Is it okay for a guy to take care of the woman he loves?

I heard about this Fun site on the local news, so I decided to check it out for myself, because there is something I'd like to ask your opinion on. And I'm asking it here because I can't tell friends or family.

I'm a straight, healthy guy in his early...

30's ( although I look about 21 ), making almost 7 figures per year, and I've always wanted that one special woman in my life that I can totally take care of. In addition to her being the special woman in my life and sharing a great life together with me, the "take care of" part means that she can depend on me absolutely for money, so that she doesn't have to worry about working. :-)

Don't get me wrong, it's not as if I'm a control freak who wants to have control over anything she does. I'm just saying that I've always loved the idea of being able to provide a nice, comfortable lifestyle for the special, beautiful woman in my life, so that she doesn't have to worry about the daily grind of work. Everything else about the relationship would be the same as it is in a successful, happy relationship.

Whether she is my wife or my live-in girlfriend ( either one is fine with me ), she would be able to wake up next to me each day and go about her day in any way that she likes, because she'll have the comfort of knowing that she doesn't have to worry about anything related to money, and she would be able to have what she wants when she wants it. ... Plus, in the event of anything unforseen happening, she would have an additional "emergency" amount from me in her account that she won't need to use, an amount that she could live on for several years if needed. That way, if anything happened to me ( if I were in an accident, or if she just wants to break up with me ), she would have that as a safety net. That would of course be seperate from the everyday money that she has access to anyway.

Do successful relationships like this still exist, relationships in which a woman's man is doing well and he totally takes care of her, and the couple is in love just like any other happy couple? I hope they do still exist. I have to believe they do. I'm a healthy, energetic, passionate guy who just wants that one special, beautiful woman in his life who isn't too shy about being comfortably provided for, age 18-30.

So, I just wanted to get your views on this. I'm sure you can understand why I wouldn't be able to just talk to anyone I know about it.

I welcome your comments, positive and negative. And I understand that you might want to keep them private, so, if you prefer, you can e-mail me instead. It's johnsmith2025 (at) yahoo.com

Thanks in advance for responding with your thoughts! ... John ;-)

theres nothing wrong with a man wanting to take care of his lady, my man does it all the time!! hes working and im only in colege so I dont get money but im applying for jobs, an he takes care of me totaly!! he wants 2 get a house together but I said not yet, as I still live at home and not working, I would like to get my own job an be able to contribute towards the bills etc, I dont want to have to depond on him fully! I still like to have my own money an do things with out asking him for money. I hate having to depend on my man for money an for him 2 buy me things it makes me feel guilty of the fact that he loves to pay for everything for me hes always takeing me shopping and buying me lots of things! wich I love but I also love to have my own money so I can buy my own things. such as my fiance doesnt agree with some of the things I do, so if I asked him for money he would give me it but wouldnt be happy with what im spending my money on, where as if I had my own money I could do them things with out him feeling crap about giving me the money for the things he doesnt agree with! xx

I had this teacher who was/& still is married to this igenier and about two years ago she retired at the age of 33 because her husband didnt want her to work. she didnt need to work but she just did it because the subject she thought was one of her greatest passions but she didnt mind quiting her job because he told her to. anyhow, in my opinion I think a relationship in where the husband provides everything for the girl, and without the girl working is fine. I mean your reason is because you want to give everything to the girl that you love because you love her, I've known of other guys who dont let their wifes work because they're too jeaolous and dont want their wifes out the house for any reason. your excuse sounds good though

Of course it's alright if you take care of your woman! I am currently in college and have no job, but stay-at-home mommy for my little one. He works like crazy though to support us and give baby & I everything we need/want. It strains our relationship. Just make sure you can be able to spend some quality time with her, she might be happy with you and love you, but if she doesn't see you that much, she is going to be sad. "Money doesn't buy happiness." Just remember to spend as much time with her as possible!

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