Is it possible to have a baby at 14 when I'm so small?

Ok, soo, im 14 and I want to have a baby...I weigh like around 90 pounds so is that possible? And I want a baby because I LOVE kids I love everything about them and I think this will be right for me I know im to young I know I shouldnt but I want this...

more than anything right now. Im mature and I know what I want and this is it. Soo should I? And is 90 pounds enough to have one?

While we live in this great country the USA where you have the freedom to bear a child if you wish - it doesn't mean it's the right thing for you, the father or the baby.

There are a lot of things to consider.
Are you getting a job to support the baby?
Are you financially secure?
do you have health insurance?
Is your job secure?
Do you have your own place?
What about transportation?
Will you be able to go back to work right away?
Will you have to depend on ONLY His income for a time?
Will you be dependent on your parent's income?
Are your parent's ok with that?
What if the baby is sick, is your job/school going to allow you to be away?

Here's what you should do to get a picture of WHY everyone is telling you the things they are telling you.

Get a recent newspaper and look for a place to rent. Write down how much it would cost to rent a month.

Now figure out your utilities(heat, water, sewage, trash pickup, electric etc) and how much they would cost a month.

Do you want cable tv? internet? add those costs in there too.

Car payments? Add that.

Don't forget about the delivery! It easily costs between $5,000-$8,000 for a normal vaginal delivery, up to $12,000 for a cesarean delivery and much more if there are complications. If you are covered by insurance, it may cover most of the cost.

If you plan to use disposable diapers, plan on spending between $1,600-$2,300 by the time your baby is potty-trained. Expect your baby to go through at least 7-8 diapers a day on average and spending $80-$130 a month on diapers alone (especially in the first few months, when changes are more frequent.)

For formula (up until your baby is one-year-old), expect to spend between $1,000-$2,300- depending on whether you use powder in a can or ready-to-pour liquids. Plan on spending at least $40 a week on infant formula.

Don't forget about food for you, him and baby!

This is a break-down of the average prices for baby items (not all are a necessity.)

Crib with mattress- $160-$750
Crib bedding set- $35-$270
Crib blankets (4-6)- $8-$40 each
Fitted crib sheets (2)- $8-$20 each
Water-proof mattress cover- $10-$20
Bassinet or cradle- $35-$260
Changing table- $70-$600
Changing pad & cover- $25-$50
Dresser- $90-$650
Rocker or glider- $90-$500
Car seat- $35-$280
Stroller or travel system- $30-$300
Playpen or porta-crib- $60-$180
Swing- $45-$130
Play center or walker- $50-$125
Mobile- $25-$70
Baby carrier or sling- $20-$140
Monitor- $20-$230
Baby gate- $35-$250
Bouncer seat- $30-$90
Toy box- $25-$90
Gym or play mat- $25-$90
Doorway jumper- $25-$60
High chair- $45-$240
Diaper bag- $10-$60
Diaper pail- $20-$45 Refills- $15-$20 (3 pack)
Thermometer- $10-$90
First aid supplies (kit)- $20-$30
Humidifier or vaporizer- $15-$130
Bottles 8 oz & 4 oz (8-10)- $10-$20 (3 pack) or $20-$40 (starter set)
Bottle warmer- $18-$35
Sterilizer- $30-$70
Breast pump & accessories- $45-$350
Breastfeeding pillow- $20-$35
Bath tub or seat- $15-$35
Hooded towels (4)- $6-$30 each
Wipes (a lot)- $4-$5 (pack)
Clothes for first year- $500-$1,200

Add all that up.

You're 14 and have your whole life ahead of you. If you're stressed now, think about when you have a baby! To carry a baby you do need to be at a healthy weight. But I definately don't think you should get pregnant right now. I think your desire to have a baby right now is stemming from lonliness.

Why not get a puppy or a kitten?

xox
Sika

I think I could handle one and I know im young but this is what I really want to do...

ummm are u really really sure you want to go through the hard labour or having a baby ITS a lot of work to have a child and your so younge ...im 20 and I person still think im not ready for it :S

yeah I know its going to be hard but I just really think this is good for me...is it possible for me to though?

well nothing is possible ...just your 90 pounds and for certain pple you need to be a certain weight to be able to carry a healthy baby...docters SHOULD help you with this but is your PARENTS allowing you to make this happen ??? and if the father going to be there to help you is he OK with you baring his child...you got to think of these things not just your self ...its not nice to have a child with out a father and not having the help you need from him

what is the certian weight??
And yeahh I have told my mom and dad I wanted a kid they just dont think im going to do it...But I really want to this is what I really want...=[
And I didnt really think about a father I just want a baby, like this one boy I know he's safe and all he would probably be there for the baby but I don't know...I didnt really think about that.

well I dont noe what weight should be good for you ...ud have to check the docter
but you got be sure with your parents and tell them its what you want ...and I talk about the father because you have to be finacially ready for it ...do you got the money to support this baby and are u willing to give up scool for it ...being finacially ready is IMPORTANT...im 20 im in college right now so as of this moment I dont think its the right time I have no worries about it because if I did decide to have a child my boyfriend would be backing me up a hundred percent but we arent finacially read to have and maintain a kid ...u also got to think is the boy im going to have a kid with healthy ... you got to thing of STDS...hes got to check him self as well as you to be able to have a child because not only will you harm your self you will harm the baby

Yeah...thank you a lot for your help, I do need to think a lot of things over, im just so stressed right now. But thanks girl.=]

no problem

Best Plan: education, ring, date, marriage, getting finincially stable, then baby - if you want to be smart.

umm I say dont do it. im 14 and yea, sometimes I wish I had a baby. but I was babysitting my 5month old miece who usually doesnt cry. but she was sick. she screamed sooo freakin loud I didnt knowwat 2 do. after about an hour or so I gave her 2 my mom, and said she had gas. she put up such a figth and shes not even a fussy baby!!! evn before that, I said id wait. but after that, I said that definately.

get a plan. just like amblessed said. ge you education. grow a little gain some weight or somethin but try to lve out yur teenage years to the fullest. a baby would slow a ll that down at this time in your life, and yull never get these years back. so thank about it first PLEEASE!!!

Get into babysitting instead. That way you earn the money instead of spending it, and you get the kids but can hand them back at the end of the evening! I didn't have my first child until I was 28 and I'm really grateful for my freedom up until then.

I'm 17 and pregnant.
but my boyfriend is 18.
and I came from a really bad ho0usehold. so I meant to get pregnant.
I'm not mad at the fact I am.
but it's gunna suck scratchin for money and waking up at night.
get ready hun.
I wouldnt suggest it unless you have a supportive man.

To add to why sikashimmer's comment...don't forget the 200+ diapers a baby goes through. I spend an extra 150 a month on diapers alone. She goes through more than 12 packs of wipes. And don't forget to add the lotion and baby body wash, rash cream, and Tylenol. Believe me, that's not even all of it. Just when you think it's all covered, there's one more thing that they will need! You have to make sure you're ready for all the expenses. Even though people say all a baby really needs is love, bottles, and diapers they are wrong! It's WAY more than that!

Think things over!
Good Luck
Jess

I'm 15 and I wish I had a baby sometimes,
but trust me I's not as easy as you think..
It cost a lot of money, and you have to be in a stable enviroment befor you can bring a baby into the world.
You need a boyfriend that will be there throughout the pregnancy and while the child is growing up.
You need a job for money you cant always rely on you otherhalf for money, or you parents.

Your still young and if you stressed now a baby is going to a lot put more stress on you, you need to be young live life experience things, before you have a baby..

Also you have to think of the child's future when they grow thats when it becomes more expensive.. you dont want to have a child and not be able to give it all the things you've wanted

you should seriously sit down and think if you making the right decision.

Best of Luck
get back to me and tell me how you going
monique.

look, I'm not going to say all the same things all the rest of them said, because you've already heard it(even if it really is true) but..just wait..keep your virginity and your life. children are hard. trust me I have a two year old and I'm 17. My boyfriend cheated on me and was in juovi when I was birthing my child. She's my little angel and I love her with all my heart but the only way I can afford her is to live in a one bedroom apartment and trust highschool dropouts to watch her while I'm at school. They have a program where I live that pay's me for going to school but still, it's not enough and I wish I would've just stuck to babysitting..if I could back I would.

u are too young just think about that...

Do yourself and your baby a big favor finish school go to college get a good job. Don't just have a child because you know you will love one at age 14, you have plenty of time to have a child, it is not fair to your child not give that child all the advantages you can, if you love that child as much as you say you will. Because you won't be taking care of the child , you will either be at work at some low paying job because you didn't finish school with your back and feet killing you, trying to get all the hours you can while your parents take care of your child or you will go on welfare so everybody can take care of your child and still you won't have the money to take care of all the childs needs the way you should. So do it right you will be proud you did and so will your child. Go out and babysit as much as you can to see what it is like. Its not all giving the child a bath smelling of peaches and cream and playing with your smiling child. Its wet messy, stinking diapers that have to be changed, its a bottle like every 4 hours. Its a sick child that needs to be taking care of. Its just when you get in the bed ready to pass out exhausted, the baby cries and needs to be taken care of. Its 4 am feedings. Its taking the child to the doctor for all the shots and medical care he or she is going to need which is not cheap. Its all the toys and things that baby will need. Its all the clothes and shoes the baby will need in just a few short years. Its making sure that child gets the best education so the child can do what they want in life. What about the father? The baby deserves to have a loving father in the home that will also love and take care of that child. You owe it to yourself and your child to be, if you love your child to be so much. Just think about it seriously and truthfully. Because your only 14 and will not only be affecting your life and your babies life you will be affecting a lot of others.

I think you are way too young for a baby , you're only 14 , you have time , you'll throw your life away , you need to ask yourself these questions : will my boyfriend support me ? , will I need to get a job ? , will my parents support me ? , will my parents kick me out ? , you are WAY too young for one , and you should really reconsider it

your crazy I'm 21 and my son is a handfull. just b/c you love something doesn't mean you need it

I think the phrase (in your question) "want this more than anything right now" gives you a clue. you're 14. hormones, stress, education-mean anything?