Should I have sex with this boy I really like?

ok my brother's friend is 15 and I am 13 well his friend wants me to have sex with him but I dont know cause I dont want to loose my brother's respect and my brother already told the boy that if he put's his hand';s on me he'll kill him but I love the...

boy and dont tell me I dont know what love is cause I do...but I dont know weather or not I should have sex with this boy or not I really want to and he said if I was to get pregnant he'd be there for me and the baby I love him I just dont know what to do

13 year olds don't understand that in order for sex to be a good thing, you need two people who are mature enough to really love and trust each other. When you don't have that, sex is bad and leaves the girl feeling like she's been used.

At 13 even though you may feel turned on, it doesn’t mean you are ready to have sex. You aren’t. There is a lot more to having a good sexual experience than just feeling desire or being curious about what sex might feel like. It is really, really important to also have a healthy and trusting relationship with a partner before you have any kind sexual experience.

Any guy who truly cares about you, would never push you into sex. You just dont go around having sex with someone just because you like them. Thats all he wants you for, dont you understand that? Havent you heard of being in a relationship, getting to know each other, and have fun just being together. Why does he want sex to just have sex with you? Boys see sex as totally physical and don't get their emotions involved.

This boy is in a hurry for sex, that is a sign that he won't treat you respectfully afterward.
Don't be embarrassed or think you will sound immature by saying no to sex. Choosing not to have sex is VERY mature. It would be immature to be pressured into something you don’t want!

If he tells you, "If you loved me you'd do it”, come back at him with, "If you loved me you'd wait". Sex is NOT the only way to show your love for another person. If he loves you, he will wait forever if needed.

Keep in mind that if it was meant to be with you and this guy, it was meant to be right for BOTH of you, not only for one of you.

Remember, having sex is a big deal and not having sex is perfectly normal. Despite what you may have heard, virgins are a majority in most high schools, not a minority.

It is important to understand all the good things and bad things that can result from having sex. Sex is just one of many ways to share intimacy with a partner and it has the most serious consequences, like getting pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD).

Sweetie> you are NOT old enough to know what real love is at 13. You can choose to believe him on everything hes telling you, but he will say anything you want to hear, just so you'll have sex with him. That is NOT a good guy to be around! Listen, and respect your brother. He will always be there for you...his friend wont!
My bros friends respected my bro, and they respected me. They would NEVER have tried making a move on his little sister. If they did, my bro would have done the same thing your bro wants to do to his friend. Plus, I would NEVER have had sex with any of them! That just not right!

I think you ARE old enough to know what love is. And what love feels like. But you are NOT old enough to have sex. You should only have sex, if you are ready. And at 13, you're not. You probably are attracted to him. And I know that I've said before, listen to your heart, but your heart wouldn't tell you to. You're only 13 and you are not ready. He's probably not even ready, he's probably just turned on by you and THINKS, I say again, THINKS he's ready. But you are still just a kid. Barely a teenager. Just enjoy being a kid, you'll be grown up soon enough. And either way, what if you get pregnant? I mean, how would you handle that. And think about if you think that your brothers friend would still be around then. He might not be. He just wants sex. And he is also just a kid. Neither of you are ready or should have sex.
I hope you make the right choice! = - )

Take your time and grow up. You only get to be a kid for so long. Not long enough.

DONT DO IT

trust me I was 17 when I first had sex and I thought I was in love, but it turns out it was just infactuation. im sorry but I think you should wait until you are older. I just think it will be a big mistake and you will regret it later I promise. I thought I "love" people then too but I didnt. trust me im 20 now. and anyway all boys at that age thing about is sex, then might say they "love" you but they dont. dont let some boy get the satisfaction of taking your virginity.

Why would you be concerned about your brother's respect if you dont' even have any for YOURSELF?! Wait to share a special moment like that with a guy you really love, and that you know loves you in return. I would write something really lengthy but it has already been done.

Please, make the right choice. Don't do it. Wait for someone truly special.

You are too young to have sex, even if you like that boy who asks you for that. This is the problem and not that that boy is the friend of your brother ot not. But if you cannot stand to do that, then you should tell your brother that this is your decision and not his.

you are way too young!!! grow up a little and even if you got pregnant hows he going to support it! hes what 15 he might be able to deliver papers and well thats a good 20 dollars evry two weeks! lol good luck!

well girl I wouldnt if I was you because I belive you should save your body for your wife/husband but thats what I belive you have your own ways and I still wouldnt no matter how much you love him or he loves you because if you want trust me guys can lie BIG time been there I know and some say oh ill help you with the baby if you got preg. but then you do and there gone but then again ever boy is different I have a 22 year old husband and he is more mature then any boy who is a teen because all teen boys want one thing I bet you can guess what it is huh SEX and I dont want to be mean to you or the man you love but hun I dont think you should ok I belive in you and you will do the right things but if you do just remember when you think bad on this if you had sex with him or not will you REGRET it take care and do what you thinks right

Don't do it. All 15 yr olds are horny. He is just using you. I know you think you are in love w/him , but How Do You Know For Sure? How can you know love when you are only 13? Is this your first guy? Wait until you are older, you will be glad you waited.

thanks 4 all da advice I am still trying to figure out if I should or shouldn't though

How can you still be figuring it out? It's OBVIOUSLY A BIG NO! If you were smart and knew how to make good decisions you would not sleep with him. He only wants to get in your pants, he's using you.

If you come back and say you did, everyone one including myself who gave you wise advice to wait, will be extremely disappointed in you.

There is no 100% way to guarantee you won't get pregnant. Are you on the pill? I sure as hell hope you're not ONLY relying on a condom. Plus, you don't know if he has any STDs. I wouldn't be surprised if he did, judging by his behavior with you.

Don't do this. You WILL regret it.

Good Lord NO! Don't do it! It will turn out badly...forbidden love always does(Look at Romeo and Juliet.) Your borther means busnuiess about what he said and you should respect that. Besides your to young to get into a sexual relationship...for now stay away from that boy and be careful...ok?

Don't. He's 15, he says he's going to be there for you and the baby if you get pregnant, I don't think so! Guys just say that because they're not the ones that actually GET pregnant and don't have to go through the pain. The only thing they really have to do is "stick it up there" if you know what I mean.

ok your only 13 and you shouldnt even be thinking of that he is 2 years older then you and your 13!!! you dont want to get pregnet because you dont no if he will back you up and if you dont get pregnet you still had s** and your friends might talk aout you behind there back and say that your a slut and I dont thin you want that trust me please wait till your 17 or 18

Hunn you do what you want to but if I were you my brother would come first...wait till you are with someone you feel really good around. If you decide to do it then that's a big step in life butyou will probably have fun the regret what you did because you don't want to lose your relationship with your brother...anyways follow your heart hunn I'm going to stop rambaling now...
R.Manning

Uhh...You are very too young to have sex with a 15 year old boy but ...DONT DO IT WITH HIM...

you should do what you think is right it is your life not your bro's and plus he doesnt have to find out me and my girlfriend have been having sex for a few months now and no body no's about it if you are so desperate to do it, then do it... just be warned you are both under aged and it is ilegal for both of you under the age of 16 but hey no1 is perfect ?!?!?!?!?!?!

no you are to young.

I will say what every1 else is saying, you are too young you will relize that later

you say that you are in love, but people our age fall in and out of love all the time

My guess is that he is just trying to get into your pants

don't worry (too much) about loosing your brothers respect

sex is a big deal whether you think it is or not and if you are not sure about it then
DON'T DO IT!

personally I amgoing to save myself for my wife, not only because that is how god intended it, but also the sex is suppossed to be Much Better if you do

WAIT DON"T DO IT... I KNOW YOU REALLY LIKE HIM BUT HOW MUCH WOULD YOU LIKE IT IF YOU GOT PREGANT... IT WOULD PROBABLY BE REALLY EMBARRASSING TO WALK AROUND SCHOOL WITH A HUGE BELLY...JUST THINK OF WHAT YOU WOULD HAVE TO EXPLAIN TO YOUR PARENTS

HOPE YOU MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE

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