Is my gender a sin?

Hi. I am completely sure I'm a Bi. Once I told my friends that, and they treated me differently and wouldn't treat me as they would normally do. Then I told them it was a joke and they were fine afterwards. I want to have a relationship with a girl...

but...
No girls or boys seem to like me. I asked my friends if I was ugly, but they said I was fine. I feel so ugly, as if my heart has been immersed in uglyness. I feel really uncomfortable without a relationship. Because I see everyone holding hands and laughing and it has reached to such an extent that I have carved "ugly" on my arm.
Please I need some advice and comfort, urgently. Thanks.

If there are any all powerful gods out there, do you really think they obsess about what you do with your clothes off? Don't let ancient superstitions and myths control you.

You realize that gender = male or female. Bisexual is NOT a gender.

Bisexual is a sexuality preference.
It doesnt make you uglier than a straight person,and it doesnt make you a bad person.Im friends with so many gay and bi people,the majority of my friends.

If I were you,Id take a few steps..

First of all,I'd come out as bisexual,all the way.if your friends treat you differently,then maybe they werent really friends to begin with.I'm sure there are others that can accept you,how you are.

Secondly,Id look in the mirror and realize that your NOT an ugly person.Your gorgeous.I think teens are too harsh on themselves wanting to be thinner,or prettier.You are who you are,theres nothing you can do about it,and if you DO change it,its not being true to yourself.Maybe once you realize that you are a lovely person,others will too.

well I know some peps that change der mind of who dey want 2 b wit I would suggest that you sit down and realize what you want and if a decision cant b made read da bible like home girl said

I am glad that you tried to tell someone but try to be proud of being Bi,

I totally support you, I myself am not Bi.

But if you want to have a relationship with a girl try it out.

Its not like your the only one, adn if they treat you different they ar enot your friends.

I agree with dmn hunter. Sexuality should be a ONE WAY thing.
It's not your gender thats a sin.
its your preference.
read the bible.

What toadaly says... I honestly think God has better things to do than worry about who you love. And uhm sexuality is not a preference. You cant help your orientation.
As for your friends bit, it is really complicated. First of all you're only 14. 14 year olds arent the most mature people on earth. And in general people sometimes take a while to adapt, it's a lot for a person to absorb that another person is different... Give them some time. And be who you are. Dont worry so much. And, you are beautiful... but again, only 14, I wouldnt be worrying about relationships or labels so much.

There's nothing wrong with your sexual preference, nor your physical appearance. The PROBLEM lies with your low self-esteem.

Stop carving words on yourself... that's an order...

omg you seriously think you're ugly?? You must be crazy, I actually think you're really pretty. But I completely agree with captainassassin - you should find a way to feel good about yourself. Confidence radiates and people notice it, but it comes from within. Try wearing some makeup or buy a nice outfit. This makes me feel good when I'm having a not so good day. When your friends act "weird" it just means that they're uncomfortable, but it doesn't mean theres anything wrong with how you feel. ITs perfectly normal and common.

 
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It could just be a "thinking" phase that you are going through. Many young people go through that phase as they are trying to find their place in life. It is nothing to be ashamed of and if the end result is that you find you are gay, then that is okay too.

People are complex beings and, for various reasons, mature into life with a variety of sexual preferences. All are "right" choices, should not be condemned, and are what make up our free and wonderful culture.

Just be true to yourself.

I do not base who I am on my sexuality. A suggestion to you may be to expand your horizons a bit. Make your intimate relationship with the one you love a part of who you are,but not all of who you are. I think the media has these kids so confused today they dont know whether they are coming or going. Gay, by,hetero, transgender, same sex, blah,blah,blah. Love, sharing, augmentation, these are matters of the heart. Also it sounds like you have self-esteem issues. This is an inside job. Always people look outside to fix the inside. Hollywood doesnt help with its non-realistic love stories. "you complete me", as if by myself I am only half a person. Relationships are meant for augmentation, not completion.

P.s. you are beautiful

being bi is your sexualaity, not gender
now...
according to the bible...and if you follow "god"
yes its a sin, because pretty much everything in that stupid bible is a sin
but theres nothing wrong with you
your normal
and being by sexual certainly doesnt make you nay less human
its not something you should be ashamed of oe feel like you have to hide
you have every right to be who you are, and every right to show it
you should be proud of your sexuality and who you are
now...your friends reacted pretty hurtfully, and obviously the dont understand and cant accept you for who you really are
if you want, you can hang out with people who respect you more
...know that your not ugly...your unique
no one else in the world looks like you, be proud of who you are
obviously theres going to be people who like bi people and hate them, and you need to accept that
stay true to yourself but avccept the consequences( the only ones should be people not understanding or accepting this)
...try to talk to someone about how you feel, it feels good to get things off your chest
id suggest talking to your parents...if there open minded, theyll help you out a lot and offer you more advice
...most of all...be proud of who you are
you have every right to be

ok dont tell urself that you are ugly because your not
you have to be optimistic and dont worry about what others think
if people are judging you then they are jerks and nothing is wrong with being bi
I have lots of friends who are bi and its no big deal
you just have to find someone who you can talk to
and dont hide in a shell!

If the bible matter to you, then, yes, it is a sin. God designed us to mate with the opposite sex. He does not condone same sex.. sex. If it matters to you what God thinks, then, you can find deliverance. There are ministries out there, that specialize in this. Much of the world accepts this nowdays, but, that does not make it right, according to the bible.

Our feelings and desires will lead us astray. God sets forth his standard in his word, the Holy Bible. If you seek him, thru his word, and thru his spirit, you can be free of the unholy desires, and have a pure relationship with him.

God always loves the person, but, hates the sin.

Raimaiden94, this is what the Bible says on the matter in Romans.

(Rom 1:26 ESV) For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature;

(Rom 1:27 ESV) and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.

And no your not Ugly. You look like a very pretty young lady. . . I know some very beautiful women who think they are Ugly. . . then again I know a couple who think they are beautiful who scare me. . .
Oh some guys seem to shy away from the really pretty girls ( The guys fear they are not good enough.) So Flirt a little but keep a good moral standard also. . .

hey x
your mates might just need time to get used to the idea because I have friends that have the same problem xx

No being bi is not sin.
They mistranslated that part inthe bible.
Why do you care what other people think?
Sad thing but self-esteem matters,
tell yourself your pretty & have confdence
if you're uncomfortable it shows though(been there, done that, don't fel like going back)
Hell, in all honesty I think you're beatiful, you just need to think it to make it true.

According to the word of God there is only one preference supported by God; heterosexuality (man and woman), claiming to be born homosexual ("gay" or bisexual (both)is not real, nor is it true; it is a mistaken ideology.

I'm going to quote some Bible verses that back up what I have just said:

Romans 1:26-27 "Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion."

Is practicing homosexuality a sin? It's in the Bible, Leviticus 18:22, TLB. "Homosexuality is absolutely forbidden, for it is an ENORMOUS sin."

Can a practicing homosexual go to heaven? I Corinthians 6:9, "Don't you know that those doing such things have no share in the Kingdom of God? Don't fool yourselves. Those who live immoral lives, who are idol worshippers, adulterers or homosexuals—will have no share in his kingdom."

Do you love God? Do you desire to spend eternity in paradise with Jesus? I do and I can bet that you do to. If this is true then please consider the verses I posted in here.

I hope and pray that you'll fix your focus on God and not the lustful passions of the body. He can and He will save you if you will only come to Him and ask Him to.

So, Orion, in order to go to heaven you must be COMPLETELY without sin?
Wow, heaven must be empty.

raimaiden94 - you will have to decide for yourself. Love is hard to find and trying to be what you are not is a horrible way to go through life.
If I were you, I would discount those on this site who think that homosexuals get AIDS as a result of their sin. (Hi O)
That is a hatred that is not needed or justified. It is just judgmental hatred.
Go with your heart.
Be gay or bi or straight. Just be comfortable with yourself, proud of yourself, and respectful of yourself...
We can't convince you that you are beautiful. You have to see what we see and we see BEAUTY.