Is it bad to take the pill without my boyfriend knowing?

is taking the pill without my boyfriend perimission bad? my boyfriend wants a baby..he is 17 and im 15..and I want one but I want to stay at school..and get that job that I aways wanted..some advise please. thanks xxx

It is not bad if you are on pill, and I advice you to leave this boy who wants you be pregnant at 15 yo, and you need his "permission" to take pills. This relationship goes to something bad ending.

Here are some things you could discuss with your boyfriend next time he brings this up:

Are we ready to help a child feel wanted and loved 24 hours a day for the next 18 years and beyond?

Will we have the support of our family and friends?

Are we both ready to accept full responsibility for parenting and go it alone if we split up? Will we have enough money to support ourselves and a child?

Are we mature enough to keep from harming the child physically or emotionally? (We won't ridicule, humiliate, slap, hit, or threaten our child no matter what happens, no matter how frustrated we get.)

Are we ready to seek whatever counseling we need to become better parents?

Are we ready to give up our social lives with friends to take care of our baby?

Who will be the primary caretaker of the child? Will the other partner be willing to put her or his school or career plans on hold and stay home with the child?
Having a child would dramatically change how you and your boyfriend live your lives, so it's very important to think these issues through before making a decision.

Bottom line: if you don't think you're ready, you're not ready! And if your boyfriend is pressuring you to have a child when he knows you're not ready, he is NOT thinking about your needs or what you want out of life.
Its a bad thing, when you let your boyfriend control your life!

thanks for your help..thats helped a lot..the main problem is..right he lives in manchester and I live in basildon..and he is moving down here..to be closer to me..and I have tried talknig to my mum and she said im being stupid..he acts nice and polite to my family.then when we are alone..he forces me to have sex with him..he says it's the only thing that lifes for..then he brings up the child he wants..and how he will always be there..

nevr let him force you into sex

no man should ever own you rule you or force u

tell him you want to get a job and stay in scholl and if he cant take it leave him

this realasonship sounds like its going in bad directions

x x x
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Sweetie, have you really discussed this with your mum? I mean, have you told her he forces you to have sex with him, and that he wants you to have a baby right now? You really need to tell her EVERYTHING. This is NOT a healthy relationship to be in. This is a very serious situation! He is mentally, and physically abusing you! This kind of treatment isn't love; it's control.

*Emotional abusers expect more from their partners than they are willing to put into the relationship. The problem is no matter how much the partner gives, it will never be enough, and the abuser will expect more-because the relationship isnt about love for the abuser, its about CONTROL.

**If someone is forced to have sex when they don't want to, it is rape. It doesn't matter if the two people are in a relationship or if they just know one another. Rape is not about sex, it is about power. Forcing someone to have sex is illegal.**

Extremely jealous boyfriends also tend to be very controlling and emotionally abusive. They want you all to themselves and they may even start trying to force you to cut back on the time you spend with friends and family members. They say they act this way because they "love you so much," when in fact the real reason they behave this way is to try to control your every move. They want you completely under their thumb. They may have deluded themselves into thinking that they love you, but what they are doing to you is not loving behavior.

You seriously need to end this abusive relationship NOW, before you do end up pregnant. Nobody should force you to do anything that you dont want to do. Especially a boyfriend. He doesnt love, or respect you whatsoever! You have to learn how to start standing up for yourself, and to stop letting him control you. You are in control of your own body, and your own feelings. Dont ever let anyone tell you different!

Sit your mum down, and have a very serious talk with her about your boyfriend! I dont think she is getting the total picture of him! Just be open, and honest!

You shouldn't be with someone who wants to get a 15yrold pregnant...

If your boyfriend wants a 15 year old to get pregnant. Even if you were his age it would be wrong.
Dump him if he is pressuring you to have a baby.
You shouldn't be having sex at 15 anyway.
But that's just MY opinion.

And you don't want a baby. I don't think that truly in your heart you want one. . .
YET.
Just wait about 10 more years. And if your boyfriend truly wants one, he'll wait for you. And I don't think that either of you realize the exact, or even half of the responsibilies of having a baby and raising a baby.
And when the baby turns 15, are you going to tell her/him that it's okay to have a baby that young?
I don't think that you will.
I think you will regret it. You will definitley regret having a baby at 15. But if you want to ruin your life, go right ahead.
And I know I sound REALLY harsh, but I'm just telling you the straight up truth.

I meant that if your boyfriend truly loves you, he'll wait for you.

TALK to your boyfriend! Say that you want a baby but not at the moment and explain why. If he gets annoyed or dumps you he's not worth it and leave him! 15 is still really really young and if you have a baby now no-one will ever give you respect so explain this to him and tough luck if he doesnt like it! It's your life it's going to ruin so don't give in to him!
Hope this helped x