What if I'm scared to lose my virginity?

okay I am 15 years old and me and my boyfirend have been dating for about 2 months now and im ready to have sex with him but this is my first time and im really scared. can anyone please help me

here is what I will say. sex is a beautiful thing. and no matter what people say on here if your going to do it you will. if you really are scared most likely yournot ready. really do you want him to be the one? just make sure you dont end up regretting it. I'm not saying do it or dont do it. I'm just saying ask yourself some questions before you proceed =]

... DONT DO IT.. listen to yourself 2 MONTHS!! I've been with my boyfriend almost 7 months and I'm STILL a virgin... I'm 15 also... With 2 months how in hell could you know that you will love him forever??!?! I was scared to say I love you to him while my parents were around at 2 months!!! Your defanitly not ready if your scared... you should be scared of sex... All you need to know is how to put on a condom correctly for you dont get stds or pregant.. gosh.. what the heck in my school we just went through a class teaching us all this stuff so we would be ready.. ugh.. I hate kids these days.. you really serrisly think that you'd be happy forever with this guy? What if he leaves you! how are you gunna tell your future husband this story.. cause beleive me guys want to know your sexual history. My boyfriend asks all the time even though I've had none! SHAME you wernt a bit smarter..

Sex if beautiful but I believe sex is a process of making baby and love not just for the pleasure for a couple of minutes so please think it over if your willing to risk the life you have now and the consequences that could come out of this

I'm not going to tell you not to.

But if you're going to then you need to be a good little girl scout and prepare. And if you can't prepare then you shouldn't do it.

First of all you need to address protection and contraceptives.
Condoms are only 80% effective.. that's pretty alarming if you think of it as having a 20% chance of becoming pregnant or a 20% chance of getting such a serious STD as HIV.

In any new sexual relationship with someone who has had multiple partners you shouldn't engage in anything until you see the results of an STI/STD screening. Then you can make your decision as to whether to go further, to proceed with caution(condoms) or forget it all together if an STI/STD isn't worth it.

If you're looking to prevent pregnancy I recommend a hormonal option such as the patch, the pill or the IUD. >>>Which is worse - Asking your mom to get on birth control, or asking if she can help raise a baby?

When we become sexually active(or turn 18) an annual gynecologist visit is very wise to make sure everything is going ok down there. Many clinics require exams in order to get a prescription for birth control.

If you decide to forgo the birth control option and just go with condoms anyway - Have a backup plan. >>> What will you do if the condom breaks?
It's good to have a plan just in case.(much like a fire evacuation plan)
Find out where the morning after pill(emergency contraceptive/Plan B) is available in your area and if you're eligible to purchase it so you know what to do to prevent a pregnancy in the event of a condom break.

Hope this helps.
Always practice safe sex.

xox
Sika

well if your sacred then your not ready wait till you know for a fact that your ready to have sex

You havent even given yourself enough time to get to know this guy! Is he the one you are planning on spending the rest of your life with, or do you just want to lose your virginity to anybody?

Here is something to ponder!>

Bad Reasons for sex too soon:
· A need for sex.
· You want the person to love you.
· Social pressure to perform.
· Nothing more to talk about.
· Boredom.
· A curiosity to find out if there's any chemistry.
· You want to make someone else jealous.
· To persuade your partner to leave his or her current partner.
· You're challenging a dare.
· An attempt to solidify the relationship.

5 Very Good Reasons to NOT Have Sex
*You don’t feel ready.
*You’re too scared to try it.
*You just don’t want to do it.
*You feel pressured by peers or your partner.
*You feel like you are being asked to prove your feelings by having sex

if you want to do it with him, then do it.
the frist time will hurt or be awkward or whatever.
but if you WANT to. don't be afraid. just enjoy yourselfa and dont worry so much about it.
body laugue is something that you learn.
but read up on it.

Don't let anyone tell you or talk you into doing something you are not ready for. If you are scared, you are NOT ready.

if you're scared then don't.

You are always going to be scared of losing your V, everyone is, but that doens't mean you shouldn't do it, that means you have to make sure you want to, I my opinion, go ahead with it, but because YOU want to, don't do it for him as a "favour" , do it for yourself, as long as you know you want to and that you are doing it for yourself, then you won't regret it.

2 months is not long enough I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year and I'm still not ready to have sex with him... as for the being scared thats natural... there are so many things for you to be scared about.. but really 2 months isnt long enough.. I've had 2 friends that did it after only dating their guy for a month or 2 and the guys left them and now one of them thinks she might be pregnant so yea just dont do it unles you know y'all both love each other

What Tha Hell... How Can Youu Be With Someone At 15 For Only 2 Months And Sooo Sure Youu Want It. If Your Questionin About Doing It Then That Means Your Not Readt DUHHH Sweetie That's Just Common Sense. and If Your Scared At 15 That Most Likely Shows That You Don't Trust Your Boyfriend For All That Yet and You Might Say and Think That You Love Him Butt It's Only Been 2 Monthsss and If You Really Did Love Him Tha Sex Would Come Naturally You Wouldn't Be Scared Cause You Trust Hi and Love Him Sooo Much That All You Can Think Of Him Going In Youh and How Good He Feels... Sooo Basically If Yourr Feeling Scared And Questionin If Your Ready Or Not Youurr Basically Not Ready Then. Because If You Were There Would B No Question To It. Me and My Boyfriend Been Dating On and Off For {{7 YEARSSS}} I Am Now 15 and Hes 16 We Had Sex When I Was 12 and He Was 13 ... and We Lost your Virginitiess To Eachother. and Neither One Of Us Was Scared At All Or Questioned It One Night It Just Came Naturally.. and Honestly 2 Months Yeh Wait About 9 More Months and If Your Boyfriend Now Isn't Still With You Within Tha Next Year Or Soo You Will Def. Noe He Just Wasn't Worth It and You Made Tha Rite Descision By Not Giving It Up After To Months. Remember You Can Only Live That Momment ONCE Tha 1st Time Only Comes Once Sooo Don't Throw It Away Yet Sweetiee Ok...

-Shaylinnn Niyee Soulliar

Don't listen to the people that come out and just say "Don't do it because blah blah blah"

It depends on YOU and your beliefs. Do you believe sex is something special? Do you believe in waiting for the feeling of being in love(I say feeling, because at a young age, you don't know for sure what that feeling is. Everyone will say they do, but truthfully it takes years and years to know what real love feels like. I'm 23 and I still don't know for sure what true love feels like)

Do you believe that sex should only be used to conceive a child, or do you believe it's for pleasure?

The point of this is, other people have their beliefs, they are entitled to that. I fought in Iraq so that everyone in the U.S. can maintain their right to believe in whatever they want to. However, they DO NOT have the right to FORCE their belief on anyone. They can say what their beliefs are, and explain why they have said beliefs. However when you look at someone else, and say "Don't do that because IT IS WRONG" instead of saying something like "I don't think you should do it, because my personal beliefs are against it" they are nothing but a fool.

You all have the right of your own opinion, but remember, that means I do as well. Just because something is "morally wrong" to you, doesn't necessarily mean it is to anyone else.

Take advice from people, listen to several different people's stories, and form your own beliefs on the subject.

My beliefs on sex are:
Sex is fun, as long as you're safe and use protection. It feels good, it's not illegal(unless you or your partner are below your states age of consent,Michigan where I'm from is 16 to have sex legally).
I do believe you should trust the person you have sex with.

So is it alright even though you're scared? I don't know, and despite the people saying "No" as if it's a fact, they don't know either. It is up to you to listen to all the different opinions, and formulate your own belief on the subject.

Don't listen to the people that come out and just say "Don't do it because blah blah blah"

It depends on YOU and your beliefs. Do you believe sex is something special? Do you believe in waiting for the feeling of being in love(I say feeling, because at a young age, you don't know for sure what that feeling is. Everyone will say they do, but truthfully it takes years and years to know what real love feels like. I'm 23 and I still don't know for sure what true love feels like)

Do you believe that sex should only be used to conceive a child, or do you believe it's for pleasure?

The point of this is, other people have their beliefs, they are entitled to that. I fought in Iraq so that everyone in the U.S. can maintain their right to believe in whatever they want to. However, they DO NOT have the right to FORCE their belief on anyone. They can say what their beliefs are, and explain why they have said beliefs. However when you look at someone else, and say "Don't do that because IT IS WRONG" instead of saying something like "I don't think you should do it, because my personal beliefs are against it" they are nothing but a fool.

You all have the right of your own opinion, but remember, that means I do as well. Just because something is "morally wrong" to you, doesn't necessarily mean it is to anyone else.

Take advice from people, listen to several different people's stories, and form your own beliefs on the subject.

My beliefs on sex are:
Sex is fun, as long as you're safe and use protection. It feels good, it's not illegal(unless you or your partner are below your states age of consent,Michigan where I'm from is 16 to have sex legally).
I do believe you should trust the person you have sex with.

So is it alright even though you're scared? I don't know, and despite the people saying "No" as if it's a fact, they don't know either. It is up to you to listen to all the different opinions, and formulate your own belief on the subject.

Don't listen to the people that come out and just say "Don't do it because blah blah blah"

It depends on YOU and your beliefs. Do you believe sex is something special? Do you believe in waiting for the feeling of being in love(I say feeling, because at a young age, you don't know for sure what that feeling is. Everyone will say they do, but truthfully it takes years and years to know what real love feels like. I'm 23 and I still don't know for sure what true love feels like)

Do you believe that sex should only be used to conceive a child, or do you believe it's for pleasure?

The point of this is, other people have their beliefs, they are entitled to that. I fought in Iraq so that everyone in the U.S. can maintain their right to believe in whatever they want to. However, they DO NOT have the right to FORCE their belief on anyone. They can say what their beliefs are, and explain why they have said beliefs. However when you look at someone else, and say "Don't do that because IT IS WRONG" instead of saying something like "I don't think you should do it, because my personal beliefs are against it" they are nothing but a fool.

You all have the right of your own opinion, but remember, that means I do as well. Just because something is "morally wrong" to you, doesn't necessarily mean it is to anyone else.

Take advice from people, listen to several different people's stories, and form your own beliefs on the subject.

My beliefs on sex are:
Sex is fun, as long as you're safe and use protection. It feels good, it's not illegal(unless you or your partner are below your states age of consent,Michigan where I'm from is 16 to have sex legally).
I do believe you should trust the person you have sex with.

So is it alright even though you're scared? I don't know, and despite the people saying "No" as if it's a fact, they don't know either. It is up to you to listen to all the different opinions, and formulate your own belief on the subject.

oops, not sure how the heck I triple posted that, but if you know how to delete 2 of those,let me know please.

don't be scared.enjoy it !!!

enjoy it.

yikes! only 2 months?
well by now it's been even longer but still.
why?
I just don't understand why kids want to have sex that young.

all I can say is if you're scared you aren't ready.
when you actually love someone youwill know that they are the one you want to be with.
don't just have sex because you think everyone else is.

hi,
its been longer than 2 months now but oh well. Are you still wiv him?. All I can say is its the one thing you can say no to when you want and know one can judge you because of it. I'm 15 and still a virgin and proud of it because I know people who have done it and regreted it. If he loves you enough he will show it by reasuring you and will wait until you are definately ready.

Email me back pls x