How do I tell my boyfriend I want a baby?

I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months. I met him and we instantly connected. I love being with him love the way we feel together. I know he loves me we not rushing the getting married things because he was married and got divorced so im waiting...

for him 2 feel ready for that. All my friends and lots of my family have or are having babies and I feel like im ready. I've thought about having a baby since I was 16. I'm 20 now and I really want a baby every day the feeling gets stronger how do I tell my guy that I want a baby? I know that he wont leave me if I told him its just I'm scared that he might not be ready for that. I know that I can take care of a baby I have a good job and I can provide everything my baby would need but I don't know how to tell him that I want a baby. I've even dreamed about it. Can someone help me?

hey girl- I really know how you feel because im going thru the same thing.. all my gurls are havin kids and when you be walking down the street you see how cute they are and how beautiful ure baby would be because it would be part of you and part of ure man.... but at the sametime a babys alotta resposible but if you think ure ready then do ure thang.. now about tellin ure man ide be nervous too.. but you gutta let him no girl- dont do nuttin sneaky like pokin holes in rubbers and sh*t be str8 up and let him no how you feelin. that you love him and you feel ure ready 2 have his child. if he says its 2 early don't get mad just give it time.. you still young homegirl and you want to make sure ure baby has a daddy that'll be a GOOD daddy ya' no. good luck tho I hope evrything wrks out 4 the best!

Give him a chance to respond to this. You asked how you can tell him this without him leaving you. Well, honey--you don't withold information like this from a man you love as much as you say you do. If he leaves you, it is because he is smart enough to know that you aren't ready and that having a baby would be a nightmare. You must give a man the chance to make choices about what he wants in life. If he doesn't stay with you, it's because he doesn't want this. That's fair.

Let me say that you have absolutely no idea what you're asking for at such a young age. I KNOW that you think that you do. I had my son at age 21 and felt ready ready ready just like you. But you know what? He was only a baby for a year or two.

Then he grew up and needed more patience and time with me than I possibly imagined that he would need. I wanted my youth back. I loved my son, but realized I was barely in my mid twenties and began to regret, even resent having him. I was offered chances to travel and get involved with things, but my son couldn't come so I couldn't go. I wanted to travel and be free and took an interest in music and art and books. I learned how to play guitar and sing and write songs. Now I am 32 years old and my son is almost 11. He is awesome and amazing, but I fought being a mother when he was younger because I only saw "having a baby". I didn't see raising a child. Raising a person. Being a role model. I didn't that I didn't know it all yet. I didn't see kindergarten and field trips and sick calls from school and having to leave work and make my coworkers annoyed and illnessed and school lunches, daycare costs, cub scouts, karate, appointments, play dates, my ex husband, dinner every single night no matter what, homework (the kids have PILES of it these days), school functions, dealing with his emotional problems from me and his father breaking up because we HAD HIM TOO YOUNG and didn't even know who WE were before we had a child.

I married and had a child at age 21, thinking I could live with my son's dad forever and make it work because we were so alike, etc. Now I am a mucisian, a city girl, I love live music and art and bookstores and coffeeshops, people. My son's dad lives on a farm in the country, is a long haired hippie who hates the government, school systems, grows pot in the bathroom and loves tree hugging. We are night and day in so many ways and now here we have this child that we have to pass off to each other and trust that this person we don't even know anymore will take care of our son the way we would. Plane tickets and ipods and cell phone and missed birthdays and holidays. I haven't been with my son on his birthday in 4 years. I missed 3 christmases with him. Not to mention the Halloween's and costumes and Valentines from school and summer camp.

I beg of you--use your 20's to really discover who you are before you bring a child along for your ride. You will either end up putting all your dreams and fantasies on hold, or just become a selfish parent who does her own thing too much. Just look at Britney Spears.

As far as how to tell your boyfriend you want a baby--that is simple. You open your mouth and you say, "You know, for some reason I can't get having a baby out of my mind." and you give him every chance to be open with you. It's not just having a baby, you'll have to be this man's wife, too. Which is a whole different bag of stuff to deal with and you are not mature enough yet.

Just because you want something now doesn't mean you should have it. That' s thinking like a child. Consider what I'm saying strongly, ENJOY your friend's babies, but keep yourself strong and ready for the right man at the right time. If you do this now, you will become a single parent in no time. And you'll think back to this advice and say, "you know, that girl was right."

As a 32 year old single mom who got the baby and husband--listen to me, not anyone else. There will be soooo many guys that you will "instantly connect with" and love being with in life. And personally, when young girls say they don't want to rush marriage but want a baby, it just reinforces the idea that you are just a little girl who wants a doll to play with. Yes, pregnancy and maternity outfits and babies are real cute. But that only lasts for a couple of years. Then you have the rest of your life. Pregnant and unmarried 20 year olds are not cute. Older, mature, married pregnant women are.

Please think about this seriously. There is so much life you will end up missing and chances are, you will punish your innocent child for it.

NOw, go and get on norplant of some other form of effective birth control, open your windows to your life, start exploring your town and city, meet people and live your 20's out in peace. Do the right thing, here.

well, babies are fun, but be sure you want one because their work and can add a lot of stress to such a new relationship..I say just bring the subject up(without saying you want one) and then keep talking about it for another 6 months..wait till you've been together for at least a year that way..it's a little substantial.