I want to be more like my cousin

Ok well my cousin Secret is like my idol shes fat like me and she has lots
of friends shes all ways finding some thing 2 do she gets along with lots
of people she never tries 2 be some thing shes not shes smart and
determined and I want 2 be like her but...

I am nothing like her I have barely
any friends I am mega shy I never really finish any thing I like 2 have fun
but I have no friends 2 have fun with I am all ways bored and never have
any thing 2 do if you ask me what I am doing every day I will pretty much
tell you the exact same thing and I don't want 2 live like this but with out
friends it,s hard and where I live it,s small and every 1 knows every 1
there so it,s hard 2 make friends when I was little I use 2 just get
friends but as soon as 4th grade came I have been having the worst luck
with friends and life and I don't know how 2 change I am 2 scared 2 do it it,s
driving me crazy I have ideas on what I want 2 do I just don't do it cause
of how scared I am

help

first of all your not fat, your very pretty. but you can't try to be something your not. things will work out if you just be you, mabey be a little more outgoing. I remember when I was 16 or so I was envious of my older bro. better looking, alway's had some party to go to. had a ton of friends when I only had a few. And now, he doesn't really have any friends at all. and now im the one gone all the time, I still have the same friends I had back then, and I made a few more. the tables will turn to your favor naturally. don't change a thing about yourself. just be more outgoing and people will respond to that

but I don't know who I am I want 2 be like her I mean not fully like her but just those things and trust me I'm fat I just take pic,s that make me look good cause I am inbarssed of myself

but I don't know who I am I want 2 be like her I mean not fully like her but just those things and trust me I'm fat I just take pic,s that make me look good cause I am inbarssed of myself

well a little self confidence is a god way to start. you can't be subconcious about yourself. people pick up on that. the people who have the most fun in life are the ones who don't care what other people think. but you caught me as im leaving work. addme as a friend and we'll talk tomarrow or somehthin, later

ok I will

help

okay. 1st off, you're 16. it's a rough time to be living, as the most trivial things are the most important to you...that's what being 16 is all about. do you have your driver's license? get it. if you can drive and others can't that gives you a competitive edge in the friendship world. shyness is a tough thing to get over. all I can say is that you'll never grow if you don't push your limits. that cute guy you want to say hi to, but are to nervous to actually do? go over there anyways. you'll crash and burn, but you'll live, trust me. being funny always helps...have a couple quips and jokes in your arsenal, so that when you ARE in a group, even if you don't say much, the few things you say will be remembered by others. it's just all about carving a niche in the world for yourself. small town life can suck, but if you've got access to a car, go to the next town over, and meet new friends. do you go to church? if so, go to church activities. you'll find people with similar interests, who are happy to spend time with you. if you don't go to church, join a club or group that you'll be entertained in. hang out with your idol/cousin, and see what she does that makes her so cool. you'll probably notice she's not perfect. take the things from her that you like, and avoid the others. have fun with it, and ALWAYS BE POSITIVE! nobody likes a debbie downer. now go; live the dream.

okay. 1st off, you're 16. it's a rough time to be living, as the most trivial things are the most important to you...that's what being 16 is all about. do you have your driver's license? get it. if you can drive and others can't that gives you a competitive edge in the friendship world. shyness is a tough thing to get over. all I can say is that you'll never grow if you don't push your limits. that cute guy you want to say hi to, but are to nervous to actually do? go over there anyways. you'll crash and burn, but you'll live, trust me. being funny always helps...have a couple quips and jokes in your arsenal, so that when you ARE in a group, even if you don't say much, the few things you say will be remembered by others. it's just all about carving a niche in the world for yourself. small town life can suck, but if you've got access to a car, go to the next town over, and meet new friends. do you go to church? if so, go to church activities. you'll find people with similar interests, who are happy to spend time with you. if you don't go to church, join a club or group that you'll be entertained in. hang out with your idol/cousin, and see what she does that makes her so cool. you'll probably notice she's not perfect. take the things from her that you like, and avoid the others. have fun with it, and ALWAYS BE POSITIVE! nobody likes a debbie downer. now go; live the dream.

no license cause I have no money 4 that don't you think I would want it I'm 16 years old at school with out 1 and I don't have a crush I don't crush and I have no sense of humor at all and no I don't I don't believe in god I am atheist and theres no clubs or groups 2 join in my town and my because lives in a different town and I can't get 2 her she has work and school and all this other stuff and I don't go 2 school so it,s hard and I know shes not perfect I am all ways helping her with her probs she is a normal teen but I just want 2 be more like her

um ok thanks lol but how does that make me kool?

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you have to calm down, lol. look, wright me a funmail saying whats wrong and I'll help to the best of my abilities. because im not really sure what your after, I know you want to be more like your cousin but thats not enough to go off of

ok I will