I've never had an orga**m.

I'm 21 years old and have been sexually active for 3 years, having two different long-term partners. I've been dating my boyfriend now for 8 months. I have a problem though , I've never had an orga**m of any kind! I've discussed it...

with close friends , but have only ever had reactions like "oh my gwaaddd are you serious??" "what can't you even do it by yourself?", none have offered any help! I feel like my boyfriend does EVERYTHING right when we are bed but it just doesn't happen! I can't even do it myself! I'm starting to get extremly frustrated about this, its really upsetting my boyfriend and to be honest I'm just jealous that I've never experienced it! Is it possible that I never will be able to? I really don't want to think thats a possibilty but I have heard that some women just can't?
What do I do???

Your org**m problem should be simple.

Relaxation and enjoyment is the key.

!st we are going to stimulate more than one erogenous zones.

Puchase a long latex flexable double dildo. If you need to stimulate your eyes you might add a good adult video it might help. Even with out it the dildo will do.

After a little stimulation have your boyfreind go down on you working your clitoris lightly with his tongue and mouth relax and let it feel good. Using his fingers he can slide in one at first then maybe two and work the inside of you as well while his is stimutating your clit. Feel how good it feels mone and or move your hips a little to take in his fingers enjoy. Now after this stimulation have him slip the dildo up in to you a little then a little deeper move your hips to let it slide in deeper move your self up and down on that nice long dong sliding inside of you while he is still loving your clitois keep this action up and you will receive an org**m if you enjoy it with your boyfriend. because you g spot and your clit are being stimulated at the same time. For an even bigger thrill have him slip in there with your new toy. But that can be for later. Watching a good video to get you started this can help the stimulation affect on more erogenous zones enjoy.

Remember just relax and let it flowwww it will work it in and out while he licks your clit.
You can even have him turn around and 69 you so you can suck him if you want.

Let me know how it goes its natural but beware your first org**m using this method will be very intense don't stop let it go and scream let you body shake and convulse you will enjoy I promise.

If at first you don't suck seed try try again. Just let it goooooo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It sounds like you and your boyfriend are working on this together and that's good. However, now it seems like it's become a MAJOR ISSUE for you both and that's not good. Org**m does not work well under pressure.

1. Are you having sex in a safe [to you] enviornment? Not at the home of parents, etc.
2. Are you using a lubricant? It might help.
3. Have you told him where you do like to be touched, that feels good, yeah there, stuff like that? He's not a mind reader--guide him.
4. Right now because this has become such an issue to you both--put org**m on the back burner. For the next two weeks, just play with each other, touch and feel, explore, talk and explore some more. Just enjoy each others body without having a goal in mind. See where you get.
5. You need to tell your Gynocologist [you do have one, right? With yearly pap smears?] your org**m problem. The doctor can check to see if it is anything physical. It may just be a hormonal level. If it is physical, it can be fixed.
6. If it is not physical, then ask the doctor to recomment a 'sex therapist.' It's a legitimate field and has helped many.
7. Look into the following books. They can be found at Amazon and Ebay. Lou Paget: "How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man to Know"
Betty Dodson: she has books and video.
Julia Heiman: book "Becoming Orgasmic."

I've never heard of a woman who sincerely sought org**m who didn't find it.

Good luck and blessings. . .
Lou Paget's book

Now I am no expert on orgasms but I know I dont experience through sex. However I do tend to experience orgasms when my husband fingers me. Maybe it is something you would like to try. It might not happen the first few times especially if your partner doesnt usually do this to you. He will have to develop the skill. From personal experience - the faster the better.

Yo,you can holla at me then . I will get you all the way there with no problem. Im serious too.

Really hey? And how would that be =) ? Please share your secrets!

The best thing to do is learn about your body and how it works. It took me a long time to understand what an org**m is and how to acheive it. Some women seem to find this out rather early while others search for it a bit longer. Mas*urbat*ng is the best way to find out if you tend to be more stimulated by oral sex (clit) or by penetration. When you have learnt to please yourself it becomes much easier to acheive orgasms with someone else. It's important to have fun while discovering your body and not to feel that you are abnormal just because you haven't quite figured it out yet. My first org**m came when I let warm water run on my clit in the bath, maybe you can try this or stimulating your clit with a vibrator. The best is to have lots of foreplay and trying different positions while having sex. It's all about relaxing and enjoying yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself. Learning to acheive orgams is an adventure that can be fun. It may just take a bit of time and playing.

I also have the same problem, except I am married. I've had four sexual partners in all, and yet I have never been able to orga**m. I can't do it myself, with a vibrator, or in anyway. I don't need lubrication, because I get extreamly wet, and it has become a major problem for me and my husband. I don't get any sexual pleasure period, I have come close so many times, and right before it is about to happen it goes away. For me to find a sexual therepist is hard right now, I'm in Germany because my husband is in the military. Finding doctors like that is next to impossible for me. I feel like I have run out of options. We have bought several books, and yet nothing has helped. If you actually do get your orga**m, please fill me in on how you went about doing so.

Help.. I'v had orgasams but I started this myself at a really young age. I'm with my partner we'v been together over 2 years now. I'v faked it so any times but now I just want to sort it out. I'v never had an orgasams with my partner. even when we are have sex I help playing to but nothing works. I only have an orga**m when I play with my clit, see thats it if I play I will have one but thinking about it I'm not sure if its like the orga**m could they be baby orgasams?? Hope some one can help

If its not a medical problem then go for the clit. You have to mas*erba*e to see how your body feels. A man cannot help unless you tell him what feels good. Most of the time{not all} its in the clit. When all else fails see your Dr. You have to get your man to go slow or fast it depends again on how your body feels. Does he listen to You???? Thats important. Take a night alone and just do sex nothing else. Make sure you are rested and have taken a hot bath {this should help relax you. Do not rule out oral sex on you unless you think its disscusting. Hope this helps if not email me I have a few ideas to pass on to your man.

Wooooooooooooooooooooooow! That last comment sounded like something they really know about. I appreciate the tips. I have had an org**m and it was the first time!Keep working at it amd eventually ir will work out. try what the last person sid and tell me of that works, tho.

I've had three sexual partners and I've only been able to have an orgasim with my husband. I think this is because I feel free to choose my own position. I actually can only have an orgasim if I'm on top. It may be the same with you that only a certain position can work. Since it seems that your boyfriend is willing to help in this search then try varying positions and you may find one that works best for you.

Hope it helps