I don't like my best friend.

So my best friend has changed a lot in the last year and I really don't like who she is anymore. She's not bad or anything, she's just not the type of person im good at being friends with. I dont agree with anything she does and I dont like the way she...

thinks.
the major problem is, she's my link to snowboarding (the love my life). she has a condo that I go to. so I don't really want to cut it off but I dont want to be friends with her anymore. I simply can't stand her! and trust me, I've tried to make it work.

sorry for the speech.
any suggestions?

So basicly you don't like this girl anymore so you are just going to use her? I don't think that is right for you to do. If you don't want to be friends with her anymore, then don't. But just don't use her to do the things you like to do.

I kinda had the same prob last year, ok heres my story, me and my bestf were friends for a half of a year and then check this, we look about the same as me except skinny and hyper all the time. she started dressing like me, putting make up on like me and got a BAD attitude, as soon as she did that she got a boyfriend... I hardly ever got the boy she always stole him, I didnt like her anymore... the only prob is she was my ticket to her ex boyfriend. I knew he liked me, we ended up getting together and she found out that I was using her for the boy. the point of this story is she will find out no matter what.

well I dont want to use her.
I just dont know what to do.
I cant stand her but I cant stand not snowboarding.
I guess im looking for a way to make peace.

Oh and in a few dsya im leaving for camp where I have to spend two weeks in a cabin with her. I really dont want to be rude or mean to her, I dont. but I really dont know how im going to go around. I mean she's going to talk to me and I cant just blow her off.

what I really need is a good way to deal with her. how to be tolerant.

You said that it isn't going to work. So, stop being friends with her!
If snowboarding is truly something you can not live without, you WILL find a way to do it. Just don't use her. For me personaly I would want someone to just tell me they don't want to be friends with me anymore, but to find out someone was using me that would suck worse.

Hmmm, you just got to suck it up for 2 weeks.

So, face it, you're using her - you think she doesn't notice...

yeah.
trying to use her.
you have to pick one or the other.

me and my frined [skylarsquarepants] have almost exactly the same problem wiht one of our friedns. that friend has turned into sumone else...like, she is ADDICTIED to the internet, practically, plus she wasnt safe on the net..sooo. were not sure if shes our freidn anymore...funmail me, and I'll tell you what really happened...

lol. Some people seemed a bit defensive here.

I had a problem where I was friends with this girl for ages. It wasnt until year 10, I wanted to end the friendship. I didnt like her attitude, she steals, backstabbed me (and a lot of people)..well basically she got worse. I didnt want to hang around with her. It was really hard cause in some ways I was relief..but also sad at the same time. But it was for my own good. Because of her, I was quite depressed and I wasnt very happy. So moving on was my best decision.
Answer to your problem...just think: If youre not happy with her. Tell her. Cause when years go by, people do change. Different interest, personality and they mature. And then you reconsider and want to hang with other people simply the friendship doesnt seem 2 wrk out.
Snowboarding...try find other people. There are plenty of people out there.
Maybe you dont ahve to completely cut away from her. just explain you want 2 hang with other people. You can hang with her sometimes. But be careful what you say..and make sure she isnt hurt or really cut.

Do whatever you think is best for you. But reconsider things carefully. Even jot down a pro/con list.

ok, basically your friend and you have grown apart? that completly normal, as is your desire to do what you love doing.

whats changed about your relationsip? do you think she may be picking up on your 'need' for her friendship? and when your not snowboarding, do you hang out at all? or is it all focussed around the sport?

and maybe she's not the only one who as changed, and change is, sadly, an essental part of development (I'm still changing now, and I'm 31) with every experiance, new person, we all change a little. maybe we see qualitys we like or don't like, either way, we have a tendency to pick out certain traits if we like them, change em' a bit and adopt them, we've been doing it since the day we were born!

it's sad when a friendship ends, however, if you do go on holiday with her, if you two don't sort your differences out, it is likely to completely sever all ties, because you won't get on. SERIOUSLY re-think this trip with her, I realise it's already booked etc, but I really don't want you to have a bad time. maybe, just maybe, when you do go away with her, try and do some things you both enjoyed doing before you discovered snowboarding. in addition to that, if she was doing it before you, have you surpassed her in ability? if so, could she be a bit envious?

I don't know, and it's difficult, all I know is if a friendship is on the rocks, then 2 weks alone together, add a sprig of envy, a dash of resentment and a sprinkle of frustration, and you wll have yourself a bitter-stew. you need to try and sort your problems out, you say you have tried to get on with her, well maybe she is curious as to your motives? or else, maybe she is thinking exactly the same thing as you right now, puzzled whats happened to her friendship...in other words. have you actually sat down, and in an un-emotional / mature way asked if she has a problem with you? or if she's even aware that your feeling this way?

maybe she thinks theres nothing wrong, in which case, some communication channels need to be opened...I have had a friend for 26 years, and my god, we have had our ups and downs. in fact we didn't talk for 18 months because of a pig who she was with. when we bumpd into each other after they split up, it was very awkward because I was feeling resentful about er choosing this d1ck over me, and she was feeling stupid for doing it. it's taken us, oh, 4 years to get where we are...which is friends again. not the friends we were when we were 16, but its a totally different friendship where we talk, in other words, our relationship have developed and is now in track with our lifestyles and responsibiltys. just accept thats it's changed, and if she was a really good friend in the first place then you will have consideration for each others feelings.

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ok 1st if you dont like her anymore shes nawt your best frenn and second STOP USONG HER!!! thats wrong idc how much you love snowbording it isnt rite to usee someone just so you can go 2 there condo

AAAH! IM NOT USING HER!
last time I went to her condo we were pretty much chill!
that was months ago!
and everyone is kinda missing the point.
I need a way to make peace with her. we've been friends a long time and I dont want to loose that.

what I really need someone to tell me is maybe a way to talk to her or I dont know!

Well I did mention before about the whole talking to her about it. I know what youre talking about cause I've been there. I know you dont want to cut her completely out of your life. You can explain about the friendship troubles and how it had been struggling. You can suggest about how you both have developed different interest, different views and morality. You guys can hang with different people but still keep contact with each other but just not as much. You both would remain in friendly terms. That happened to me and one of my other friend.

You should try just talking to her. Tell her that you feel like you have grown apart and you dont know what to do about it. Be honest and just tell her that sometimes the stuff that she does makes you think that she has changed and its not the type of person that you really want to hang out with sometimes.
Maybe she is feeling the same way, and her actions are in response to her thinking that you have grown apart too.
The best thing to do is just talk to her. Tell her how you feel.. because you have been friends for a long time and just disappearing and never talking or hanging out is going to cause you to be enemies.
If she really did change and you talk to her and you feel like she truly isnt someone you want to hang out with then at least you tried talking and you two can go your seperate ways and not be enemies..just people who used to be really close...who have less in common now, but are still civil.