I cheated on him.

Well over a week and 1/2 ago I got really drunk and kissed another guy, nothing else happened and earlier that day we got into a really bad fight and he said the he dint want to hang out with me for a week and didn't say he was sorry. I know I shouldn't...

have cheated, it was dumb, and I regret it.
Well he wanted to break-up then he decided to just take a break. He seemed devastated. And the next day I made him a gift and I made him a card with a poem I wrote in it telling him how sorry I was and that he didn't deserve that and I would do anything to make our relationship good again.
After he got that he forgave me and decided we should get back together.

Well, since a couple days ago he has been freaking out, like turning into a psycho non-trusting jealous boyfriend. I mean I know he won't trust me the same for awhile, and I understand that. But he started calling all my friends and getting there numbers and asking them what we did that day and what time..every single person I hung out with that day. And the other day I turned my phone off cause it was dying and he flipped out and called my best friend and he said to her that I turned my phone off because "I was probably f*ucking another guy."
And he wanted the password to my myspace and at first I said no, and he was like "fine you don't trust me." so I felt bad and gave it to him; now he reads all of my messages and comments before I even get to them and signs on more on MY myspace then his.
What is wrong with this picture? I mean I know I cheated but isn't this way to extreme? What should I do? Should I stay with him if this keeps going on?

No. I know you feel guilty about having cheated and maybe you feel like you deserve this insanity, but you made a mistake, and he has to let it go. You need to lay it down, either he trusts you and stops acting like a psycho, or it is over. Dont stay with him out of guilt or whatever. You made a mistake. You came clean. You need to move past it. You cannot be punished forever for it. He cannot treat you like crap because you made a mistake. If he's lost trust and respect for you and cannot get it back, then it really is too bad... but you dont have to put up with this...

In fact, you kiss who you want. Even if that is a silly moment when doing that. Or more; you f*ck with that who you want. You b/f is more than overreacting. At your age, at his age too, few kisses with an other person is not that big sin as he is hysterizing about it.

Guilt does in fact come back to haunt us eventually and it looks like it did for you but you've learned from it, came clean, and is WILLING to make things right. If he cannot trust you then he either needs to try to gain trust back or you two should just be done with eachother. The myspace, phone, friend stuff is WAY beyond "too far" it's to the point of suffocation.

I do know if I cheated on my boyfriend I'd be done with him. We both feel mutual about the whole cheating thing too. I'd feel especially bad if he had sex with another girl because we're both virgins and plan on losing our virginity to eachother eventually when we're ready.

But if your boyfriend doesn't get his act together and learn from this he might be losing you.

I hate to tell you this, but your relationship sounds doomed. I was in your same situation only reversed. Me and my ex were having problems. We had a big fight and he told me he wanted to take some time to himself. That day I found out that he had kissed another girl. I was devastated. He apologized and I ended up taking him back but from that day on, I did not trust him. I would look through his email, look through his pockets for any notes. I would have friends spy on him - it made me a crazy miserable monster. My ex had said to me, "oh I thought you said you were going to trust me?" I did tell him that but it's a lot more complicated. It's not like a light switch. My ex couldn't take my jealousy and me constantly hounding him so in the end, he was cheating on me left and right.
If you guys really want to make it work, he has to learn to move past this and you have to realize that it's going to be hard for him to get over it. Some people never do get over it. Give him constant reassurance. Tell him that you were upset by the words he said and they way he made you feel.
You're going to be in for a very long and difficult road ahead if you do decide to make it work. I wish you luck cause it's not going to be easy. I have a feeling you're going to get fed up with his ways. And no one can blame you for that. There's only so much punishment you should have to endure.

Alright, Heres my opinion When my fiance and I started dating about a month later we got into a fight and I cheated on him. I wasn't even drunk. well I didn't tell him till like 3 months later. he was really really mad and broke up with me adn like 2 hours later we talked it out. but I was really worried that everytime we did stuff together he would be thinking that I had done it with that other guy too. I talked to him. Its been over 7 months since that happened and hes in basic for the marines right now. he has no trust in me what so ever. so I write down on a calendar where I'm at and what I'm doing and I write to him everyday and tell him what I did for that day. what I'm trying to say is talk to him about it. tell him you know he has no trust in you but your willing to work everything out as long as he was so clingy and so freaked out. I don't know if this helped any but I was just trying.

Dawn

well sweetie thats what happends when you cheat you traded that ONE moment for your mans trust. I think that if this non trusting thing goes on you should break it off with him.u deserve to be happy and he deseves some one who wont cheat on him.its gona be a difficult time for a while,do you want it that bad ? are you willing to put up with it?

He needs to make up his mind. His choices are fogive you and live in a trusting relationship again or be man enougt to admit he can not be part of the relationship because it drives him to do crazy things. If he is in it, he needs to fogive and move on. I see why he is hurt but it was not a black and white situation since HE gave YOU the week off! Trust me, the non trust just spirals from there. I have been there. Soon, you wont trust him because he will be digging through everything.