How can I explain to my parents that I'm ready to leave?

im 17 years old, turning 18 in about a month and a half, and I plan on moving in with my boyfriend as soon as that happens. we've been dating for 2 years now and I really trust him, so im not nervous about leaving with him. I've always been a good girl,...

the whole straight A's, accel classes, involved in sports, do as im told by my mother, college bound kinda girl. you know. the only person in the family who hasn't screwed up, gotten pregnant, became a druggie, ran away, I dont even CURSE in front of my elders, and the one everyone counts on not to screw up. But lately I've been having a lot of troubles at home. My family expects me to be perfect. But that pressure is just too much for me. And im ready to leave. With the kind of girl I know I am, im positive I would be successful. I wouldnt be completely on my own with my boyfriend, we'd still be with his family. And I know his family would help us if we needed it. But as determined as I am I would make sure we tried our very best when it comes to living on our own. Because its our decision that we've made and if we're going to make an adult decision we cannot rely on everybody else to be there when things get really bad. Im ready to take on that responsibility. I know my mother will NOT be happy. She's the type of mother who says she will disown me if I ever got pregnant before marriage, the typical mexican motherr; very strict. I've never gone against my mother's wishes like this before. Im just nervous that the time is only a month and a half away, and my mother and family will end up hating me, disowning me, and never want to speak to me again. Its happened to a close family friend of ours. And im sure its happened to many other girls out there, why wouldnt it happen to me? And if that does happen, that would mean living my life without my family. And God knows I dont want that to happen. Any helpful advice for this girl?

Moving in with your boyfriend and his family is not exactly showing your parents you've become a responsible adult. Sounds like you've been making great choices in your life up to now, I'd hate to see you screw up your relationship with your family at this point. Why don't you get a job and move in with a girlfriend roommate and stay in school (college). As far as your parents are concerned, I think that would make them totally proud that you've become such a responsible young woman, and you'd have your independence -you can see your boyfriend whenever you want - and your parents will not flip out about you shacking up with him. You would also gain self respect and confidence by providing for yourself. Good luck!

I'd also like to recommend the book "Ten Stupid Things Women do to Mess Up Their Lives" -- I sincerely wish I had read it when I was 20.. Please read it!

I don't mamakat gav you very good advice. Like, if your going to make the move you want to make - then make it! There's no time like the present!

Talk to your parents about it. I'm sure you'll find that they understand.

good luck x

(and tnx so much 4 the advice you gav me!)

I think yu shud just do it if yu really want to ; I mean, I understand how yu feel about yu not wantinq to disapoint yur family ; but, yur qonna have to do it at some point & if yur 18 ; yur an adult & I don't think they could really do anythinq to stop yu ; or any decision yu make ; that's a possitive chanqe in yur life yu want to make ; if yur in love do t & risk it all ; at the and of the day everythinq is qoinq to be okay ; because yur family should be proud that yu are actually doinq qood & yu seem like a really responsible qirl & they shouldn't worry ; yu shud tell em yu know what yur doinq & they shud support yu with yur decision.

& thanks for the comment =)
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I think yu shud just do it if yu really want to ; I mean, I understand how yu feel about yu not wantinq to disapoint yur family ; but, yur qonna have to do it at some point & if yur 18 ; yur an adult & I don't think they could really do anythinq to stop yu ; or any decision yu make ; that's a possitive chanqe in yur life yu want to make ; if yur in love do t & risk it all ; at the and of the day everythinq is qoinq to be okay ; because yur family should be proud that yu are actually doinq qood & yu seem like a really responsible qirl & they shouldn't worry ; yu shud tell em yu know what yur doinq & they shud support yu with yur decision.

& thanks for the comment =)
Do yu have myspace?

Well,If I were you,I wouldn't leave home just yet.I know you may want to but hold out for a few years.At your boyfriend's house you may have to help pay bills.

MAmakat explained it in one.

Moving in with your boyfriends parents and him is not showing them your responsible. You could even give off the impression you'd rather live with someone elses parents then your own. And that would hurt them badly. Just hold in for a while longer

just tell then that you lived I great life wih them but it is time for you to move out and get your own house or what ever you want to live in

its not moving in with my BOYFRIEND thats the problem.
even if I wanted to live with a girl friend of mine she would still have the same reaction
plus
im the oldest in my class
none of my friends are old enough or even responsible enough to live without their parents
they wont be old enough til next year
and my friends that are older than me are already leaving for college.
im the most responsible one out of all my friends
and im not about to babysit them