

ask if he can stay the night.. on the couch...
then give it a while.. (with him sleeping over every once in a while)
then when he falls asleep in your room 'because you guys were watching a movie'
it will be ok... but this takes time...
it will work... it worked for me anyway lol...
now mine is over every weekend!

Your boyfriend should not be sleeping over for any reason. So the fact that he is, shows that your mom is trying to accomodate you for some reason.

Your mom is an adult, you are not. Quit trying to grow up so fast.

at first my mother would not le me and my boyfriend sleep nex to each other but then I told her that we were going to sleep next to each other or I was going to move out she said somthin so I said that I was leagaly able to move out I am 16 and I can move out so she said fine you can sleep next to each other but no funny buisness or you cant well I said ok but you no teens cant keep your hands off each other so just dont let her what goes on behind closed doors lol parents go to sleep some time!lol