How to deal with my best friend's death?

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I just found out that my Best Friend died. She had Luekemia... I can't stop crying! I dont know what to do or think... why does life have to be this way? She never did anything to deserve death... I wish I could have taken her place...

I'm crying so...

hard I am shaking uncontrollably... and my eyes are filled with tears, my face even burns from crying so much... Oh I just dont know what to do with myself... what should I do? I dont know...

Rest In Peace Malorie Angel...
<3

I Love You

Answered by oaklandathletics on Jan 09, 2008, 07:38PM
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it is okay to cry for your loss. crying is a very normal way to get out your emotions. When my friends dad died, I took out all the pictures I had of him and just remembered all the great times we had together. It was really hard for me but crying really helped... (more in a sec)

Answered by peeweelee on Jan 09, 2008, 07:40PM
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sweetheart you know that things happen for a reason a lot of them we do not understand only God knows but you say she didn't deserve death as if death is a punishment we all must go sometime and if you give it time God will reveal to you the answers if you only ask I will say a prayer for you and your friend malorie that God may take her in his arms and I will pray for a peace for you I am sorry for your lose I know your life will change a lot but in time you will be able to look back at all the joy and fun and companionship you have shared and you will smile at the gift that god has gave you and that is time with a true friend that some people are not ever blessed with knowing.God Bless You!!

Answered by xarix on Jan 09, 2008, 07:42PM
| 16 answers.

dont worry,...as they said its normal its just life and death,..im sure they ment the world to you but its okay just think of the good times,..and realize that they are not suffering anymore

Answered by oaklandathletics on Jan 09, 2008, 07:43PM
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I really great way to help get through feeling sad and lonely is to be around other people who loved your friend like you do. It is always good to be around people who care about you and your friend.
It is totally okay to feel sad for a while but just remember that life moves on and that your friend will always be watching over you from above, like your own gardian angel.
For now just remember all the great times you had together, ones that you will never forget. And remember, it is okay to cry. I really hope all of this has helped. once again, I am really sorry for your loss and your friend is in my heart. Love,
Maya

Answered by joanna91 on Jan 09, 2008, 08:02PM
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I sorry I know what its like to lose a close friend it hurts a lot for a long time but it helps if you try to get your mind on somthing else like school and try to find somthing to take your time so your not sitting their with nothing to do couse its so hard not to think about them so try to get mabe a part time job or a club or somthing like that but it is got to cry but you got to try to move on couse I mean I doubt your friend would want you to not move on but it will take time

Answered by here2help on Jan 09, 2008, 08:09PM
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I know but she just turned 14 in September and she was so young and I love her so much. im sorry if I repeat myself but I cant think

Answered by iluvzacefron123 on Jan 09, 2008, 08:15PM
| 52 answers.

I would feel the same way

Answered by oaklandathletics on Jan 09, 2008, 08:24PM
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it's fine if you think about her for now and it is really sad but get together with other people and in a week or so, after you payed your respect to her move on and try to find something to occupy yourself with.

Answered by texaskimmie on Jan 09, 2008, 08:28PM
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My best friend (and cousin) died of Leukemia when she was 17, and I was 16. My dad died of Leukemia this past May. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's really hard. I still think of my cousin to this day and it has been many years since she died. Just remember the good times and know that she is an angel in heaven now, and will no longer have any pain. I hope things go well for you, and I will keep you in my prayers.

Answered by funadvice on Jan 09, 2008, 08:36PM
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That is something that you couldn't control. Cancer is just one of those stupid things that the government caused, or the "cancer industry" caused. My mom had cancer 4 years ago and she was sent home to die, but she cured hers w/ organic Apricot seeds, I only wish that I could have told you about them, so your friend could have possibly used them and got well. I pray that everything will turn around for you. I lost my best friend from a car wreck and know how you feel. You just honestly have to move on, I hate saying that, but that's what I had to do. And you'll get sad from time to time even later on in life, but just try to remember all the fun times yall had together. I hope you get feeling better and I'll keep you and your friends family in my prayers.

Answered by candybaby34 on Jan 09, 2008, 09:50PM
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Im sorry that you have to go through such terrible pain. It hurts to lose someone who was good and kind and who knew how to brighten a persons day. Its so hard to take. My friend died recently as well, and he was sick with cancer his whole life. He was 25. I know that is not 14, but he had such a limited amount of things that he could do in his life because of it. But he had a good attitude about life, and knew how to make the best of what he had. He inspired me not to take life for granted, and Im sure your friend would want you to carry out a full and happy life in her memory as well. Wouldn't that be a great honor?

Answered by fayfangdw on Jan 10, 2008, 04:13AM

Write a journal to her. Secondly if you had died in her place she'd be the sad one. So its happened cant change the past and I hope you never will be able to.

Answered by randyo on Jan 10, 2008, 05:34AM
| 711 answers.

It's normal to cry when someone that close to you dies. Sometimes you just have to let your tears come out. Just let them flow.

Which reminds me, I need to go call my best friend.

Answered by da1bumchick on Jan 12, 2008, 08:13AM
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Awww...sweetie it's okay 2 cry. Im so sorry 2 here about your friends death. But just know that she's in a better place. All things happen for a reason and it was just her time to go. I know you might not understand now but you will soon. Im here if you need to talk

*Charity Renee*

Answered by zakaru on Jan 23, 2008, 03:46PM
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I'm no counciler, but my friend's friend recently died, and she wrote a bunch of poems about him, and I think you should give it a try... write down your feelings, and just talk to someone... go ahead and cry, because it's ok... eventually, peace will come, and you will begin to grip reality. You will always miss her, but hopefully life will get easier as time passes by...

*good luck and be strong, brave one!*

Answered by funadvice on Jan 29, 2008, 07:53PM
| 42400 answers.

every1 deserves death. that is why we actually die.

Answered by xxjulixx on May 31, 2008, 05:20PM
| 834 answers.

Cry it all out. Because someday you'll look back on this. Remember, that everyone dies someday. And that this wasn't your fault, so you shouldn't be sad. I know that your friend in heaven would probably not be happy to see you crying over her. You have to move on and live for the sake of your friend.

Answered by sumweirdoxd on Jun 09, 2008, 10:14AM
| 44 answers.

I know it's hard but put your feelings for her in a positive way...what I mean is celebrate her life with your friends and family...remember her and all the joy she gave to you and the people around her. My best friend has never died so I admit I have no idea what it's like but a girl did die in my school and her best friend was devastated. So the mourning best friend celebrated her friends life she and other friends that knew Sassy (r.I.p) reminisced on the good memories they had with her. Now they are ok they still think of Sassy (r.I.p) everyday but it makes it easier to deal with if you stick around with the people that loved Malorie most. I hope this helps.

R.I.P Sassy
R.I.P Malorie
Hope things get easier...x

Answered by iluvskylar1994 on Oct 20, 2008, 06:33PM
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WHEN MY FATHER DIED,I HELD IT ALL IN.THAT WAS WRONG OF ME.IF YOU HOLD IT IN,THE EMOTIONS WILL EAT YOU ALIVE.IM SORRY ABOUT your FRIEND.IT WAS HER TIME TO GO AND I WILL DEFINANTLY PRAY 4 YOU.IT IS HARD TO DEAL WITH A LOSS.WHEN MY FATHER DIED I WAS SOOO SAD.LET IT OUT,YOU JUST LET IT OUT!JESUS IS WITH HER AND YOU ALWAYS.SORRY AGAIN ABOUT THE TRAGITY.JUST TAKE SOME TIME 4 URSELF AND CRY IT ALL OUT.TRUST ME IT WORKS.GOD BLESS YOU AND your FRIENDS FAMILY.

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