Is my best friend abusing me?

We've been best friends for two years now. He's a boy, I'm a girl, it started with him having a crush on me. That ended shortly and we became great friends. This year though, I feel like he's been getting obsessed with being popular and to hell with all...

that crap. But when he's online he's really nice. Anyways, that's just a history. I know a ton of his secrets. So my sister has this huge somewhat medical issue that has been affecting me and my whole family and it's very sad. So, I told him a little bit about it. He was very sympathetic and what not. Next thing I know my half friend half worst enemy tells me that he told her. I confront him about this. He says she begged, she said she didn't. But this is severely serious. And he's just been trying to make me feel guilty about how I'm mad at him about it. He hasn't said sorry. It was his birthday last week and I got him a present. I tell him to pick it up and he's never gotten around to it. I tell him we need to talk and he says ya, but is lazy and doesn't do anything about it. So I have to be proactive. So I sent him a text about how upset I was and he just sent me an email saying he would be antisocial with me. How come when I need him most he's acting like this? All I ask is that he make an attempt to talk to me, and apologize. But now he's been making me feel like I'm the one who needs to apologize. HELP!

To answer your question, yes! You should not feel at all obliged to apopligze to him, from what I've read you have given him countless oportunities to say sorry but he's rejected it, so don't feel guilty about it! Its not your fault that he broke the trust in your friendship, you told him in confidence something that means a lot to you then he went and told someone you aren't tight with. I wouldn'tt feel comfortable counting on him in this sitution as it seems you are likely to be hurt more. So talk to him one last time and really express to him that what he did hurt you a lot, and still if his childish behaviour doesn't change I suggest forgetting about him because the last thing you need is to be feeling guilty and upset about a problem that you didn't even cause in the first place.

Best Wishes to you and your family!

- Hayley x

your not the one who needs to apologize in this situatuion..he is the one because he is the one who screwed up by tellin your secret adn then just ignores...to me I think that he is a bad friend if he just dsnt want to apologize for what he had done...and you don't need to b friends w/ someone who is like that...<333

~steph~

You should put him out of your life. . . that sound like a prelude to some major back stabbing. He is not worth your time, forget about him.

It sounds to me like he made his choice. The only way I know of to keep a secret is to not tell anyone... that being said, there are a few people who are such good friends that they can be trusted with secrets, but they are few and far between.