I apologize if I make anyone angry

I look so young here. Asked by dawnathen 4 months ago, 12 answers.

I try my hardest to give the advice people are looking for on subjects I am aware of. If I make anyone angry about my advice will you please let me know?

Answered by mikeh on Jul 10, 2008, 04:36PM
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If we want to hear the entire story, it was dawnathen who first started posting unpleasant comments on my profile long before I ever contacted her. She asked if I had a problem with her and I said no. She posted ANOTHER comment on my profile, and only then did I get defensive. I'm perfectly willing to let the matter drop, because this tattling business has reached a strange level of immaturity, but I don't want the picture painted that I was harrassing another user. She did indeed contact me first.

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Answered by stephanief987 on Jul 10, 2008, 03:20PM
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Some people will still get angry even though you have good advice - you'll notice that if people don't hear what they *want* to hear, they get mad even though your answer was helpful. For example:
A girl funmailed me yesterday wanting to know if precum could get her pregnant and wasn't sure if she should be worried and I sent her a FunMail saying "yeah of course"... even though my answer was truthful and helpful, answering what she asked - she wasn't satisfied because thats not what she *wanted* to hear so she sent me this back
"thanks you rele make me feel better.
-NOT."

So don't worry about the unhappy people like that - just give truthful, respectful advice and you'll be good to go. Never expect to satisfy every person you give advice to.

Answered by dawnathen on Jul 10, 2008, 03:22PM
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I just got cut down big time by another user on here for advice I gave someone else. He made me feel low and stupid. I researched his question before answering it and he just went off on me like I am some stupid idiot. He totally ruined my day.

Answered by loulou11 on Jul 10, 2008, 03:35PM
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Exactly what stephanie said if people don't hear what they want to hear they tend to take it out on you and don't realize that you are being helpful and have really good advice. If this user has threatened you in any way I would contact an admin.(editor or thedude) and let them know about it.

Answered by dawnathen on Jul 10, 2008, 03:40PM
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No threats. He pretty much just told me how childish I was. I told a girl to watch the movie Juno with her mom because she is pregnant and doesn't know how to tell her. I wasn't trying to be funny or disrespectful towards her but he put me down for it. Another asked why do we get old. I answered, thats how God made us. Maybe sometimes that is a good enough reason for people. But I got put down for that also. He said I have a childish mentality.

Answered by stephanief987 on Jul 10, 2008, 03:41PM
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'dawnathen'...
If he was really rude to you - send me a FunMail with his user name and what he said. I will make sure a admin sees it - because what he did is completely unacceptable and those types of users don't belong here.

Answered by dawnathen on Jul 10, 2008, 03:46PM
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will do!

Answered by luret on Jul 10, 2008, 04:38PM
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you don't really need to worry yourself about what people say about you. As long as you know that that is the truth, then you don't need to worry yourself. You are not saying it for them to like it but because it is theTRUTH. I see you are cool. In life, you MUST have someone who os always a sadist to you. You just have to be strong and dont worry about what people say. Hope I helped

Answered by allmeroth on Jul 10, 2008, 04:45PM
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I love your advice you have helped me so much!

Answered by channy754 on Jul 10, 2008, 05:36PM
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I havent recieved any bad mails or comments yet, but true...its what the person wants to hear. Sometimes you have to think what you are writing. I usually comfort them and then bring on the bad news and then give an advice on how to deal with it...just to soften up the atmosphere. When people say 'Yeah. Thats bad..you shouldnt do that.' < You are bringing the negative vibe to them. To you, you think 'But thats the truth. You want an advice. Im not lying about it'. But sometimes its how to write it affects them. You ahve to be careful on choosing the right words cause they probably get offended or think youre trying to drag them down.

There are also a lot of immature people out there that'll just abuse you even if you are perfectly nice to them. Just ignore them.

katie xx

Answered by asdfjk on Jul 10, 2008, 07:39PM
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I think you give great advice. Don't worry about it.

Answered by dawnathen on Jul 11, 2008, 08:26AM
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Thank you all so much!!!

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