I need to get over my ex please help :-)

Well, what should I say? I just have this problem of getting over my exs. And there's this boy whom I was dating for two months and then we split (actually he dumped me) for.......being too shy - which is unfair because I sometimes have problems of...

talking about my feeling in english ( I am not english ) and I just wish he could have helped me overcome my shyness - which he didn't. He kind of said that I may be beautiful outside but inside I'm just boring and dull and uninteresting!!!!!!!!
Well anyway, when we met, HE was the one that used to follow me everywhere, the one that used to ask me on dates, not me - he used to be obsessed with me. But I just thought of him as of a good friend.
But when we split up, I realised that I cared for him a lot more then I realised at first......
And yes, I told myself millions of times that I HAVE to get over him, but there's just a huge problem!
For first, he's in every single class I have, so I see him every day for six hours, I can't avoid him and I have to talk to him as we are partners in biology.
Not only that, but I have a best friend, and my ex keeps flirting with her and she with him, in every lesson, EVERY single day, in front of me, which drives me absolutely mad.
For example in History they sit right behind me, and I hear them talking to each other, passing notes to each other, laughing.......
And then every day I look really sad, and depressed, I've lost lots of friends, cause they just can't stand me anymore and my marks have gone down....
But that's not all. My ex, every day in a way, gives me hopes. He flirts with me, althought I don't want him to, and last time he told me something and I actually believed him and I told him I loved him.
He told all his best friends, which are actually my best friends too (it's all messed up!!!!!!!), because before when we were all just friends we used to be kind of a group, and they stopped talking to me, because which shocked me (and this going to sound really selfish) they were jelaus!!!! All of them!!!!
I really don't know what to do! I can't concentrate on my work anymore and believe it or not I've got only one friend now!!! please help me!!!

I hear you sweetie,I really do the situation you described is just like what happened to me,I was with a guy for 2 motths it's been almost 2 years and I'm still not over him I don't know if I will ever be,I jsut want you to knwo you r not alone,there are tons of us going through the same problem,and I'm sorry to hear how your group treated u,as in for girls,there are lotsa jelous girls out there and they do that to u(being the victim myself) they stop talking to you when you r being paid attention to,I am selfconcious about myself too now,because at first my ex used to be all over me,calling me 5 times aday and after 2 months he dumped me,I'm shy too and I think that might have been the reason..I love him with all my heart and everytime I hear he might be dating someone I get this sick feeling to my stomach, I cry,eventho it's been 2 years and it sounds redicolous to still be hung up on someone who obviously doesn't care about u,and I hate the flirting part too,just if you don't want to be with me why the hell do you keep flirting...as much as it makes us happy it's only hurting us in the long run,I guess I don't have too much of advice to give you because I posted my exact same problem hoping to get some advice but coming from the same place as you r ..girl I wish I could go back and be strong when I had the chance to,u see him every day so be strong,don't let him see you still drool over him,if he doesn't find you interesting to hell with him,what can we do?...so this is our character..they could work on it,they could accept us as we r ..or maybe we just needed more time...well it doesn't seem like either of our ex's put that effort so just be strong

I had a similar problem, except my ex was a little more serious (meaning we had a very long and deep relationship!) When he broke up with me, it was the beginning of the school year and he hurt me sooo bad! you go through certain stages when trying to get over someone... the first you're distraught, you try to make him see that it was a mistake to break up, 2nd you tell ureself that you're over him and do everything in your power to show him that too! and 3rd you think about what you have lost, and if you're truely over him, then you wont think of it like "if only..." Don't let this stupid guy and your "fake" friends stop you from working!!! I had awful marks too, and because of your suffereing now... you will make it harder for ureself in the future! He's not worth all of this, you're so much better than him and don't let him play with you, if he knows that your easy to upset, then he'll do it more and more... Leave him and all of his idiotic friends alone... and show him that he hasn't upset you. ok, well I hope my advice is helpful! and good luck!

Hey! Listening to your story made me think of guy I really liked in my senior year. I did everything to show him how much I liked him, but it seemed like he didn't care. We kissed and stuff but it was clear that the kisses meant more to me than to him. He flirted with most girls in my class and they fell for it. I felt so hurt and jelous of them. I then decided to show him that I dont care about him although it was hard to pretend. I put on make up to school, sumthing I'll never do. Made styles with my hear. Just looking good and he fell for it. He started to flirt with me again and believe me or not just showing him that your not interested and that you dont fall for his stupid pick up lines, ignorining him....will hurt him as much as it hurt u. It took me a while to get over him, but playing my game made me realised that I dont want to force someone to like me. And one thing I wasnt going to do was change who I am and waht I stood for, for someone who dont deserve me. To tell you the truth I dont think he deserves you either. He thinks nothing of you if he can flirt with your friends. Not even speaking about your friends they dont deserve your friendship. He's treating you very badly by telling you your boring and stuf...think about it would you rather waste your time on making someone happy by doing all the things that you dont like. Im sure that there's someone out there who would gladly love and respect you for the person that you are. And for getting over him....the only way you can do that is by accepting that you'll never be with him. Accept the fact that he's just trying to make a fool out of you and most likely trying to show everyone that he can have you when eva he wnats to. So girl....you've got to be strong...I know that right now it feels like you'll never get over him, but believe me you will...And we all will be happy with you the day you do realise that your over him...Goodluck and remember you not the only one going through what you r right now...Dont waste your teart on spilt milk ....you stronger that that. They say that and man are worth your tears and the one who is, shouldn't make you cry

I know im a boy but this kinds situation happens 2 me!! (except wit girls obviously!) I find the best thing 2 do is find someone else!! cause no matter how much you care 4 an ex its feels so much better to get on with your life! it does! that always works for me!

well if you are really that depressed please dont cut or hurt yourself in any way because that happened to one of my friends and it was horrible, but first of course I would say try to get over him and find someone else but if you absolutly feel like you cannot do that I would say just dont be shy any more and I know thats really hard and I used to be shy because I moved out of state and had to start at a new school and it was really hard for me to find new friends but if you want to make new friends and prove to your ex that your really not as shy as he thinks you are (this is what I do) IF YOU DONT KNOW THE PERSON AND THEY LOOK LIKE SOMEONE COOL THAT YOU MIGHT WANT TO MEET JUST GO UP TO THEM AND SAY " HEY DO YOU HAVE A COUSIN NAMED JOHN (OR ANY NAME) IF THEY SAY NO THEN JUST BE LIKE REALLY because YOU REALLY LOOK LIKE THIS GUY JOHN AT MY SCHOOL AND THEN JUST START A CONVERSATION FROM THERE IF THEY SAY YES SAY REALLY WHAT SCHOOL DOES HE GO TO AND JUST START FROM THERE
IF YOU DO KNOW THE PERSON AND YOU SEE THEM AT LIKE LUCH OR SOMETHING BE LIKE HEY ARENT YOU IN MY ENGLISH CLASS OR IS IT TRUE THAT YOU AND JANE (OR ANY NAME) GOT IN A FIGHT BECAUSE SOMEONE TOLD ME THAT IF THEY ASK WHO JUST SAY I OVERHEARD IT SOMEWHERE AND JUST START A CONVERSATION
AND BEFORE YOU OR YOUR EX KNOWS IT YOU'LL HAVE SO MANY KNEW FRIENDS
AND YOUR EX WILL BE REALLY SUPRIZED AND YOU GUYS MIGHT EVEN GET BACK TOGETHER (IF YOU REALLY WANT TO OF COURSE)
THATS JUST HOW I MEET NEW PEOPLE
SO GOOD LUCK AND TRY TO TAKE MY ADVICE BECAUSE TRUST ME IT REALLY WORKS

OH AND I FORGOT TO TELL YOU ALSO TELL THAT GIRL THAT KEEPS FLIRTING WITH YOUR MAN
"HEY I REALLY LIKE HIM AND I THOUGHT THAT YOU KNEW THAT AND I ALWAYS SEE YOU FLIRTING WITH HIM AND IF YOUR TRUELY MY FRIEND THAN YOU WILL UNDERSTAND THAT I REALLY WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WOULD PLEASE STOPE FLIRTING WITH HIM
I WOULD DO THE SAME FOR YOU IF THERE WAS A GUY THAT YOU LIKED AND I WAS FLIRTING WITH HIM"

Sounds like your ex acted like a jackass. Look...OPEN YOUR EYES. Just ask to hang out with some guys! GET A DATE AT LEAST EVERY WEEK.

I think its time you got yourself new friends who see your beauty inside and out... Go meet new people and enjoy yourself. But before you do that let your former friends know how you feel.