If I keep telling myself something is going to happen, will it?

I am an insecure person. Last year I had a boyfriend, I kept telling myself that he would leave me and find someone better, after 8 months he did leave me. The reason we split up was partly because of me being insecure which had a negative effect on our...

relationship and so I suppose I made my thoughts of him leaving me come true by keep telling myself he would like brain washing myself. I didn't consciously do this as I didn't want him to dump me! It was a subconscious thing because I didn't think I was good enough for him so I kept telling myself he would leave me. What my question is, is, if I were to CONSCIOUSLY tell myself the opposite could I make the opposite happen? So if I consciously kept telling myself 400 times a day that he loved me and would come back to me would it work maybe? Basically I just want to know if I keep telling myself something consciously will it eventually happen? Thank you

Unless you have magical powers, chances are that it won't work...You need to try and fix all the problems you may have with yourself. I used to be very insecure, for many reasons. But I got out, found some friends that accepted me for me and I never looked back. You can't get what people say and do get you down, or you'll NEVER be happy! Pretty isn't what all the magazines say it is, it's what YOU think it is. I can see from your picture that you are a very pretty girl and I honestly don't see why you're insecure at all. All you have to do is find a way to block out what others say, and only care about YOU. It'll be okay, I promise. Funmail me if you want to talk more, okay. Good luck
~Mrs. Bolstad

 
You have to learn to always be positive. Be positive, think positive and do positive.

If you allow yourself to wallow in negative thinking you will start doing negative things that will undermine your true goals.

Take stock in yourself. Look at your positive attributes and try to utilize them. Look at your negative attributes and try to correct them.

You have value. You are a worthwhile individual and have much to contribute to your community and the world. Don't get hung up on minor setbacks that may occasionally come along. You are capable of overcoming them.

It doesnt work that way... when you told yourself he would leave you started to treat him in a way that made him want to leave... telling yourself he loves you doesnt change the way you will act...
You need to gain some confidence and self worth, and it needs to be about you not him (the reason he broke up with you was because of you... so you need to fix you first) once you believe you truly believe that you deserve to have amazing in your life, you will find that someone, whether it is your ex or someone else...

I use to be like yu, wasent good at all.
be positive.
dont think about the bad.
it'll take a while but its worth it.
I've learned its better to be positive, if yu see yur self positive
then other people will too ;]

You became distant whenever you thought he was going to leave you so it did not feel like a relationship anymore so he finally took off. Just be happy with where you are in a relationship and do not worry about the outcome.

As for him coming back to you, you might want to explain to him what you have been thinking because it sounds like he was oblivious to everything that was going on in your mind. It's all about communication.

well I think you shouldn't think that much about him dumbing you 4a better1 ...
its life ..thats how it is you will move on anyway so just see the good sides of you .. he didn't deserved u !! just take everything as challenge !!??!!

ya, it's like when you have an appointment and you keep telling yourself: we're going to be late, I'm going to be late, in the end you miss it!
and it happens with me! when I keep telling myself, I will get my period on my birthday cause I didn't get it today, I get it on my birthday!! and when I stopped thinking that it will come on my birthday, it stopped coming on my birthday! thats how thing could go, but it doesn't always work though, I wish if it does in other things!!