How long should I break up with her for?

no she isnt prego yet ..now we are trying to commuicate we both have depression an emoional problems an a lil bit of trust issue both we are trying to work things out.I am trying to get her to stop putting up walls with me but she says she been so used...

to it ever since she was younger that she cant help it. like I cant stop trying to help her out but when I do she just gets depressed for some other reason an then it rubz off on me kuz she gets allot of stress from home. I wus goining to tell her we need a break for a lil till she thinks she can let me in her head an tells me how she feals but I don't know how long to break with her for ..we want this relationship to last foreva even thoe itz most likely not we have 2 many problems an she says she still doesnt give me full trust an when I bring up the tyme she played me she gets all mad at me so itz even hard to tlk bout it with her ..I need help badly

Yes you both need help..and you must tell her out straight..hey if we really want this to work for us (and then tell her how you do) then we must accept the fact we need to get with a professional..someone from a church..or life coach..or someone you both trust..but I do think you need to both go and she sounds like she needs some medication and psycho therapy..if you don't seek this help ASAP..its not going to work..and if you take a break thinking its the answer, its not! Taking a break now with out the help of a professional guiding you is like blowing your realtionship up..so the questions is.. how much do you honesty value this relationship.. ?? if you want it to last..pick up the phone and get some help. Good luck!

You said it yourself:

"we both have depression an emoional problems an a lil bit of trust issue"

People, whether young adults or adults, with depression, emotional problems, and trust issues should not be pursuing relationships.

Look, even if you do "love" this girl, there's just no sense in being with someone who brings you down. She's a drag. I'm, you're, and everyone else is sure sorry about her family problems, but she's going to have to learn that she can't puke her problems all over everyone else and expect them to just keep taking it. It's emotionally draining.

Do what you can to be a happy person with a happy life. If that means cutting people out who are pessimistic and depressing drags, then sorry-but so be it.

We all have had broken familys and poor situations in our youth. That doesnn't give us a license to walk around being miserable and making everyone around us miserable.

The best way she can grow and mature here is to experience someone in her life telling her to shape up or ship out. That doesn't mean you can't be supportive, it just means that you want to be happy. If you just keep going along with her slow downhill ride, she'll just bring you with her and you'll never get her out or be the hero.