What if I'm scared to have sex?

my boyfriend wants me to have sex. but im only 13. I want to ya know have sex but im really scared.

do not let ANYONE pressure you into doing anything--- do it when you are ready. If he keeps pressuring you then he doesn't love you and if he doesn't love you then you certainly shouldn't be having sex with him

wuttt do you know you culd get preg and dont think about it soon you will be writing I am 14 and preg what do I do. do whatever you want. you shuld thnk better than that

your way too young hunnie.
you may think you want it.
but you don't.
you could get pregnant.
that changes the rest of your life.
you still have your sweet 16.
your 18 legal birthday.
your 21st drinking age birthday.
I'm 15 and I'm a virgin.
my boyfriend is 17 and a virgin.
there's other things you can do to pleasure each other than having sex.
if you really need more advice just funmail me or something.
loveee<3

Hi you are only 13 sweetie you are far to young to comite to something like that for instance if you get pregnant then you are trap looking after a baby it will have an effect on you schooling my daughter is 15 and not thinking about that yet over here in new zealand you have to 16 before you have s*x all I am saying is dont jump into it take care

I'm 13 also, and a virgin. I know what kind of stress that is.. but he didn't really push me into it. If you do ANYTHING.. be safe, because you don't want to mess your life up.. it sticks with you forever..and it's not going to go away..Think really hard about this choice..because it's not small..its kind of a big deal 'cause what would your parents say if they found out if you did have sex or you got pregnant. Having a baby is a big deal, and it costs a nice amount of money..soo..be careful

It means you are NOT ready!! Never push yourself into doing something just because somebody else wants it. It has to feel right for you! 13 is very young to be even thinking about losing your virgintiy! If you do, how will you feel when this boy dumps you? Just because you give this boy your virginity, does NOT mean hes going to be yours forever. Boys like to experience different girls. They have a hard time sticking with just one!

This is YOUR choice., but I really dont think you have thought this thing through nearly enough.

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hun youre too young.
I'm older than you and im a virgin.
I plan to stay that way for my future husband.
u could get preg
you dont want to get preg yet.
dont just rush into things
live your life, you still have so many years of youth before you.

Don't get preg.!!!
Ever heard of peer preasure?
Well, that's is boyfriend pressure.
You may want to but,it's just not worth it!
You are better than that.
Wait until you are 25- your 30's to do it and get married.
Get married before you have sex.
You will have a lot of finacial, and emotional problems.
YOU ARE TO YOUNG!!!
You have got all these people who are telling you not to have sex and I hope you listen to them and not have sex!!!
DO NOT DO IT!!!
DO NOT HAVE SEX!!!

well if you really think your ready you should but then again you might regret it l8ter on during your life because he might not b the 1 you r ment to b wit so my advice to you is to wait for a while and then when or if your ready then go for it

what you boyfriend is wanting is highly illegal if discovered For your Boyfriend who is probably older than you worth about 20 years prison time for a non minor or juvinile detention till he is 18 -21 depending on the state And a long probation after he is released plus he would be put on a national sex offenders list which would haunt him in Job searches and housing since he would not be allowed to live with in a certain distance from a school or playground. You on the other hand at the age of 13. . . Would alway feel some guilt over him. if you became pregnant would leave your family with another child to raise.
And if not caught would no longer have the respect of your boyfriend Trust me on that one. If he persist in his want I highly suggest dumping him even if it hurts. . . Your just in the stage of life your understanding of different emotions are developing. Give yourSelf time to learn to understand yourself better.
Your right in Being scared of Sex at this point in life, You should be terrified of the thought.
Keep in mind the longer you wait the greater respect you will have for yourself and for others, plus in gaining that knowledge you will learn to gain respect without force which many people can't do.

WELLL, BEING A TEENAGER MYSELF..I UNDERSTAND THOSE UNCONTROLLABLE RAGING HORMONES WE OFTEN GET...IF you GET MY DRIFT ;D IM NOT going to TELL YOU NOT TO HAVE SEX-BECAUSE you AND I BOTH KNOW ITS EAZYIER SAID THAN DONE! :D I MUST ADMIT I AM NO LONGER A VIRGIN MYSELF, SEX IS A BIG PART OF MY LIFE-IT MAY SOUND SAD...BUT ITS TRUE. I F%#@ LIKE A FREEKIN RABBIT. IT MAY SEEM NERVE RACKING AND SCAREY AS HE SLIDES DOWN YOUR BRA STRAP AND PANTIES...BUT ONCE you REACH CLIMATE, YOU'L KNOW IT WAS WORTH IT. TRY GOING FOR A SMALL PEN*S ON YOUR FIRST TIME AS IT WILL HURT A BIT, TRUST ME I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE. I SCREAMED BLUDY MURDER MY FIRST TIME-NOT OUTTA PLEASURE EITHER. BUT IT JUST GETS BETTER AND BETTER EVERY TIME. SEX ISNT JUST A WAY OF LIFE, ITS AN EYE OPENER TOO. THE IMPORTANT THING IS IS THAT you NEED TO FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR MANZ, AND IF THEREZ CHEMISTRY AND PASSION AND LOVE BETWEEN YOU TWO SEX WILL BE THAT MUCH MORE ENJOYABLE. I CANT STOP YOU FROM going AND HAVEN SEX AT your AGE AS IT IS ILLEGAL, BUT I CAN PREVENT YOU FROM GETTING AN STI OR PREGNANT BY TELLING YOU TO USE CONTRACEPTIVE. AND IF you GET DRUNK AND FORGET ABOUT PROTECTION THEREZ always THE MORNING AFTER PILL.

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Of course you're scared, you're young. You aren't meant to be doing anything like that yet. It won't even feel as good as it will when you are at least a few years older because you haven't developed all the nerves yet. If he loves you really he will be allright waiting until the both of you are ready. Girls aren't meant to be pressured, someone will treat you better than that, and when they do you'll regret not letting that person get to have your virginity. It isn't going to be your only chance to have sex or your only chance to fall in love, you have a really long time to live and do everything you want. Honestly iichi person seems a little wired, no offense, but I doubt you really want that.

Don't force yourself.
Do that when your ready.

I mean I should be telling you that your way too young, but I started having sex around 11.

And im pregant and 14 now =l

if you're scared, it means you're not ready and you don't really want it, you just think you do. I thought I did, but it scared me, so I waited. I waited until I felt comfortable with it. and that meant waiting until I was in a long-term, stable relationship with my boyfriend, waiting until I was old enough to go on birth control, waiting until I felt comfortable with all that, and then still doing everything I could to protect my body and not become pregnant. I was 18. I'm glad that I waited, but I still don't think I was really ready.

But because I waited and took all those precautions, I don't regret that I had sex with him. But I think it's going to be a while before we do again.

13 is entirely too young. Even if you don't want to hear it, it's true. There is no reason that he should even be asking you this. THat's just wrong. I know girls start early and everything, but it shouldn't happen. Especially if you're scared. Wait. There are plenty of other ways to have a good time at that age. Don't rush the intimacy. It won't be special, and I guarantee you'll regret it.